Projecting Your Personal Shadow | Dr. Steve Mortenson | TEDxUniversityofDelaware

[MichaelEisbrener]

I was taught, from earliest memories, 'what you like least in others, you like least in yourself.' My dad said it to me almost daily... I was upset often... and it was always true for me. It was a long time before I recognized what I LIKED about others was in me as well. Great talk.

[wonder]

I realized after my entanglement with the narcissistic bf that where I complained at him about his irresponsibility, selfish, apathetic, spontaneous too often, just didn't care, I was the extreme on the other side. Unconditional positive regard for others, give give give, super responsible, share share share, communication...he was the sucker punch that made me reflect that I needed to balance these extreme areas.

[NewEarther]

“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

[milestegg]

So I need to look at my fear of not being the the good guy by being helpful and not being kind to myself and respecting myself, my desires, and my needs by setting boundaries and giving my self the right to say no. Also to admit that I alllow myself to be with people who hate me and want to hurt me by being polite. By acting passively and wanting to respect others over myself I am self-harming-sabotaging my joy.

[jcronin]

That's the best description of shadow work and projection I've come across online. I really appreciate this talk.

[evolvingthedarknesstarot]

We learn from everyone we cross paths with. Be open minded to everyone because you might miss a wonderful lesson.

[fabiocaetanofigueiredo]

One of the best lectures I have EVER watched 👏👏👏

[kale]

Thank you for this, I've had trouble understanding the shadow and this was the most helpful video I've seen on this topic.

[tsvetclips]

One of the best projection explanations on this platform. Thank you, sir.

[jswawr]

Best explanation I've ever heard of this concept. Extremely insightful and helpful. Thank-you, Professor.

[jazzminegoddess]

I’ve seen several videos on shadow work as of late and this with the exception of 1 other video has been the best explanation of this very important process. I swear I avoided doing this for years because of the videos I would watch and they were incredibly confusing and did not recognize it’s importance. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU 🙏🏽 it feels like I found a pot of gold and can now truly obtain the life, spirit, and energy I’ve always wanted.

[Gloroxsocks]

I love this it makes me feel better about feeling judged by others, people often say to just not take it personally but it’s far easier to not take it personally when you understand why

[DansEarway]

“The shadow is a defense for children.. it’s a place to put things we pretend are not there.”

translation: peek-a-boo

[MadameWesker]

When he said learn to break a few rules I laughed but I get what he means. Touched my heart.

[rebeccagreen]

Thank you for the clear and interesting explanation. I've heard and read a lot about the shadow but it's mostly been either clear OR interesting and it's really nice to have both. The part about paying special attention when we find ourselves both irritated and jealous of someone was particularly helpful. Great talk in general

[mariasergheevici]

This man just gave me the answer I was looking for soooo long. Literally, made a shift into my conciseness. Thank you so much Sir! ☺️🙏❤️

[terrymoran]

So I must be afraid of being serious because I laughed throughout your lecture simply because it hit home. Makes perfect sense. Wonderful talk. Thank you

[frosty.berlin]

Wonderful talk Dr. Mortenson, I have been waiting for this talk for a long time now. You're just one of the few professors ever to seem to understand all people surrounding you and try your best to add value to their lives by helping them overcome their biggest fears.
I'm really proud that I was one of your students.

[pinkkcandiee]

Honestly I need more content like this, I am a child who suffered from mental abuse from my father, and his type a Personailty. I project so much of his negative energy but it makes me too cry like it is so unintentional. But hearing this is going to be part of my journey to help break the mental block. I want to destroy it. More why don’t I learn how to relax and be less type a and more of the person and, understand it’s fear.

[chrisclevenger]

I needed to watch this today. It clears much for me.