Is My Ex Right For Me? Should We Get Back Together?

Hey guys, Breakup Brad here. I’m the leading breakup and relationship expert here on YouTube, and I’m about to help you figure out whether your ex is “the one” for you… a perfect match, your soulmate…. Or whether they’re actually not right for you at all, and it might be time to give up and move on.

Look, this is something we’ve all wondered after a breakup… you’re heartbroken and missing your ex like crazy, and those feelings tend to push aside any negative memories of your time together and your ex’s personality generally.

Question #1: Are you SCARED of life without your ex around?

I can see you macho dudes out there watching this being like, “Brad, bro, I ain’t scared of SHIT!”.... And some of you are maybe thinking, “LOL what am I NOT scared of??”

Well, let’s not kid ourselves, because almost everyone is going to feel anxious about an uncertain future. You and your ex became accustomed to one another, you became comfortable with the idea of having them in your life as “your person”, and then suddenly that’s all been ripped up and thrown out the window. Your reality has changed, and your vision of the future suddenly doesn’t look as realistic as it did before the breakup. That is a SCARY thought, and it’s human nature to be frightened by an unknown future.

Question #2: Did you and your ex HAVE a future together? Can you picture that future, and is it realistic?

Alright, this one is a lot simpler, but it’s also another one that can be tough to answer honestly.

Does a long-term future together with this ex, if you’re 100% honest with yourself, actually seem feasible and realistic? Were you actually likely going to be able to live “happily ever after” and be together forever, or was something going to eventually make that unrealistic?

Question #3: Would things be different next time around if you had a second chance with your ex?

As you may know from my other videos and my Ex Factor program, I don’t ever think it’s wise to read much into what your ex tells you were the “reasons” for their decision to break up. But some couples are just, for whatever reason, unable to break out of a toxic cycle when they’re together in a relationship.

Question #4: Were you always having serious arguments and conflicts with this ex?

Hey, we all argue with our romantic partner from time to time, and sometimes they can even get heated and last days… Studies have actually even shown that an occasional argument between partners builds trust and a romantic connection. Crazy, right? BUT… there’s a limit to what’s normal and healthy. Beyond that threshold, when fights get very bitter and personal or happen constantly and never get resolved, that’s bad news and unlikely to be something you can fix easily if you get back together.

Question #5: Why do you really want to get back together with this person?

The last question I’m going to cover here in this video is a tough one to answer honestly. But maybe, if you think long and hard, your answer might be something shallow or silly. I had a coaching client a while ago who, when I actually asked him this very question, he told me bluntly that his ex “gave the best blowjobs ever”.....

Seriously, that’s great and I am all for both partners getting sexual satisfaction from a relationship…. But is that really enough of a reason to get back into an otherwise troubled relationship? Is your answer going to be, “because we were madly in love and connected on a deep emotional level”.... Or will it be “because he ironed my work clothes and made great French toast”?

Just answer honestly and decide for yourself whether your reasons for wanting to get back together are the right ones. And if you do decide that you still want your ex back, and that you really don’t want to let this person slip away forever, you know where to get more reliable help and proven tips…. By coming back and watching more of my YouTube videos, signing up for my Ex Factor program, or registering for my 1-on-1 ongoing coaching.

If you now realize it’s time to move on and let your ex go… then congratulations on at least deciding on a path forward, and good luck!

Either way, be sure to click the subscribe button right now to show your support, and comment below the video if you want to chat. Thanks for watching, ladies and gents… Breakup Brad signing off, bye for now!

*** More from Brad Browning:

[sarahnasr]

Thanks Brad for all your videos it really helped me to get my Ex back and i am really happy now i asked you in former videos and you answered me and i really appreciate it :) Thank you you are the best relationship coach ever ;)

[ilovebosgc]

I hear a lot of people asking “Why would anyone ever want to get back with their ex? Just move on.”
I can’t just move on like that. I know that this person is right for me. They’ve treated me right and we had a strong, loving relationship. Something went wrong and I’m willing to do anything I can to change and fix that. It’s not that we’re lonely or just desperate for comfort. In most cases, we know that this person is the one for us. The one we truly love. Our soulmate.

[mithugenedhar]

50 days of no contact after broke up, and I'm feeling better now. And I don't want my ex get back to me 😊😊😊😊😊

[AlexFarleyMusic]

It's hard to remove the rose colored lenses after some time apart. The good times always are in the forefront of your mind when someone leaves your life. Digging deep and honestly asking the questions Brad mentions is hard, but if the relationship isn't fulfilling you both completely, why hurt each other more?

[trailerparkjesus]

The reason I lost my ex of 4 years is I was complacent and lazy. I was 19 a year and a half out of high school and I didn’t have a job, my ID, a license, or In college. I was trying my ass off to get these things but my parents lost my information TWICE! But then she dumped me and it fucked me up. I immediately moved halfway down the state to live with a friend and I now have a job and are set to be in college in January. I love her so fucking much man, I look at how rare and special the relationship we had was and how rare and special this woman is, and I just know I can’t lose her. She still talks to me alll the damn Time and does all the things we used to do minus the sexual and romantic bit. But I know I love her. I know I can be better, I already am better. But goddamn I want her back.

[baadimh]

I did no contact and she wanted to meet but I said I was busy let's do it another day
Then she said
I get it you don't have to explain it, just say you don't wanna meet with me.
Now I got confuse ?
How the heck I don't wanna meet with you and you ask for a space and wanted to break up ???
What should I do ? Ignore or say something? I don't wanna justify why I was busy

[gugstargwengu]

I've been doing a no contact for two weeks and he reached out at the end of the second week, now I'm really not sure if want to get back together with him. I first answered the call and was polite, he said he couldn't sleep because he wanted to see me and I initially didn't answer, told him to call me back, when he did I didn't answer. I'm not sure I want him back, not after the way I pleaded with him to be with me, I was willing to do anything to keep him, just not anymore. No contact has helped me alot in terms of healing, accepting and I'm now trying to move on. Your videos are everything! They have helped through out the process. Thanks Brad!

[peppermintcookie]

Is it a sign of anxiety whenever I look at my ex’s post on social media and my urge to text him? I get that feeling; the feeling is my heart is racing

[sifugurusensei]

Me and my ex had so much in common. We were both slow eater, neither of us watched the news, both didn't believe in marriage or having baby, non religious, both foreigner. I miss her laugh, her voice, her easy going nature, her encouraging me.

[lifewithnaveen]

Brad I followed u....it has been 3 years to breakup
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Now m married to someone else

[tjsurferboi]

Hey Brad. I found your channel about a year ago after going through the worst year of my life. My ex and I were in a toxic relationship.. I left and worked on improving myself and becoming the best version of my former self. I was pretty bitter but I realized I still loved her even though she cheated on me. In the past I would have been a basket case..resentful and going in circles. This time I took a different route by using your techniques and advice. She could see I was happy and improving myself on a next level. We have been talking for several weeks now without so much as a bad word. We couldn’t get through a single conversation without fighting.
She has noticed that Im a different person and is keen to work on us. Thank you so much man. You’re a legend!!

[AM-ywqt]

Yes, because we have a child together. 2. It can be but we’re both fire signs so I get mad easily and he doesn’t communicate. We’ve known each other for 15 years. 3. How can I see his actions? Do I constantly repeat what I need? He’s not emotional like me. 4. Yes because he used to hide his phone from me all the relationship. 5. I want my family together.
He cried this past weekend after being apart 18 months, that he’s willing to change and fight for me and his family

[CarolinaSanchez-bvdx]

Hi! I asked myself all the questions you said and this is what I answered: 1. I’m not scared of a life without him, I know I’ll be ok without him, I’m more scared of a life with him. 2. We have a future planned out but it’s almost impossible that it would work out. My family hates him. His family hates me. Same goes for our friends. And we might be living in different cities. 3. He seems to be serious about us this time around. Like I can sense the difference. But at the same time this wouldn’t be his second chance. Nor third or fourth. It’s like his 30th chance. So idk if I should believe what he says anymore. 4. We would literally have fights every day if not twice a day. And major fights almost every week. 5. I love him. Through all the pain he has put me through that man is my best friend and I want a future with him. I just don’t know if it’s such a passionate love that’s real with him or if I’m just stupid and trying to find the good in a bad situation. Help!

[alfaysal]

It's been a long since we broke up. At this point of life I won't feel bad to see her with a men. But it's been 3 years, we both didn't engage to any kind of relationship. We still talk sometimes and for the last three years I tried to contact with her and she never ignored. We had tbh some silly reason to break up. I've met with different people, but deep inside I feel she has always been the right person to me. I really do care for her.

[RibeYounis]

Ex has a bf and its been a year and a half after the break up . Changed a lot in my life and im comfortable alone and went on dates and etc but couldnt really go in a relationship and keep going. And here i am a year and a half later and still missing and i think in love with my ex. What should i do

[tanu]

Oh hi, long time ! Hope you are fine and Nice to see you again :))

[dbnviolin]

I really wish we met later on in life, deep down I still care. Even though we have insecurities and our own problems in life we still chose each other and worked those problems. In the end there was no way the relationship was going to last since we’re both in grade 11. I wish we can get back together I really do, but I’d rather not create more complications for her and myself.

[lifequotesarcasm]

hey Brad sir...you nailed it againn...i am very huge fan of have an urge with you that....i want to share some of my points of views with regarding to the videos...trust me i will not waste your time...something productive will came out after discusion..!! kindly think about that.
ps- i dont have any relationship issue...i just love to watch your video ur point of views and your practicle approach
lots of love and support to you and your channel...!!

[masonbruce]

I have a problem, and I actually came from a video on how to get your ex back using "Fear of missing out" or aka Fomo, but anyways my situation I'm in is instead of Fomo working I think she will just leave it at that, If she shes me thriving, she would be happy for me, she was so sweet and empathetic and was so outgoing, instead of getting jealous she would be happy for me, she might end up missing me but if she sees how much happier I am out of the relationship she would let me be because that's where I seem happy, and that's why I want her back so much, she was so different and special to me, in my eyes she was and is still truly perfect, and she broke up with me because she has lost feelings, I am also doing the No contact thing too rn

[givegodthanks]

I guess after watching, and listening to these questions I don't want my ex back, hope he doesn't want me either.