4 Signs Of a Borderline Personality Disorder Girlfriend

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Timestamps:
00:00 | Intro
00:03 | 1. Push - Pull
00:14 | 2. Dramatic interactions
00:27 | 3. Self Destructive
00:48 | 4. Extreme bouts of Rage
01:10 | NPD vs BPD
02:30 | BPD in Action
04:05 | The future of diagnosis
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This video will help you quickly understand the most common 4 traits of borderline personality disorder, specifically in a girlfriend; as well as the differences to be expected between CPTSD, BPD, and NPD
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[billbirkett]

I hate ending up as the BPD's favorite person. It's like you're being asked to adopt this person and baby them, and then reparent them. They have no understanding of how friendship works and they end up ruining every relationship they have. And then you feel bad for having to walk away, but they just wear you down.

[Ikecantstop]

I've been dating someone with BPD for 5 months. We breakup every 10 days or so. I'm indifferent now - I'm sad & don't want to see her with anyone else but I'm just flat lined exhausted.

[johnfsutherlandv]

I was with a girl who I’m certain had borderline personality disorder. I know she was bipolar too. My life was nonstop drama with her as she always accused me of cheating on her even though nothing of the sort happened. I left her after she hit me while drunk which was common with her. My parents told me to leave her and stay with them as they didn’t want me to hit her back which is probably what she wanted and would have gotten me arrested. She drank herself to death a year later after a costly divorce. I’m now married to an incredible woman who I love with all my heart. I still can’t believe how much time I wasted with that demon girl. Steer clear of the dramatic types as they will suck the life out of you. Never stay with anyone who brings you down all the time. Live long and prosper 🖖

[misssaiwasn]

sharp and crystal clear analysis of the distinction between CPTSD and "real" borderline personality disorder, a distinction I am silently flabbergasted that mainstream psychology and subsequently trained therapist seem not to get; at least in the country I live in.
I have a relative and a friend who are diagnosed with BPD who clearly do not suffer from a personality disorder but from serious CPTSD due to childhood abuse - while I was also blessed with a husband who, obvious to me, portrays the full blown borderline personality disorder but, of course, has never been diagnosed because, as all cluster B personality disorder types, would never go into therapy because there is no self anymore that would be able to notice that there's something wrong with them, not with the world around them.

I fully agree that the largest part of patients diagnosed with BPD do not have BPD but CPTSD, while those who do, are rarely diagnosed.
Living with someone with CPTSD is watching and experiencing a person who's sadly and tragically been seriously wounded emotionally, while living with a real BPD person feels more like living with a psychopath, with somebody who is justifying and masking his/her sadistic, goal oriented destruction (of self AND other) with an out-of-control, over the top portray of emotions in order to obscure and get away with what they actually are doing. .

[Pvppy_dramz]

I was diagnosed with BPD at 17. You are totally correct on the narcissistic elements of BPD. Alot of other BPD's would disagree and I'm not speaking for all BPD havers, but me and BPD's I've talked to did very much manipulate and emotionally abuse our friends, family, and partners. This occurred mainly during episodes and if we are untreated these behaviors and emotional outbursts are unfortunately in our nature due to childhood trauma causing an emotional stunt or genetics.
Unlike narcissists it's done out of fear of abandonment and delusional thinking/emotional instability or "splitting", instead of grandiose beliefs and domination over others. We also do feel empathy just in a different way then normal people, narcissists feel little to no empathy. Not to say narcs can't get better because they can, they also have deep rooted Insecurity and childhood trauma and they use these toxic behaviors to mask the inner pain and keep themselves alive.

Ofc saying all that if you are in a relationship with a BPD and they don't want treatment or aren't engaged in treatment DO NOT THINK TWICE.. LEAVE ASAP.
Also protect yourself legally, financially and physically, Even if we are in the wrong when someone leaves us our brains think abandonment and it's extremely painful and drives us crazy. We typically do very crazy things to get you back or get revenge because in that moment we can only feel our Intense pain we have no logic we can't grasp that our actions have consequences we just do what our emotions tell us to do. It's unfortunate and it's a terrible way to live but it could be very dangerous for you.

[Kristen-]

I hate having BPD ! No rage, no shouting, no crying just intense

[manonroy]

My oldest sister has 8 of the 9 traits. I can’t have a relationship with her and have been estranged from her for over a decade. Growing in a household with someone with BPD was absolutely traumatic. We didn’t understand what was wrong. Maybe it was us… were we the ones triggering her? It wasn’t until I saw one of your older vids about BPD that it became clear to me what we were dealing with. It was completely validating. Thanks for that! ✌🏻

[katherinel]

Therapist here - I have also worked through a lot of my own issues w/CPTSD. Your videos have been a big part of that. The “baked into the cake” analogy re the spectrum of personality issues is a super helpful analogy! Thank you.

[mranon]

I would also add that BPD people tend to talk absolute trash about their past relationships and LIE A LOT all the time, and manipullate people with push and pull and making them feel guilty, etc.

[tiffanystrand]

The ex narc insisted I had BPD for years… it was actually cognitive dissonance and since we split and I got out of the cycle of toxicity, I am finally returning to who I was when I met him. Thx so much for these videos! It really helps me understand I actually was experiencing CPTSD.

[korie]

My exhusband was diagnosed with severe bipolar disorder but he honestly presented to me as boarderline. He has personality crisis every few months, I felt like he couldn't decide what role he ever wanted in our relationship, and was so codependent that he couldn't even pay the bills on his own.

[artrequired]

I’m BPD. Sounds right. I’ve gone to therapy DBT so my symptoms are less severe and I’m self-aware. Like Richard says it doesn’t “cure” the BPD, but does help manage symptoms to decrease self harm and decrease “accidental abuse” of others when they witness raging or self harm… things I work hard on containing.

All I have to add is that the need for safety and security often conflicts with who I am, a free spirit. Doesn’t help that I’m comorbid Bipolar 1 disorder because it makes me feel even more dependent on my abusive family.

My mom is NPD and I have always made friends with other narcissistic women since. I am a professional victim because I didn’t know how to say no. Now I do and it’s made all the difference.

[theoriginal]

Not 100% sure if this did bring the desired clarity that you were going for! Helpful and informative, definitely, as always. I believe that the video you did outlining the axis of entitlement, the true difference between borderline/chaos, narcissism, and the miss diagnosis of BPD, which is generally complex, PTSD, childhood trauma, and abuse. There needs to be that choice Towards evil, the ongoing decision that the men or woman is entitled to whatever they want to take from other people, and generally, there is a sadistic pleasure that they get just from causing chaos as well as real harm. Relationship harm, financial harm, verbal, emotional, spiritual harm. I think when they have a propensity towards physical violence is when it’s bleeding into more of the NPD/ASPD. But I fully support you and would love to know if there’s a way to encourage a movement towards more correct, accurate and thorough diagnosis the way that you have outlined it… How does one go about that? Endless research funds, or is it just writing books and continuing to educate the masses and the professionals about it? Lay people with extensive experience with cluster B monstrosity disorders, especially with psychology backgrounds, seem to have them less lucid and cogent understanding an exposition of these disorders, how they actually impact and how we might Look at them in a new and more comprehensive way. Love you, Richard, thank you for your life saving work!

[donnatassa]

Wow, this!... I had always thought my second to the oldest brother had borderline personality disorder because when I read about the subject I immediately thought of him. You're right about it being baked into the cake. No matter what medicine or help, friends or family support, he always blamed everyone for all of his problems. He was very manipulative and calculating to get what he wanted, then turn on you. To add to this he has also suffered a brain injury ( highschool football) a serious concussion and developed CTE. Recently he went to live in a motel even though our father had bought him a house and there he shot himself in the head on March 17th. We did what we could but it would never have been good enough. I still did love him very much despite all of his problems. I pray he is finally at peace.

[nickbargas]

Very interesting. All this time I was in understanding that DBT was a treatment for BPD but it makes sense that personality disorders are not treatable. They can manage some of the behavior but the disorder is always there. Before I understood cluster B personality disorders NPD, BPD, HPD and APD I often confused BPD as bipolar. Now I'm well aware how they very much differ. Personality disorder vs mood disorder. If I only knew this when I was younger!! Better late than never. Thanks you!

[jessipanda]

4:00 oh hey, it's me! 10 years ago I met 9/9 BPD criteria. Now that I've gone through somatic experiencing therapy and ACT, I meet 1/9. Still nailing down my own sense of self and feeling comfortable in that way, but that's to be expected after a lifetime of trauma that included a childhood of being screamed at every single day.

[slytonesthe]

Please do more videos about bpd girlfriends/recovery from. Really helpful. The more insight the easier it feels to work on healing.

The most painful, confusing, difficult, unstable relationship. Impossible to ever truly get through to them about what they are doing.

[katee]

My poor dear son took his own life from his ex BPD & histrionic-Targeting him to get his inheritance. Vulnerable after the loss of his father. Cruel woman is a nurse! Rip HNMS

[nedrickgrundy]

You have the most clear cut understanding of these things man. Between you and Dr. Grande I've, as well my own overall research, I've been able to really get a grasp of these fine details. BPD is one I've had a hard time understanding, but it needs to be understood better.

[lindahawkins]

The label that society slaps on you in your reaction to abuse, does NOT make you the label.