The Hidden Truth Behind A Narcissist's Projection

🔥 *One-on-One Coaching With Christina*

Whether vulnerable or grandiose, you'll notice that narcissists love projection. But by nature, anyone who is projecting doesn't really know what they're doing. They're hiding something from the world and from themselves. In this video, we explore the big secret behind a narcissist's projection as we talk through concepts like reactive abuse, narcissistic rage and how to handle projection.
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*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

[emmarae]

Listen to what they call you, it's about what they think of themselves.

[maxsmith]

They will also tell on themselves by projecting onto other people what they’ve done…. Trying to cover their shame/guilty conscious. It was them not me.

[nathaliedufour]

I wish more therapists had your knowledge and understanding of NPD, this devastating abuse. Thank you ❤

[izawaniek]

This is exactly the case. Projection is the narcisists favourite defense mechanism. They throw all of their unresolved issues on us, so we must refuse to take those on. Every adult must be responsible for their own healing. Thank you❤

[monicaparker]

Something I've tried is, when I've said no to my ex and he starts the projection blame game always via text, I copy his text, put his name in the 'you & you're' places & my name in the 'I & me' places. Then read it back to myself. It's very validating & shows that he knows exactly what he's doing to me...or used to do to me. Now, I don't feel the need to explain or defend myself. I just say simply I KNOW.

[aliceroberts]

I got called a liar for years it was because he was the liar . I was telling the truth. I wish I would’ve known all this a lot sooner

[D______]

Projection saved my life. I had no idea what a narc was while going through the toxic relationship for 17 years. When it was ending she called me a Malignant Narcissist. Being curious as I am I looked it up. Bingo, light bulb on. I'm now happily divorced. Thank you Ms Narc!

[NeurosparklyWolf]

I have grown to enjoy the company of manipulators. They reveal to me exactly who I do not want to be around nor get close to or share with. All the enablers around them as well who fall for it... I know exactly who I keep at arms length

[jasonlogue]

My ex was trying to project everything onto me after I cut her loose, like she did every time we split up and I took her back. I'll never make myself look like that fool again. The smear champagne started about a month ago and backfired. I didn't have to defend myself or even try to smear her back. Mutual friends and family have been reaching out to me since they were able to see through her lies. I thank God for showing me I'm not alone. I'm done with her draining my energy. #chosenone

[louisegarner]

"Feelings are punished" explains why they have trouble feeling positive emotions as a set point. Thanks, this is very good information. I'll rewatch and take notes, I haven't heard this described so well and loved your Titanic examples, I can relate to how Jack met his end and why ... 😬💐💖🕊️

[jazelise]

I have a mother and father who are narcissists. My mother loves to call me evil and selfish when I don't want to do something. I know that I'm not evil nor selfish but that she is projecting onto me. I'm still learning to set healthy boundaries with her and learning to ignore what she says to me.

[ZonyWest]

The narc tried projecting his flaw on me, and it pissed me off! I don't play when it comes to my character. That did it for me. Getting number changed etc.

[annaburns]

Why is reacting to the abuse called “reaction abuse”? The reason most people suffer, are humiliated, and become victims is because we aren’t allowed to even react to this kind of abuse. When did society change to where victims were being punished for trying to defend themselves? No wonder this kind of abuse leaves people afraid and shells of themselves. I’m tired of society telling people to leave when they have no where to go. Support systems not wanting to get involved and even blaming victims for asking for help. It’s time we stand up for ourselves. “Shame makes us feel completely alone” because we are. Shame comes from a society that allows this to go on because society is for the narcissists. It’s letting the narcissists win. If you can stand up for yourself and not feel bad about it or shame for it, —which you shouldn’t because you are doing the right thing—then you win. (Even if it is a reaction.) Always believe in yourself.

[Holly-dn]

It's more than projection. Toxic relationships require a partner who is good natured and reliable. There has to create a balance. The toxic abusive partner is continuously off balance. They are constantly throwing their poison around the world literally and the more healthy partner who wants to have a good relationship is the sponge literally sucking up all of the toxic partners behaviors against them and others. This helps the toxic partners cope with life it's required for them to have someone in this role making them look good. They will project everything on you and accept no responsibility.
You have complied without knowledge while balancing the scales. They are almost completely unstable without you.
One day you will look in the mirror, will barely recognize yourself because of the garb of someone else's bad choices.

[gregarmstrong]

I had so many examples of projection but nothing beat the last time I saw my ex. We were lying in bed following an unusually nice weekend together and she started crying (in her weirdly fake kind of way) and said that she knows I'm about to leave her and replace her with someone else. The next day she raged via text message at me about something completely benign I'd said and that was the last time I saw her. It was only a few days later I realized how obvious the projection was.

Anyway, I'm much better off now and I know it but that was a harsh blow. She inadvertently told me exactly what she was planning to do. I think she did feel a lot of shame about it and the next day the final text message bombing was accusing me of all kinds of things that she'd also obviously been doing behind my back. Projection is a crazy thing - they tell on themselves.

[iamgoddessoflove]

Breakups can be a blessing in disguise! It's not always meant for makeup, but rather it ends in order for you to wake up! So instead of trying to fix something that is broken, start over to create something that you will attract better.
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[mylesmcilwain]

I’m two years out. Divorce still pending. Lingering sadness that never seems to go away..

I hope everyone finds peace. ✌️❤

[LinauLee]

Your show & Dr Les Carter’s YouTube videos are helping me see a bit clearer every day. Thank you deeply!
hUgz, Lee

[angiemcleod]

Mine was pretty simple and for that I’m grateful. Last relationship was just acting in ways to create jealousy within me then telling me I was jealous and overreacted to things. Very subtle. So subtle I would have missed it (and did -started researching jealousy and trust issues now realising at first that it was all to do with him) but the signs were there that it was projection. Healthy relationship partners work together to resolve issues. narc or not unhealthy people blame and project the issue onto the other person without considering their role (his role was ‘accidentally’ trying to trigger jealousy). It took a few weeks away from him to see what was happening. If they give you space, use it and be grateful because that’s when the clarity arrives. I’m grateful it ended when it did but still working to understand why I ignored all the red flags. All the best to you all and thanks Christina x

[june]

This actually makes a lot of sense to me now. The day before I found out about covert narcissism, and the last day I saw my ex wife (she discarded me a few weeks before, I was hoping to try to make up that day), she accused me of emotional abuse, which baffled me. Her examples of the alleged abuse were so minor that the only reason I recall the examples she gave, were because of the overblown reaction when they occurred. Her shame response was off the charts.