How to Find a Good and Godly Spouse - Gary Thomas

Couples often decide to get married for the wrong reasons—because they’re infatuated, feel sexually attracted, or feel very compatible with each other. But Gary Thomas argues these factors will fade away all too quickly over time and leave many married couples feeling stale, broken or unsatisfied.

Instead, Gary urges single adults (and their parents) to look for character attributes in a potential future spouse that are based on the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). Specifically, he recommends looking for someone who handles conflict well, who would be a good parent, knows how to pray, shows humility, who is a giver, and is a solid Christian.

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[jackjones]

"Character sustains sexual satisfaction in a marriage." What a great message for a time where moral relativism appears to rule supreme.

[rufiennaeem]

Such a powerful message and I wish someone would have told me but it’s never too late to make changes even when you are married.

[kstromm]

I wish someone had sat me down and told me this. I have never navigated something so difficult.

[sharilynledbetter]

Such a great message! I’m listening to lead my four unmarried children. “If only...” Thanks for wonderful instruction.

[NB-kyol]

Thank you for this. It not only helps me as I date but it's a reminder that if I want a Godly man I have to be equally as such. I've come across a lot of "Christian" men who bolt as soon as I tell them I will not have sex until marriage. It lets me see exactly where their heart is and I let them know right away so as not to waste my time.

[soliderforthelord]

That was an Awesome message for singles. Praise Jesus for this message. It has really blessed me

[anthonyadikwu]

Thank you so much FOCUS ON THE FAMILY. This message has made me better. Thank you.

[FletcherBoston]

This all sounds wonderful- and I agree 100%! Now where can I find a man who matches all this criteria?!?!

[aureliere]

So powerful! Thanks for this. I learned a lot.

[soy.ingrid]

😂 I’ve been thinking about buying this book... & this video comes up. (: also about to make life changing decisions... who to date! Thanks !!

[missrd]

He is so funny haha, I have been reading " Sacred Marriage" super serious and helpful funny to see the personality behind the author!

[oar-N-oasis]

Honestly listening this makes my heart very heavy but I would let my son learn this while he's still young. I wanted him not to have a same story like me.

[trinibwoyjr]

I love travelling and seeing all the different cultures and how some cultures are still focused on core family values. There is a channel Filipina Destiny that interviews ladies from the Philippines that are looking to meet friends that could develop into long term relationships. Neat concepts, I'm wondering how it will do.

[ruthvansandt]

30 min... uh my dads nickname was often Eeyore... but watch out for the over-enthusiastic ones too, make sure they have self control and are not controlling of others. Wish my parents had this, but then, maybe I wouldn’t be alive. Lol

[Smuggler]

48, never married, no kids….I’m done looking lol!

[citytrees]

Pre-marital counseling seems like it should be obligatory in this day and age.

[RSmith]

Only one way. They have to have two things:

1. They follow The HOLY BIBLE not they're desires; to the point that if they hate something they still do it because it's written.

2. They have faith based on miracle testimony so that they will never fall away from one.

Any other reasons could cause adultery out divorce. The above two will ensure they will be a GODly spouse even if they fall out of love with you. As long as they do not misinterpret The HOLY BIBLE.

If they marry you because you are just what they wanted it something similar then when you are not at all what they wanted they'll divorce, so only the two numbers above work. Ask old couples, of they didn't divorce anyone you'll hear something to the effect of they stayed married because of covenant or that just what you do or they don't believe in divorce, but never because they clicked well or because they loved them so .much

[MelissaRocks]

Great message but I’m 42. Got anything for us middle aged singles?

[kellyj.azania]

I've been married and divorced twice to two men, each of whom have been remarried for over a decade...the first for three decades. At the time, neither of us were believers. I became a believer a few years ago. Must I remain single? Does 1 Corinthians 7 apply to me?

I'm 56 with Lupus and other health issues. I don't want to live out the remainder of my life alone without a companion. I also do not want to sin.

[acharich]

12:43 PRISON MINISTRY..





....FROM THE INSIDE.. 😤🤣😤🤣😤

- @Acharich