Do Narcissists Ever Feel Regret?

Narcissistic personality is largely based on fantasy and delusion, and those delusions are very fragile. They believe themselves to be perfect, special and flawless which generally means they think they never do anything wrong.

This video outlines and gives examples of when, how and why narcissistic people experience regret, and how they typically express it.

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[KBackStitch]

They only regret losing all that you did for them, not you the person. Never let these evil soul suckers back into your life.

[katesage]

Regrets (like apologies) without change is just manipulation.

[jackthisout]

They only feel regret about the discomfort they inflict on themselves. Their self is so large, it has no room for any self awareness.

[ginkgo]

It's amazing I think that people (like me) misread the narcissist's expression of what seems like regret. My ex-partner became very depressed over employees who were leaving the company he owned, (said he) because he sold it and they didn't like the new owner. I thought well of course. he was feeling sad that his decision to sell the company had caused such turmoil for the devoted employees. BUT, in reality, it wasn't the turmoil experienced by the employees that was bothering him. It was the thought that the employees were holding him responsible for their turmoil.

[DnKlove]

That exaggerated remorse is so familiar. My ex is Cluster B, more BPD with NPD, and whenever he was confronted with his past actions and behavior he "felt so horrible about it he wanted to die"... He managed to keep it all about him and then returned to repeating the same behaviors.

[familyandfriendsfuntimes]

The narc can feel regret but it can never be allowed to land on them or percolate through their mind as that would show them that they had got something wrong, or had lied, and that road leads to a very dark place - a dungeon where The Big Lie lives, that they themselves are a lie, a construct, a false self.

[blue.]

Short answer is no- they do not have regret over what they did.

[carnigoth]

Sorry I got caught. Also saying sorry for optics and not changing their behaviour

[shelleyj]

This was right on the money. My ex behaved exactly this way. Its so maddening and mentally exhausting to play this game with them.

[privateprivate]

One thing I’ve come to do, is to not have much of a conscience for narcissists. It’s not really their language. Sure, I may feign emotions, like grief, sympathy, empathy, etc. But, as they’re not feeling it, what’s the diff? I just won’t spend it on them.

[lindalarson]

That horrible ex of theirs....the one that dumped them....for their muppetry! Hilarious and yet, sadly true.

[AllkindMindToMind]

Yes, they feel regret, over losing their supply, when one of us gets out. •After 25 years, as a disabled senior needing to escape the financial trap, as much as the abuse, I’m out.
•After 2 months, it’s actually going better than I expected. Still exhausted, but I’m beginning to raise my head and look around. There will be other stages, ups and downs, I’m sure. But nothing can replace the experience of being out.
•One of the interesting freedoms has to do with the waste basket. That’s a funny thing to associate with joy, and relief. After 25 years of being told what I could and couldn’t throw away, and thousands of times 😖 being told what I had to throw away, and could or couldn’t own, now what I throw away in the waste basket is my own business.
•I wish so much relief and freedom for all of us.

[therealspixycat]

"Don't take it so personally"

[spaideman]

its true. once i confronted my narc brother about what he did to me, he said 'i didn't do it but i'm sorry you felt this way' instead of 'sorry for what i had done to you'... they never regret because they are self-righteous moron.

[ivonkwAn]

....they regret that they were not more careful, which cost them the loss of their supplier🫣

[fidelmashelton]

Thank you Darren so well said when talking about narcissists. They only care about themselves. Lack of empathy with these toxic individuals... It's all a game to them and one that they have to win. A covert narcissists once told me that...Unreal!!! 😮😳😶

[toots]

They’ll stir up a malicious attack between two people in an effort to destroy their scapegoat’s relationships and support system and then when they’ve decided they want something, in order to have a better chance of gaining what they want, they’ll apologise years later for their actions and start naming their demands

[Cres]

In the end, their regret is either meaningless words/thoughts or a thinly-veiled hoovering and a late 'n lazy attempt to draw you back in.

[yvetteandjorgenlarsen]

Any apology you get is going to be more about you and less about them. Be sure to listen and read between the lines. It'll be more like "I'm sorry you feel that way, -" not "I'm sorry I made you feel that way."

[RositaHuff-yxbg]

…I have the feeling you know my sister very well!

….hahahah