HOW TO SPEAK ELEGANTLY | Conversation Mistakes to Avoid | Speak like a Lady

Ladies, did you know people judge us immediately by the way we speak?

People can assume all kinds of things from our level of education, social class and how well or ill mannered we are.

In this video, I take you through 14 crucial points that you must take on board if you want to portray an image of respectability and class when speaking.

How we speak is so important. If you make certain mistakes, it can cost you the image that you have worked so hard to acquire.

Woman Of Elegance is a platform to help women globally become the best version of themselves. Founded by Vivienne Abena, a social etiquette and protocol coach trained by

world class Etiquette coaches.

Here at Woman Of Elegance, we pride ourselves on giving you invaluable advice that will help you in all facets of your life, from your lifestyle, Refinement and Etiquette.

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[africanTHEfire]

This is your most didactic video yet. The topoc placements and the instructions are so specific I actually was inspired to take notes. The tip about breaking the eye contact monotony was inspired! Looking away and pretending to cough etc . That's not easily thought of. And it is commendable you added that training is required. The same way a woman trains her body so it tapers and refines to what she wants it to project, so much more must she train for how her speaking conveys. Excellent video again

[adamola]

HOW TO SPEAK WITH ELEGANCE
1. don't use fillers
2. speak in a measured tone
3. vary your pace and tone
4. don't raise your voice
5. don't speak too much
6. maintain eye contact but don't stare in a bizarre manner/don't interrupt
7. avoid excessive use of hand gestures
8. avoid the use of slang
9. never use profanities
10. don't be monotone
11. don't be stiff. smile and be expressive
12. show your listener you are actively listening and not passively listening
13. widen your vocabulary
14. don't cackle with laughter

[anishgalhotanishgalhot]

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[gigglezillakids]

"...don't continue to rant on for minutes on end...people will start avoiding you." ITS SO TRUE! I avoid people who talk too much and don't actively listen. It's exhausting listening to people who talk and talk and talk. Thank you for this video!

[samanthamyers]

I'm 50 and I'm trying to level up every area of my life. Including my education. Thank you for this, it is so needed in this day and time.

[onevenus]

I struggle with interrupting others, I have recognized that but the reason I do it is because I know that I'll forget what I want to say in response to their conversation, so I have a little book to make notes in and share my thoughts during a break in our dialog

[MK-hhvo]

A lot of this takes me back to childhood. I was raised to be a "Lady". I would get punished for speaking too loud, using slang, improper grammar, sitting improperly, unnecessary running, bad table manners and a host of other things that were considered "unladylike". The other kids teased me for being "prissy" but as I got older I saw the value in being considered a "Lady". I'll always be thankful to mother. I've found it especially useful as a Black woman. Thank you for taking this on and teaching others the value of poise and presentation.

[Lafamiliavera]

As a gentleman, i must admit that “liberation” gave room to “degradation”. We pride ourselves in being free, but we have become slaves of a system that degrades us, reducing our self-worth. I love how you make it a point to incarnate elegance with your behavior and poise. Cheers to you!!

[bookbutterfly]

My father had a teacher that always said "if you find that you resort to swearing, that means your vocabulary isn't big enough".

I personally think that instead of swearing, it's better to take a second to think about the message you're trying to express. Obvious, but underrated tip.

[christanlawrence]

Please speak about the importance of (and how) to mantain elegancy even within your home. Many times we tend to lose that especially in our comfort zone - worst if we live on our own. Elegancy is not for show but it is a lifestyle.
~Jamaica🇯🇲

[dayramena]

“Most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand… don’t be this person” This truly spoke to me, thank you! I struggle with interrupting my friends so much, when I catch myself I IMMEDIATELY apologize and tell them to please say something next time bc it’s something in trying to work on.. but it’s still so hard for me I don’t understand WHY. I’m working on healing this toxic habit, and this video really spoke to me thank you!

[francesada]

I can't be the only one who listened till the end, because I love the way she spoke

[sonyaguadalupe]

Ladies remember not to judge others because that's most important!

[SusanNwokedi]

As a Public Speaking Coach and speaker, I agree with you 100%. I just liked, shared, and subscribed to your channel. I love it! Keep up the good work.

[Tues]

I am a guy, but I took a lot from this to practice for everyday speaking.
I had to share this content with three female friends cause I couldn’t be selfish to keep it. Thank you so much for this content.🙌🏾

All the way from west Africa Liberia, 🇱🇷 you’re my female mentor 😊

[overworked]

Listening is probably the most important element of good communication.

[castaway]

Absolutely love this channel! You don't need money to have elegance, manners are worth their weight in gold!

[OgemaryNweke]

Elegant women are poetic, and they leave lasting impressions 👏👏

[lovelylauz]

People interrupting me when I talk is the MOST frustrating thing! I am an introvert, so I don't talk about trivial items or chat just to talk - I have something to say. So when someone interrupts me, I register that as a sign that what I am saying is not interesting or they aren't listening to me. That is a great way for me to rarely speak to that person or keep what I speak to them about very surface level. I find it highly disrespectful to be cut off mid-sentence as though what I am saying doesn't matter. This video needs to be is most women's weekly video rotation. We can all be better at speaking and listening. Love the Hemmingway quote! Thank you for this rich content!

[minalld]

It all starts with being connected, invested, and present in your conversation. Most communication issues derive from focusing on the self, being listened to but not “listen.” It takes patience and availability. Emotional maturity is important in the process.