The Warning Signs That Love Is TOXIC! - How To Find REAL LOVE | Jay Shetty & Lewis Howes

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[fanahamilton]

I love that, " Everything you want from someone else, give it to yourself first."

[hanasloupova]

In my point of view there is no toxic love. If its love then its not toxic. And if its toxic then its not love ❤

[honeybee]

Being honest with our partner can be tricky, ive been in relationship where i walked in with total transparency only to reliased later on it was used against me during argument and the worst part was i started doing the same to him just to get back to him. At the end i realize thats not the kind of relationship that i want to continue to be in.

[RouillierDisguised]

I had such a bad relationship with myself & life at the time of my 5.5 year relationship that it had to come to an end bc I could’ve receive the love that was trying to be given to me & I couldn’t give it back either. It’s been 3 years since being out of the relationship & it has really helped me see why I behave such a way when I am in one. Over these 3 years I’ve transformed the relationship I have with myself, which has helped me see life differently as well, & I can say that breaking up was necessary for my growth, even if it wasn’t what I wanted, deep down I knew the only way was to let the person who was “supposed” to love me go so that I could learn how to love myself, accept & give it.

I am a much better person now & I have lots more self-respect. I haven’t had a solid connection since this relationship, but I’ve never had a better one with myself before.

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[marmeg]

Bingo! Both people take care of themselves to be the best for themselves to be able to bring their best self to one another. Love it.

[nc]

I'm so glad I found this video, just started dating and to introduce vulnerability. I haven't been sure about it, but it's wonderful to know that I can talk about my ongoing healing rather than hide part of myself that I fear being judged about.

[shamshadtarmohamed]

Best response Jay to the question about toxic and conscious love

[Kristijunes]

I discontinue liking a man when he kept saying the dog he loves will be sitting on the passenger seat and the woman he chooses will be at the back. Like, I am also a furmom, but I would not want any person to be more less than animals. We were not compatible in that. Kindness is kindness, but robbing a human soul of the respect they deserve is such cruelty.

[sherryj]

We grew up always hearing I love you.

My kids have heard this from the time that they were babies.

Everytime we talk...we end with I love you.

[kris]

I can feel the healthy friendship love between these two. I like Jay's statment that we need the world with spiritual people in power. And we all know that, at least, in today's world money equals power. It's like taking a different approach, rather than having a scarcity mentality, like Lewis said, where you are either spiritual and poor or materialistic and rich. Why can't one be both. I join you guys on the path to a society where spirituality and wealth are tightly connected and interchanged. This episode as well as the work of two of you is a clear example of it 👏 ❤PURPOSEful life is also a path of happiness. Thank you, both!🎉

[SamSung-rvrm]

I m in that spot. Sometimes it takes great people to make a leap. Great people are gold in my life

[EMuro-wuuy]

Alot of us envision life in a certain way, and put the other person in a role that's not suitable for them. Instead of criticism let them know what you want from them.

[angiesaga]

Create boundaries, , healthy rules, make my partner aware of my healing, work on yourself first. Vulnerable, openess, and honesty, my Gosh, that's it! That is a councious love! I want that tyoe of ❤️. . Now, the worst kind of toxic love is, when they use everything against you after you trusted them with your Vulnerability and openness. 😢 That's not love . That's manipulation.

[melodydonovan]

Myself first, it is surprising how few people understand love and a healthy relationship.

[Nutritioneats]

Mind shifter, purpose driven humans making great impact and serving the world with love and humility:) truly grateful

[naughtysan]

I can’t wait for future generations to discover these videos.

[SMcGrath]

Love and attachment are two different things.
Attachment out of co dependency and past trauma allows room for toxic behaviours.

[theauthentictaste]

I feel immense pain on daily basis, I try hard to watch podcasts like this, read books about being present and all that. I still feel the pain. These things help me temporarily but I feel deep hurt inside deep pain and lack of self worth. I cannot avoid this feeling.

[KathyMcDowell]

I needed this. I have difficulty knowing what true love really is.

[barbyyakubu]

I think love in a relationship has no other definition than true or genuine affection towards each other . Calling it toxic love is because there was no love in the first place but lust and infatuation. That is worldly affection which mirrors itself as true love .
There is a thin line between love and lust. The former is spiritual and soul connects not dependent on fleshly desires but embraces you just the way you are and helps you evolves but the later is tangible and worldly . Its desires are attracted to physical attributes like looks, intelligence, pedigree material stuff etc. Because it is not deep connected, with time begins to wear off and losess its savour. This is when the person begins to repel you and starts becoming toxic because he is desiring more than you've offered .

But love is like old wine, the older and more distilled it gets the better the savour, desires and value. 😊✌