The Science of the 36 Questions That Help People Fall in Love

A study that included 36 questions which can allegedly be used to fall in love with a stranger made the news rounds a while back, but the actual science isn’t that simple—and falling in love was never the point of the questions.

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[kisakisakura]

And once again it is proven that openness and communication are the ground that relationships are build upon.

[BriefBrainSnacks]

So, just yelling all of my personal insecurities at the street corner is not effective relationship building? Noted.

[jerry]

I have a feeling the researchers only made the questions to get free wedding cake.

[SharonKenny]

As a matchmaker I feel these 36 Questions help couples lower their barriers faster and through self disclosure a bond is built. It can also take away awkward silences and be a bit of fun. Loved the above. Well done :)

[NewMessage]

Ok.. how many questions for a one night stand, though?


Asking for a friend.

[gibboustime]

QQs: Why Can We Not Forget Things we _Want_ or _Need_ to Forget?

[nomarsenrab]

"..most psychology classes were 70% women"

I've had classes where I was like 1 out of 3 or 4 guys in undergrad. Because of this I got to be on the school brochure for the psyc program.

[dholmes]

There’s a musical about this with Johnathan Groff(King George in Hamilton and Melchior in Spring Awakening) called 36 questions and it’s absolutely amazing! I wish more people had heard of it

[grannykiminalaska]

Yep, win a persons heart by being a good listener

[NewMessage]

"You can't just start shouting things about yourself at people."


I refute your claim with a resounding "I like turtles!"

Your move, PsyShow.

[Terrik]

This seems like a pretty "Duh" type of thing to talk about. However, I am very glad it is backed up by legitimate science and peer-backed experiments.

[KB-zoky]

I have done the 36 questions with all my friends...I did not fall in love with any of them

[zamith]

Me and my boyfriend did this on our 1st date. We've been together for 3 years now :)

[angelcarrillo]

I was expecting a Match.com sponsorship plug in somewhere in here.

[Ceelvain]

What are those 36 questions?

As someone who struggle bonding with people, I'm rather interested. Even as just an inspiration to build upon.
I mostly fail to understand whether people are (or not) interested in pursuing a relation with me.

[timewalker]

The way to get friends, for ya all nerds..

[Japanthewoman]

I tried the 36 questions with my husband to try and help reignite some feelings of intimacy in our relationship but I didn't feel any closer to him by the end. It did help me understand my husband and myself a bit better. Unfortunately that understanding is that I am not with someone with whom I share my values. I mean, we're working through it. I know I won't get that original exciting lustful feeling back. But I hope we can reach a level of mutual respect at wich it will be tolerable to stay together.

[poposlurpy]

Everyone should check out 36 questions:the podcast musical... It's really really great!

[sebastianelytron]

"Would you like to know the size of my..."




"...bank account balance?"

[RangerRuby]

There are so many ways to 'fall in love' and so many sayings as well. I guess it all depends on who the person is and what they are like.