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[thisisria]

It's crazy how I always find out about things I never knew I needed. I always HATED the sound of dishes, but I never thought about bamboo ones or these mats. Bright lights always stress me out, but I never thought about just switching them off and using lamps instead. I guess society had always taught me to just 'act normal' and suppress my needs, maybe that's why I never thought about these things. Thank you so much, you really have helped me a lot <3

[soon_to_emerge]

I always struggle with time blindness in the shower, so I started to play the same song I know by heart that lasts long enough for me to do everything (it happens to be exactly 10 min long lol). It is so much better than timers. With timers I never know how much time I has left, and then panic when it suddenly hits. Familiar song is much better with navigating me in time.

[moonchild]

PLEASE don't charge things on your bed. I work at a fire dept and have seen dangerous fires started that way. Stay Safe.

[plurbaybee]

I just want to let you know that an entire group of autistic adults have been like "oh genius" at getting dishes that don't clang when I shared that fact from one of your other videos. Even though we are all adults with kids of our own, we never thought we were ALLOWED to just do that. >< So we thank you, and my ears thank you.

[whisperess]

From another neurodivergent with cats: there are air purifiers with lights that change color when the cats have done their thing. Very handy for those of us ”out of sight, out of mind” folks

[NightmareCastleCat]

When i go to shower at night i enjoy doing everything at once in the shower: Wash my body, Wash my hair, wash my face and brush my teeth. I feel a little bit like in a car wash but after i just need to dry myself and then im done. I love efficiency

[DavidSmith-vzuu]

I really like the idea of the bamboo dishes to eliminate clanking noises, I jump or get anxious when my mom does the dishes, thanks for the tips on making a sensory friendly home.

[BexMcInulty]

these are great ADHD hacks actually, I'm an interior design student and recently got diagnosed with ADHD and some of these are things I have done to streamline my own home

[micahroberts]

Fun fact I learned today: "alpha wolf" is not actually a real thing! The dude who observed "alpha" behavior, of both male and female, wolves in captivity later realized that this does not occur in nature. He apparently spent decades trying to clarify to people that he was wrong and even went so far as to request his publisher stop publishing his book that made this false claim.

[faithsaenz]

Fellow autistic woman solo in her first home! I got some great tips for this so I’m sharing some of mine with you in return lol: I also am constantly forgetting to eat or finding myself too burnt out to walk to go get food, so I always keep cute little baskets of snacks in my office, by my bed and by my couch with fruit and nuts and protein bars. That’s been a game changer. Also similar to what you said with the dog food, when my dogs tell me they need to go out, I make it a rule to go myself first. So that way they remind me to go. They stare at me and judge the whole time but I just remind them I’ve got to put on my life jacket first 😂.
Thanks for sharing! 💛💛

[mosaic]

hey with the feelings wheel, you might also like Lindsay Bramans' emotion-sensation wheel. it's like the feelings wheel, but instead the outer ring has bodily sensations (e.g. tight jaw, racing heart) that correspond with different feelings

[ixacross]

As someone who is neurodivergent and probably autistic, I can't wait to be able to afford to live alone. My roommates are very nice, but I think my life would be much easier and less stressful if I could control whether or not there are people in my house, as well as feel comfortable to make my little sounds and be completely myself.

[Breakfastwitch]

A roomba has been a gamechanger for me! I can schedule when it vacuums so I don't have to remember and it's so much quieter than a normal vacuum.

[PregnantWithKittens]

Love this! But, as someone with animals as a special interest, I feel the need to inform you. Alpha Theory is incorrect. The idea was formed from watching groups of captive wolves in enclosures too small for the number of wolves living in them. Aggressive hierarchies emerged and scientists assumed these behaviors correlated to wild wolves, which they don't. It's really interesting!

[ipyanaarchie]

My son is 2 years old and is autistic. You actually helped me understand a better way to organize my house in order to keep a sensory friendly environment for him based off hearing the way you organize in order to stay on track. My son is sensitive to almost all of the same things as you. Especially the clanging of dishes and vacuum cleaner. Thanks so much 😊

[alisonwright]

A tip: wear ear plugs inside!!! It's SUCH a relief for me.
I'm considering buying 2 extra pairs that can live in the bathroom and kitchen because that's usually where I'll end up needing them and not having them close by

[sumeveruakn]

A huge thing for me was accepting that it's okay to need different things compared to other people. After being told my whole life (25 years is a long time) that I'm too lazy or not tidy etc. enough, it took a long time for me to realize that it wasn't actually on purpose. To realize that it's okay that I can't stand white walls because they make me anxious or that my apartment is "messy" in some areas because I need everything out in the open. It's not weird, it's just who I am and that's perfectly alright. Living alone has been a journey of self-discovery and learning how I can work with my brain and not against it. I also mainly use lamps, but I can't stand concentrated small light sources of any kind. Sadly, that includes fairy lights. As soon as they're close to me, the light just blinds me and it's just painful. From afar, I really like them, but not up close.

Also: I share your love for mirrors. I don't quite understand what it is about them, but I definitely practice facial expressions with them. I've just accepted that now, but it used to make me feel self-conscious and still does sometimes. It's as if I was afraid of breaking a rule or sth, especially prior to finding out I'm autistic

[flite]

One of the things I find really interesting about autism is how broad the differences are within the spectrum.
E.g. Paige has the TV on for backgroiund noise - I find that really difficult to deal with. Paige needs to have different hacks to remember stuff - with me things stick in my head ot the point they drive me crazy until they are done. I suspect my partner exploits that by putting ideas about what "need"to be done and then she knows it will drive me crazy until it gets done, so I'll do it (she supports me in so many other ways, I don't resent this - I'm not sure if she conciously knows she is even doing this).
And I don't need everythingtobe visible ot find stuff. I remember where every thing is. People say your office is really untidy how do you find stuff. And for me the obvious answer is it's where I put it. It doenst move unless someone moves it- its natural for me to just remember where pretty much everything I care about is. If I don't see/thing about/use something for say 6 months I might start losign track, but usually it will take a couple of years for me to forget exactly where something (I care about) is.
As I say I find irt fascinating how different the needs and abilities of people on the spectrum are.

[michalahardin]

I struggle so much with bathroom routine and no one has been able to help me. Having things out, decreasing the number of steps, and reminding myself of whst needs to be done every time I'm in there are legitimate things I can apply. Thank you!

[learninglive_brokeninchro]

I’m not Autistic, however I suffer from Chronic pain, Chronic illness, and an Traumatic Brain injury. This was actually really helpful for me to see. Since all this happened to me I’ve had to have full time caregiving, so my mother moved in with me and helps me. But still I struggle with simple tasks. Your ideas of leaving things where they can be easily seen is such a great idea. I love how you lay out everything so it’s easy to remember and use. Thank you for the helpful hints and tips.
Also, loved your ladle to scoop out the dog food! I hate touching the dog food and even wear gloves to scoop it currently. But a ladle would be so smart! Love the idea!