6 SIGNS YOU HAVE OUTGROWN YOUR RELATIONSHIP | CHARLEY'S BLOG LIFE

As the years go by, we grow and we change. Our wants and desires from 10 years ago may be vastly different than what they are today. It is inevitable. Life happens, priorities change, and as we gain insight and knowledge, our world view changes as well.
Unfortunately, sometimes our growth can negatively impact relationships in our lives, especially romantic relationships. The guy or girl that you were at 25 is not the same person at 35. You basically outgrow people in your life, including romantic partners.

If you are reading this, chances are you have already realized that you have outgrown your partner, but are looking for some definitive signs. Here are the six signs that you have outgrown your relationship.
6 Signs You Have Outgrown Your Relationship

Your Priorities Are Different
She is an ambitious, career focused money saver, while he prefers to focus on his hobbies, spend money like there is a never ending pot of money, and bounces from job to job. While once on the same page, one person has grown and become focused, while the other partner has become stagnant.

Your Interests Are Different
He is a political junkie and a huge Star Wars fan, while she is into reality television and fashion. He wants to talk about the upcoming election, and she is not even a registered voter. There is a problem here.

At some point these two people became polar opposites, and started to lack commonality. One is interested in world events, while the other is interested in looking cute and taking selfies.

Nothing To Talk About
You know that you have outgrown each other when you really have nothing to talk about, or it is the same old stories over and over. It important to recognize that you have nothing to talk about because you have nothing in common, and you have nothing in common because you have outgrown each other.

You’re Bored
If you find your partner boring, you have outgrown them. The truth is that you find them boring because you now share different interests, are on a different intellectual levels, and no commonality any longer.

Different Values
Once upon a time you were both drinkers and into going out a lot. Now she’s a homebody, but he still likes to drink and go out a lot. She also likes to attend church, but he is a non believer.

Lifestyle and differing religious beliefs are big changes that happen as we grow and mature.

Different Goals
His goal is to have a nice family life with a few kids, while her goal is retire by 50 and then travel world. She doesn’t see kids in her future, and views them as a burden, while he sees children as a blessing.

It is hard to admit to yourself that you have outgrown your relationship without sounding like you are criticizing your partner or being judgey, but it is what it is. You should not feel guilty because you have grown and changed, especially if your growth has been for the better.

What are your thoughts on outgrowing relationships? Do you agree with the signs? When you outgrow a relationship do you stick it out or move on? Please share your experience!

[shelly]

Exactly what I needed. I've been feeling this way for many months but it's hard to let go because we love each other very deeply but are just in different places. He wants to build a family with me but I don't think we are compatible any more ):

[ssaha]

All points seems nice but i don't agree with different interest... 2 person can have different interest but they can similarly enjoy.. eachother's interest.. that's all

[preciousspringfield]

Everything she just said is what I’m going through.

[izi.z]

He want's to stay in bed late well into afternoon on days off sometimes talking for hours on end about nothing in particular. She'd rather get up at a decent time after a good nights sleep to do energy and breathing exercises and meditation routine together as a couple to help start off the day energized and feeling productive. She speaks in specifics and gives examples when making points to help him realize areas of possible growth and or drive the message home. He speaks in generalities and sometimes gets annoyed when she asks questions to better understand the point or message. She sometimes gives in to inertia but at times doesn't feel fulfilled by this theme in the relationship. Will this work for a fulfilling future? Is this a healthy compromise and dynamic or has one party outgrown the relationship?

[AlyssaADUBD]

This is a painful realization. As of right now I’m hoping my partner chooses to grow with me. We still need to have the talk, saying how I feel about the relationship. But it is very sad & hard when you envisioned a future with the person. At the end of the day you have to choose what makes you happy and healthy. I thought the points in this video was very good. Thanks for putting to light a topic that not many people talk about. I think the video can improve by using anecdotal examples. Thank you!

[thefemmefatale]

It saddens me that we broke up and maybe I outgrow him 😢

[rg]

I'm here bc I see this happening now

[joshuahickey]

You should be guilty if you have became family, more than lovers.