7 'NICE GIRL' Habits ALL WOMEN Must Break! | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

Mat Boggs shares relationship advice for women and 7 "nice girl" habits all women must break!

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Let's talk about "NICE GIRL" habits that give men the wrong impression.
Your new man doesn’t see these overly “nice” behaviors as a positive sign. He sees them as proof that you don’t respect yourself enough.

Want to find out if you’re being too nice? I'm sharing the top 7 nice girl habits with you today, so you can recognize them and move away from giving the impression that you’re anything less than the beautiful, powerful woman you are.

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As a sought-after dating and relationship coach for women and international speaker, Mat Boggs has helped thousands of women understand men, improve their relationships, and attract the relationship they want.

As the best-selling author of Project Everlasting, and creator of Cracking The Man Code, Mat Boggs? dating and relationship advice has been featured on national media including The Today Show, CNN, Headline News, Oprah and Friends, and many more.

Mat's Mission: To increase love in the world, one heart at a time.

As a dating coach for women, Mat believes that your history does not determine your destiny, and that you are more powerful than any circumstance you are facing. The relationship dream in your heart really can become the life you love living!

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[laurelmalinowski]

I’ve rooted out a lot of men by having boundaries. And when I haven’t set boundaries things have felt wrong. So stick to your boundaries, ladies.

[Bigred]

We are living in a sad world, when it's considered to be " bad" when you are just a kindhearted, helpful person 😔

[tracymoss]

This is not just about attraction. This is about respect. If you respect yourself, he will have to respect you to keep you. You teach people how to treat you. You can be kind and still be assertive.

[thekatigaming]

Former "nice girl" here and omg your points are spot on! I used to do all of those in order to feel like I was attracting someone, but all I was doing was hurting myself and ultimately hurt my self worth and self esteem. I took some time away from the dating scene, and recently got back into it. A guy I was interested in just kept bringing up sex constantly and he didn't respect my boundaries, so I let him go. It took me years to realize my worth, but I don't want someone like that in my life. I have myself and I have been able to see my worth

[kaoutartalbi]

1- Saying "yes" to the instant relationship
2- Canceling your plans to accommodate his schedule
3- Try to get him to like you before you know if you like him
4- Saying yes to sex before you're ready
5- Investing more in the relationship than he does
6- Giving undeserved second chance
7- Self diminishing behavior

[HekateCirce]

I'm sure Mat's intention generally is for women to do their inner work via his teachings, and this is overall solid advice. My only issue with it is the complete lack of mentioning of the deeper-seated factors usually responsible for such a behavior in a woman -- like the fact that women who behave in the way described in this video are typically doing so out of a profound association with the fawn survival response, which most likely had been picked up early on during the formative years. Make no mistakes -- something extraordinarily disturbing has to happen to a person for them to begin operating under the fawn response. This response is commonly associated with Stockholm Syndrome, so there's that.

And we haven't even mentioned attachment styles yet... so much of the described in this video has to do with an Anxious attachment style, maybe even a Fearful Avoidant attachment style. Here's the issue with taking the advice given in the video without doing deeper work: it's a recipe for heartbreak. I know many women who ARE anxiously attached, and thus ARE genuinely hungry (even desperate) for connection. Because connection with others is their ultimate agenda, these women would do anything to ensure people not leaving them. They would hear the advice in this video and simply mimic it, without attempting to do any deep healing around it. They would take Mat's description of a self-respecting woman and sell an illusion of themselves being that, misleading the men they're with into thinking they are one thing... when in reality what they're about is something entirely different. Then, when one of these men finally finds out how clingy his woman actually is (and secretly has been all along), he will feel misled. A lot of women only reveal their attachment wounds AFTER marriage, when it's too late for the other person to back out. And you know where it goes from here... heartbreak, divorce, separation.

Instead of simply mimicking this smart advice, I would recommend actually doing DEEP inner attachment work, so that you actually FEEL like you aren't desperate for a man's attention, approval or whatever else. Faking it is not enough. If you are operating under the fawn response, constantly "people-pleasing", it is because you had gone through something disturbingly traumatic during your formative years. Believe me when I say, no one is born dysregulated. Our early traumas are what cause us to misalign. Heal from deeper inside.

[_Morri_]

To sum it up: don't be a doormat. Solid advice for both men and women.

[aviatrix]

When I was dating my now husband, I remember telling him clearly that I didn’t believe in sex before marriage and that if he disagreed with that, he needed to think about whether he wanted to continue dating me because I wasn’t going to be bending the rules. He never had any girl tell him that before. It helped that we had already established a friendship but he said he had no choice in the matter (I was my own boss). He respected me for standing up for myself and told me so. I never went out of my way to force someone to like me; it never felt right. The more I stuck to my standards, the more quality men I attracted. There are too many boys out there in need of training but we ain’t their mommas; it’s not our job to train them into gentlemen.

[chantellewilson]

Ladies this is true it’s called being a high value woman, you always put yourself first. you are the one person that you spend your whole life with . “He’s got to earn the right” on point 💯. Great video

[gwortman]

I realize that all I really have is myself and I am of the most importance in my life. This enables me to take great care of myself spiritually and physically. I radiate with love and desire. Smiling is extremely important to me and it actually changes chemicals in the brain to support self love and acceptance. I am 61 and have so many men asking me out...all you gotta do is love yourself and the floodgates open to a river of possibilities.

[lynne]

This is I always had boundaries in my younger years, but because of age I relaxed them and exhibited some of these behaviors mentioned in this video to keep the peace.
Let me tell you, I ended up in the worst relationship of my life and I’m 37. He had absolutely no respect for me or the relationship. Every women needs to listen to this..multiple times!

[suliu]

This is exactly what I need someone to tell me! I'm confident and attractive to many guys when I'm single, but as soon as I start a relationship, I dimish myself in many ways!!! Let's break all those 7 bad habits! Thank you so much Matt.

[Yellowroseintexas]

Put yourself first ! If value yourself, he will value you ! Don’t let him ever put you down .

[charlitaschuster]

I am glad you did this video. I always think highly of myself . Just recently I was dating a man and we went out on two dates and he was very upset that I was not willing to be touched and kissed by him . Finally he asked me to have sex. I told him that I don't encourage in any sex with a person I don't even know. He never came back So happy I have high expectations for myself and make me frist..

[SoniaAlese]

People-pleasing isn't always just "a lack of confidence" though, in many cases it is something developed as a response to childhood trauma. Kids abandoned may become overly pleasing because they are desperate for someone to love them (they feel unlovable). Kids who are abused (physically, mentally, emotionally etc...) need to become "empaths" and always pick up on others' upset feelings, needs/desires and try to make them happy, because growing up they had to keep their abusive families happy, otherwise they would be beaten or have other bad things said or done to them. And sexually abused kids struggle most of all with extreme people-pleasing and struggle with saying no to sexual situations, they don't know how to set boundaries- and let's be honest here, so many men are super pushy when women do set boundaries and make it difficult to say no, because they continue to try to talk you into sex after youve said no and come up with all kinds of reasons, yet they just don't stop. It can be understandable if someone has been hurt in the past they may be scared and give in more easily and be over pleasing/accomodating. I am not saying there may not be some women who just enjoy sex though and simply want to. But he seems to miss this big point that people-pleasing and lack of good boundaries is usually from trauma in childhood (which affects 30% of the US population was abused as kids). They are just so used to people-pleasing everyone, they end up with people who are users /not good for them often too. I think the best advice would be to tell them to go to therapy and work on their issues first. Then they truly can break free of people pleasing or as you call it "nice girl syndrome"... just my 2 cents on the topic.

[grazsts]

I went through a specific issue in the beginning of my relationship with my now 7 years partner. Everyone said "you have to accept this, he is not going to stop it. You are being unrealistic". I stand back evaluated my values and said: no, I don't "have to" accept a behavior that hurts me. If this is so important for him, than he is free to go, because it is not the man I want to be with.
For short, know your value, set your boundaries. And if the guy is unwilling to respect you, he is not the guy for you.

[fpitts]

MAAAATTTT....This video is a must see for all single females. It is the holy grail of relationship videos!!! I've finally come to learn men don't get emotionally attached to the physical & sexual attributes as much as they do character & boundaries. Thank you for positioning us for success🔥🔥🔥

[wa]

Because I was the oldest girl with 6 siblings and my natural personality wants to be of service, I've had a hard time saying "no". I'm better now, at age 71, than I was at 19, but it's still a challenge, so Mat Boggs' advice is helpful to women of all ages. And yes, I'm dating a delightful man but I'd like to make sure I date "better" than I did in the past... LOL Thank you, Mat!

[blueu]

Guilty as charged. Another important thing is that being "nice" doesn't make one a "good" person.

In fact, most often, "nice" boys/girls will eventually have a lot of unresolved anger and resentment. We don't say what we want to say, we don't prioritize ourselves, we are not assertive even when required....and all of that leads to a weird discomfort building up inside. It makes us vent our anger on someone close to us (our parents, best friends, kids, etc). Or worse, it turns some of us into sociopaths.

This is such an important video for young girls everywhere!

[edennis]

#5. If you feel like you have to push in order to maintain or push the relationship forward, then he's just not that into you. He's wasting your time. Let it go. I speak from experience.