Have You Outgrown Your Relationship?

Have you ever wondered if you've outgrown your current relationship? Personal growth is a natural part of life, and sometimes it can lead us to question the compatibility and dynamics of our relationships.

In this video, we'll explore the signs that indicate you may have outgrown your relationship. We'll also discuss the common challenges that arise when we outgrow relationships. Whether you're questioning the love, seeking dating advice, or simply looking for relationship tips, this video will offer insights and guidance to help you make informed decisions.

Remember, relationships are meant to support our growth and happiness, and it's essential to prioritize our own well-being. Let's find the strength and courage to pursue the love and fulfillment we deserve.

#personalgrowth #relationshipadvice #relationship #outgrowingrelationships #love

Writer: Dylan Swanepoel
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Gabriele Garcia
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References:

Bridges, W., & Bridges, S. (2019). Transitions: Making sense of life's changes. Hachette UK.

Gere, J., Schimmack, U., Pinkus, R. T., & Lockwood, P. (2011). The effects of romantic partners’ goal congruence on affective well-being. Journal of Research in Personality, 45(6), 549-559.

Cowan, G., Bommersbach, M., & Curtis, S. R. (1995). Codependency, loss of self, and power. Psychology of Women Quarterly, 19(2), 221-236.

Chalmer, B. (2020). Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back. TCK Publishing.

Alsawalqa, R. O. (2019). Marriage burnout: When the emotions exhausted quietly quantitative research. Iranian Journal of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, 13(2).

[saunyamusic]

why does psych2go always come out with the exact video I need at the exact moment 💀💀💀

[ottitudes]

My dad used to say: "one of the most important things to learn in life is when to double down vs when to let go and walk away. dont loose time on things that arent worth it on the long run, but dont give up way too easy on stuff that actually matter"

[kymber.r]

I just had this conversation with my therapist today. She said “Is it possible that you can have a partner in life AND live the way you truly want? Yes it’s absolutely possible….. And it might not be with this one. Your spirit will die if you give up on your dreams to be with him.”

[LassBisharp]

I've had these thoughts for a while, because, when I first started a relationship, I was so happy, but later on, I started to feel kind of like how I used to feel before having one. I watched this video because I wanted to see if I could figure out for myself if it was time for the relationship to end, but now I know that isn't the case. While things in the relationship could be better, they're not at a point where the relationship should come to a close. Thank you for this video!

[whatevergoose]

As someone with an anxious attachment style these relationship videos help me realize that my partner isn’t going to leave me anytime soon.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Is the spark still there 0:45
2). Do you still share the same goals 1:49
3). Are you becoming (or are you already) codependent 2:51
4). Are you in different transitional stages 3:48
5). Are you feeling burnt out 5:25

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[avidhossanmansur]

Despite what you are thinking right now the chances of someone outgrowing a relationship is slim. Even if they have poor communication, compatibility, or both.
But what happens instead is people tend to grow distant from each other this happens especially to couples who don't spend or don't get to spend much time together. I've seen this happen multiple times to my friends and to a family member.
They live together or are even married but rarely even talk to each other and instead of spending time together or being intimate, they'd rather be doing something else, like watching sports matches with their friends which they don't care for, or binging a mediocre web series they don't even like.

But It isn't an incurable disease but the opposite is true. The spark that went out can be lit again and it will most likely burn even brighter. But it needs a little bit of effort from both sides.
First things first, they have to communicate openly and with brutal honesty, if they can't or aren't willing to they're probably better off splitting up. You tell me what's better, being in a miserable relationship or being single, happy, and possibly finding someone you'll click with?

Secondly, I'd say it's a good idea to start spending more time doing everyday things like getting groceries, going on walks in the evening, doing daily chores together, and things of that nature.

Lastly, The best way to keep a relationship strong is to spend quality time together and lots of it. You don't have to go to fancy dinners, or vacations, buy each other expensive things, or anything superficial like that (unless that's something you genuinely enjoy) just try to do things both of you enjoy. Just aim to bond and enjoy your time together instead of overthinking about things that may never happen.
Thanks for the read, have a damn good day!👍

[TDG]

In my last relationship I was so afraid that she would outgrow it. It turned out it was me who outgrow the relationship. Somehow I matured faster than her, and so my priorities changed. It was heartbreaking, but the best was to leave the relationship.

[NeverToMuch]

I just love how simple, cute your animations are. Even the facial expressions they give are so touching.

[jacobrydstrom]

After years of knowledge buildup, i feel it is time to move on from a relationship that doesnt have much of a spark anymore. I have noticed the signs early on after high school, after that it took a few years for the cracks to grow as the flaws on how i started all of this showed, it did not happen to a great extent until the pandemic hit back in early 2020. That is when things started to go downward for us. 3 years after that, im ready to move on. there is more to say but its a bit complicated to explain here. Long story short when starting a relationship, do not forget to learn the basics of the other person (favorite food, sport teams, hobbies, music, books, ETC) before a sparkless communication problem happens later down the line.

[rachelmccullough]

3:03 I was definitely in a codependent relationship. He has a lot of mental health issues, such as low self esteem and depression, etc. I don’t feel like I needed to be needed per say but I felt like I had to be there for him, be his rock but it did get exhausting sometimes. It could be quite draining to be around him sometimes because he’d start spiraling and I’d try to talk him down but he wouldn’t listen when he was in that state.

[matros]

Your words couldn't be more accurate. She moved to a different city for work and I was supposed to follow her the next year. The long distance mixed with the new work that left her completely burnout after 6 months and I've to admit it also lack of communication led to the death of a 6 year relationship. It is hard to watch your significant other in the eyes and not be able to see what you loved.

[armanddobson]

I am currently working on building a relationship with a girl i know and these are some good things to keep in mind. For some reason I can feel the pain of 'loosing some one' without having to have lost some one😢

[Leoo]

I think this idea of "outgrowing" a relationship is a fallacy. Its ultimately a lame excuse to just give up. Giving up is really what it is. I say this because we all literally constantly change. The couples that last forever learn to accept each other, compromise and always make room and time for each other. In other words, they consistently put in effort, and they both keep seeking peace with one another, so any lows don't last too long. It takes self-control and learning how to actually be a healthy partner and to look out for your partner's interests instead of thinking only of your own.

Granted, in the cases of a partner growing into a more healthy partner while the other partner is still stuck on consistent unhealthy and hurtful habits like drugs or a lack of self-control or something would actually be considered outgrowing them. That would be a legitimate use of the word.

I just think many people use this term as an excuse, when really they just didn't want to put forth effort and figured it would just be easier to leave. Or they value something else more than their partner at the moment like a job or money or a place or being single. People are allowed to do these things, but its better to be honest about it, rather than call it outgrowing.

[ArtHeartAlex]

I just. We just had a discussion about needing a break... I don't want it to end... but some of these questions and scenarios match up and it's tragic to feel and hear about. I wish I knew how to fix it

[NerdlySquared]

Everything teaches and encourages disposability nowadays, people’s connections seem paper thin.

[Duvstep]

It's both nice and sad that things don't last forever

[Siv_]

I sometimes blame myself because of the failure in keeping a relationship and I also sometimes resent my ex because he couldn’t seem to make adjustments for this relationship…. Now I realize I just outgrown the relationship and it shouldn’t be someone’s fault….we just grew apart

[dinodubin]

I have a friend of mine who i consider ive outgrown, but even tho i sometimes just wanna move on, in the end i always decide to stay and try helping him when he needs it so that he can grow too, havent regreted it yet

[CountessHysteria]

As a muslim, i was taught that dating was forbidden in my religion but i always wonder how are we supposed to determine who is the right person to marry? This video resonated with my point on why going straight to marriage doesnt work in the end. This is why I think we must date before deciding to get married. My parents were arranged and they always argue and barely show affection. On the other hand, I know that I don't really want to get married or date someone because I have my own needs and wants and things change between you and your partner just like this video says. My other reason for not having a partner is difference in interest between us, especially if the person is my soul mate. And we need compatibility, loyalty and kindness in every relationship. Honesty is also important. You can't keep up with your lies if you no longer love your partner just to keep them happy. Life is not all happiness and celebration, changes can be negative and it is okay to grieve for a little bit. I'm going to stop commenting now, bye!