People not to fall in love with: a checklist

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[hearttalkscoach]

Summary: look out for name-calling, blaming, and shaming, all indicators of manipulation and lack of boundaries. Do your necessary work to become the type of person / partner you want to date

[BatmanSays]

We all have flaws . But someone who doesn’t want to acknowledge their flaws and unwilling to work on it …… well we can’t save them, love can’t save them .

[glendino]

it appears 99.9% of people aren’t to be fallen in love with

[Newthinkin]

Despite our awareness of the pitfalls and patterns in love, we still succumb to the same mistakes. It seems our emotions override our rationality, rendering emotional intelligence ineffective when we're in the throes of passion and love. We're inherently emotional beings, vulnerable to the whims of love.

[alexxx]

So, basically, nobody? It feels like I haven't met a person that didn't have at least one of those "beautiful" traits.

[bethmendoza]

This describes perfectly my parents, therefore myself also.

[joannegild]

No human is a “good person” or a “bad person.” There’s good and bad in us all. To love, one must be able to forgive.

[P..]

If somebody is negative and judges you, then that person does not need to be in your life. The issue I see with men is that women don't accept you, yet you try to do things to gain acceptance.

[TheSoundofTanay]

If more people actively chose to follow The School of Life, many of us would be single right now.

And perhaps that would be a wonderful thing for the sake of humanity.

[zupergurkan]

Is the title supposed to be like that?

[daianadavidson]

So it isn't worthy to fall in love with me, got it 😂

[KyriakosChri]

There must be something wrong with the title guys.

[emmaroberts]

Be careful not to BE this person either🥹

[engorilese]

Damn, I could never be with him ... Torturous.

[mpozad]

A refreshing perspective development over the previous, 'You will marry the trauma you are most familiar with', and 'We are all crazy in some way, just put it on the table at the first date'.

[WhitneyDahlin]

My grandma used to say it's just as easy to fall in love with a bad man as it is to fall in love with a good man. (And this goes for all genders too) Meaning that if you meet someone who has major red flags or is it a bad person. Just distance yourself from them. It's not even worth it to give them a chance because it's just going to bring you pain. And it's going to be it's so much harder to cut them off after you've gotten attached to them. Don't let yourself fall in love with someone who's a bad person. You can't change them. And it's not fair of you to get into a relationship because you want to mold the person into someone you want.

[bevonostro................]

Not only should you NOT pick them to love, they are also terrible neighbors, drivers, employees, board members, bosses, or political candidates.

[aanelejj]

First of all we should check in with ourselves to see if we possess any of these traits - if so working on them, becoming better and healing is the right path to go
How else are we supposed to have a good, generous relationship not just a romantic one, but really any relationship if we are not the best, self-aware, versions of ourselves? If you want the best for yourself, a peace of mind and a healthy mindset, you gotta create that for yourself first

[ai]

POV: We all check several of those points...

Being mutually delighted by one another sounds great, though. That's what I'm striving for.

[yonilmachado]

1. People who have no sense of how difficult they are to live with.
2. People with a heightened belief in their infallibility.
3. People who will, when something is pointed out to them, quickly chose the occasion to simultaneously inform you that: "It's not as though you're perfect either".
4. People who will label any criticism of them as 'rude' or 'offensive' and contrary to the rules of true as they define these
5. People who deliberately drive you to the edge of frustration then say : 'why are you getting cross so suddenly?'.
6. People who smile and say, 'I get it completely now; I'm going to change', and then go back to repeating the same thing.
7. People who combine an exquisite talent for upset with a greater talent for sentimental apology.
8. People who will flirt with others and call it 'a little bit of fun' and label you a pride for minding.
9. People who will mess up your house and call you 'anal'.
10. People who will prioritize time with their friends over time with you and call you 'controlling'.
11. People who tell you you're imagining things a lot.
12. People who harbor a background grudge against your gender.
13. People who are furious with a parent and don't realize they are.
14. People who can't forgive anyone who thinks better of them than they think of themselves.
15. People who claim desperately to want a relationship, but are inwardly so committed to distrust, isolation and self-hatred that they are in no position to really have one and don't know this of themselves.
16.People who principally associate love with the pleasant feelings they register when you are nice to them.
17. People who don't realize your time is very, very precious.
18. People who are far too in pain to know how to want the best for you.
19. People who refuse to do the necessary work.