7 Signs You're Incompatible

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You never fail to inspire me Bern, thankyou xx

ninajones

We’re not compatible:
1. We’re in different life stages.
Yes definitely. We had a huge age differences.
2. Different definitions of loyalty.
Yes absolutely. Any type of suggestive contact and treatment toward any woman and having a wandering and ogling eye is a no no for me. But he said he’s touchy and flirty because he was friendly and was following a bunch if women.
Close and consistent contact with an ex who they still found attractive and cared for is a HUGE deal breaker for me. I don’t care. I want to be my person’s only love interest and nobody else’s.
3. Sexual barometers are off. He told me that I thought about and wanted sex too much but whenever I was with him he wanted sex.
4. Large gap in physical needs. No he was very very touchy. Which was good but there was such a lack of words of affirmation.
5. One partner has attachment and the other partner is avoidant.
Yes absolutely.
6. When you’re afraid to speak your truth.
I WASN’T ALLOWED TO SPEAK MY THOUGHTS. FEELINGS, ISSUES, PROBLEMS, MY WANTS, NEEDS AND TO EXPRESS WHAT I WANTED. I HAD TO BE LIKE THAT FOR THINGS TO WORK AND FOR HIM TO NOT GET MAD.
7. I WAS ONLY ABLE TO STAY WITH HIM WHEN I LOST MYSELF, I BECAME ANOTHER PERSON- THE PERSON HE WANTED FOR HIM TO BE HAPPY AND FOR WHAT WE HAD TO LAST.

Shane

The loyalty issue is huge for me. I have met a few men that said that they were best friends with their ex-lover/wife and couldn't understand why that was a dealbreaker for me. After all, they reasoned, they weren't actually having sex with their exs anymore, so that made it okay. But to me, continuing to share the emotional intimacy you developed as lovers/partners (which is very different, and far deeper, than that shared with just friends) with your ex while you are in a committed relationship with someone else is a betrayal and I do not want to be with someone who does not understand how disrespectful and hurtful such behaviour is (at least to me.).

To be clear, I am not talking about genuine friends that just happen to be women - never had any issue with that - and I do understand the importance of keeping things civil if there are kids involved. But to claim there is no difference between someone that you have only ever been friends with (even close friends) and someone with whom you have shared yourself in that deep emotional, spiritual and physical way that we share ourselves with our lovers, is disingenuous.

suzy

This was very helpful, I just started dating again and so far it's going good .

countrywoman

Thank you Bern ❤️
Appreciate your compassion for us to have meaningful and lasting relationship 🥰

lilibethnieto

I suppressed myself and felt horrible. I’m glad I spoke up eventually and ran off

Extremely controlling and not a nice guy. Thank god I’m free

Want a more warm open guy xx
I’m very understanding and want a gentler partner who is patient with me. ♥️

Ohkeh

Thank you Bern for the awesome knowledge 💫🌟🙏💓

sweetpea

Love these videos. Its mind blowing how being super conscious and awareness can be true to your own reality. I feel so free now that I left my ex and can be more intutitive to my true, authentic self.

audraoliver