The EASY Way to Text Girls on Tinder, Hinge or Bumble

📑Outline
00:00 - Intro
00:43 - This strategy has worked for 22 years
02:24 - My planned final message
04:04 - The 3 things you need to close online
08:25 - Messaging her first…
09:35 - Standards.
11:36 - Finding out, not sure
13:30 - Comfort seeking
14:32 - “Challenge accepted.”

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[CarloRizzante]

Men's strategy in dating: a 12 books encyclopedia. Women's strategy in dating: Swipe left, swipe right.

[ron]

Bro said “it isnt complicated” then gives us a long ass breakdown

[nikolozkiziria]

5 to 10 times more dates, 0x5x10 = 0 😬

[mynewname]

From a female perspective. Make sure you ask us out early. Too much messaging leads to boredom and we will be swiping elsewhere. Go for the date! Show confidence.

[marioottaiano]

This video is essentially perfect also for cold approach, not just online dating, lately Todd is absolutely killing it

[randomname]

Bro, I'm taking notes... Getting a degree in physics has been easier than going out with a girl

[aluumina]

Timestamps and summary:

2:24 the planned final message is (i.e. the CLOSE): "sounds good, my number is ####, what's yours?" You need to make your messages get to this point.

4:04 The 3 key things to close a girl:

1) attraction (fun, assertive, values in line with hers, physically ofc)
2) comfort (let her get to know you a little bit at least, have some personality)
3) commitment (mention plans before your close, or at least the CONCEPT)

Note: after these buckets are filled, close. Time matters since she has more options than you. If you can't then move on since you're wasting both of your guy's time.

7:48 The usual order/strat:

open -> attraction -> comfort -> commitment -> close

8:24 Example (hinge): (responses and my full analysis + notes)

Tips:
- don't kiss her ass and bow down to her and agree with everything she says
- seed the plan early on. Be creative.

HINGE CONVO
prompt: the way to win me over is witty banter and intelligent conversations
todd: I feel like you copied off my paper for this test ;)

analysis:
- Interesting response, it's not boring. it makes you stand out.
- Being cocky (you cheated off MY TEST) = showing a bit of attraction (since it makes it seem like you're close, after all you're cheating off of each other)
- playful, non serious attitude, esp with the ;) at the end
- plays to the prompt


girl: in this case we'll both past the test with flying colors
todd: perhaps i'll take you for a celebratory drink as long as you don't copy my order and blindly agree with everything i say all night

- keeps the playful attitude
- plants the 'seed' of a hangout
- a bit of push pull: let me take u out for a drink, but don't copy me and blindly agree (implying a bit of dumbness but in a playful, joking way)
- Push: tells her 'you still have a standard to meet' with "don't blindly agree" (this is a qualifier - like she has to EARN a date with me)
- Pull: I'll take you for a drink (adding more attraction)
- She accepts the frame here too, with you leading and her following

girl: maybe if you let me order first I'll blame you for copying me instead
todd: only if you have very good taste, but i suppose it could be fun to find out
- comfort (she can joke around) and commitment (plans are set) are good now, the aim is to generate more attraction
- this is a shit test. the response still keeps the qualifier - i.e. you don't give up your frame or power.

girl: i have a tendancy to go for less common items on the menu so be forwarned
todd: i prefer the tried and true best over the flavour of the month in drinks as well as companions so perhaps we'll be good in all areas
- her response is comfort - i.e. shes letting you know a bit about her
- todds response is basically reciprocating her comfort, letting her know a bit about you, and also saying "I don't 100% agree with you, but i have values and will stick to them and they may align with yours"
- reciprocating comfort: ensuring you'll stick around, it's not just a 1 night stand/for sex, etc.
- note how this message reinforces commitment because it still talks about the plans indirectly

girl: sounds wonderful, what are some of your tried and true methods in drinks as well as companions
todd: I can't say it's particularly sophisticated, but i like wines that are a little bit sweet and fruity and mixed drinks with champagne. (100% logical, no game). As far as favourite companions, maybe i'll introduce you to some if you prove to be one also
- this is a comfort seeking message, like "i want factual comfort with you"
- she's looking to see how you respond, and if you'll stick around or not
- give her what she wants (logical response if shes asking for it).
- wow that last sentence is amazing. the confidence it takes to send something like that, without fear that it'll scare her off is... wow

girl: challenge excepted
todd: the closer
- you send the closer when she shows attraction (she likes you), comfort (she wants to meet up), and commitment (let's do this soon vibes)

[prashunpcchakraborty]

Todd I have been watching your videos for years and my game has improved a lot. During the video I was testing myself with my responses, compared to yours, I still feel like I'm a novice, truly a master of the game man. Respect.

[Viewable]

Todd,
this is a great example of using subtext and frame control in communication.

[joepic]

One word answers. = unmatch. Silence after trying to set up a date. = unmatch

[spRas_]

Fun convos. Thats the key right there. Its less about what is said and more about how they felt saying/ hearing it.

[flashpeter]

Todd is like Neo, when it comes to dating - he sees the code - whereas I'm still wondering around the matrix trying to make sense of it:) haha

[viktore]

10 years ago: Hey ! Youre beautiful lets hang out
now:

[Texas]

Todd, good job on putting out a useful video with actionable info instead of just a teaser where you reiterate the video title for 5 minutes and say "if you want to learn the steps I said I'd explain join my program."

[erich]

Depending on your natural ability this can actually be quite difficult. The fact it requires over 15 minutes of explanation I believe is a testament to that fact. The only real take aways I got from this are don't ask to go on a date right away, unless you can somehow cleverly wrap the suggestion into a challenge where you're not actually asking. Then to somehow frame that conversation within the framework of the same challenge until you provide your number then ask for her hers. That's not easy for everyone, including myself. Assuming it's successful, the next question becomes, if you're out on an actual date are you still expected to keep communicating like this in order to maintain her level of interest in you? I could not keep up a facade like that indefinitely.

[anarchyking]

I feel like being on a dating app for 22 years is opposite of the outcome of being on dating sites in the first place. I guess success on dating apps is based on what your looking for and not a forever partner

[Grimmers]

If it's worked for 22 years, then it sounds like it hasn't worked.

[PIXYBoy]

I have been following Todd since almost day 1 and what he says he is true. BUT holy fuck. When it comes to online texting, why should it be that we have to have these well-thought-out clever lines with these fickle girls. When i approach one outside I just say 'hi', smile and talk to her normally, which works very well. Do that online and they instantly unmatch because you didnt follow the protocol of talking to the female online. So my strategy is just to talk to them as i would to the offline girl as a filtering system. If they didn't unmatch it typically means I got one that doesnt have a short attention span and values getting to know me, versus having to be entertained. Luckily i dont hv to rely on online dating apps as it would drive me fn mental

[witchreturns]

Todds texting looks very thoughtful and very complicated to me, but it's his style. It's not my style to think that much. I feel like going with the witty dictionar of lines with me on date

Yet, he's right, from a few texts, you can get the date. Mines are way shorter and more dumber, more simpler, but they do the job. Everyone has to find their own style, but they don't need Ph.D!!!

What I learned is that if the girl wants more confort, she will ask the questions to get to know more about you. However the way to get good at this is trough a lot of trial and error. You need to do it a lot and take risks, to learn, some classes are not gonna be enough

[jacobknox]

Used this today and it worked exactly like he said. Got a date for next Thursday after talking on the phone. She will show for sure. You need to think creatively though and pay attention to what’s missing attraction, comfort, or commitment to make sure all are there before you close. Took me 8 messages including my opener. This process makes so much sense yet I never thought of it or heard of it in this way before. Todd do you have a patrion or PayPal I can donate to? Your advice is always spot on and I’ve been using it for years.