ADHD Time Blindness - The Black Hole Explained.... 😱

ADHD time blindness is the tendency to not pay attention to the passage of time. It's a huge thing for ADHDers and our time blindness impacts our work, our relationships and can erode our confidence and reputation.

So why do we have time blindness and what do we do about it? That's what we're taking about in today's video.

Let me know if this is something you struggle with! As someone with high anxiety - it's not a huge issue for me, but I still have my days....

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[mohannad]

The “out of sight out of mind” thing is the worst, I sometimes forget my friends exist

[Chris-ntlk]

My adhd is having me watch these video on how to manage my adhd instead of doing what I need to do...

[ReadingDave]

Yes. My to do lists are graveyards of regrests. Good description.

[stewpacalypse]

I'm an engineer and often need to look up specs on materials or equipment. This task can easily become a time blackhole. I have a countdown timer that I just rotate to start at preset amounts of time. Whenever I need to look something up online I set the timer to 5 or 10 minutes and I'm out.

Otherwise, I'd spend the next hour checking out all the supplier's other products, reading their 'About Us' page, looking at the google Street view of their building, or checking to see what houses are selling for in that area.

[bjelfin]

I feel like I only have 3 time references: Now, Later (some far off time far, far away) and
OMG, I'm out of time, I'm late, I'm late!

[jacqueslee]

I am always in the future and I always think of how I did not accomplish my goals despite that I had all the time. My sense of time has always been as if I either flashforward or flashback, never in the present and never committed. I always start late and I have delayed everything from career, studies to exercising, completing games or reading books that I never did years ago and then I question myself how I got in the present and what I did.

[dianaosei]

The time tracking thing was illuminating for me! i thought it took me 10 min do my morning routine, but it actually takes 30 minutes.

[rananite]

The timer experiment can work the other way too: sometimes you’ve been dreading a chore - say, cleaning your toilet - and putting it off because you think it will take long to do. But then you start, and use a timer, and find out it took a lot less time than you thought… it was actually quick! So there’s no reason to dread it anymore.

I find that my mental image of how long something takes is more related to the number of steps in the task, than to the actual amount of time spent doing it. So while I’m in the act of: putting on gloves, pouring the cleaner in the toilet bowl, spraying the seat, spraying the lid, brushing the bowl… it seems like it is taking forever. But when I can see how much time has passed, it really hasn’t taken as long as it feels because each step is really so small! By contrast, when I think of something as one step, like I “just” need to make dinner… then it feels short but it ends up taking much longer in “real” time!

[JackClayton]

I don’t watch any personal improvement videos on how to get things done, how to improve such-and-such in your life, etc. unless they’re written specifically for ADHD minds.

[MarissaLaipsker]

I am so desperate to find a way to change the way that I look at time it’s affecting my life in every single aspect. It’s negatively affecting my family relationships, my friendships, my romantic relationships, my ability to be a successful as possible in the current nursing program that I’m in and I just need a way to change it and I have not come across more than just advice, rather than steps of how to work on this in the hundreds of podcasts that I’ve watched. However, your method sounds like a very useful way to begin the process.
I’m starting this time tracking exercise today. I will update you thank you for this.

[cateclism]

Whenever I concentrate on a specific task or thing, time appears to stop....that is, until I look at the clock!

[cordelianorris]

I've been time tracking my whole week in 15 minutes increments. I have a printed excel spreadsheet that I take with me and jot down notes of what I did a few times a day. It's fascinating and helps me see the whole week at a glance. It also helps me feel more connected to all of the events of the week and understand the ebb and flow of my energy levels

[WestwardTheWomen-bestmovieever]

I'm late to work every single day. Every single day. I think I've already been accommodated. I never knew it had a name!!

[bradyshannon]

Interesting Idea about documenting the time for tasks. I am often late for work because, I always think, Oh, I have time to inspect that "shiny object" that showed up 5 min before I should be getting out the door. The shiny object could be external or internal. So, I'm going to try setting a "warning" timer. Basically, it will go off when I need to prioritize actually getting my butt out the door, and serve as a reminder that, whatever the distraction is, it can be addressed some other time.. I hope this works, I could lose my job...

[mummie]

.... I've had to rewind this 3x because I zoned out😊... I'm going to attempt this tonight (I work nights)... 🙃

[ssgaffney]

It's hard to stick to these instructions! Restarted thw vid a couple of times. Lol

[eganfuego]

Just got diagnosed last week - 33 years old. Time blindness has been a revelation. I have found myself in a lot of hot water because I think a project will take 3 months when it actually takes 6.

[felix_xb]

Alternative system that might help some: use a simplified clock instead of regular time. Ideally with something that is able to interrupt you so you wont have to think about time, the system will interrupt you itself and you just think about time in the moment it interrupts you. It's not too unnatural, think about how the sun does the same thing if you actually stay outside all the time (the sun doesnt have hours, just a set few important positions).

Example: starting from the hour you want to wake up set an all-week alarm at 90 minute intervals (I use greek letters, so "Lambda Time", "Xi Time" etc), each alarm with its own abstract name and a not-too-annoying sound, preferably not something that actually sounds like a wakeup alarm (unless its your wakeup alarm). Finally assign some "speed limits" to some blocks in your mind or other special rules. Such as in the block right before you sleep, eat or do some important chores. You cant do anything that will take your brain into top gear or you'll crash the night/chores/etc by being unable to turn your brain off, or to use a car anology, you cant make the tight-turn or stop at a crossing in time if you're at maximum speed. Just do small things with low effort or gear down in the block before to satisfy the limit of the next block. Think of it as similar to meditation just not as extreme, you just focus down.

Also,

- ONLY stop the alarm when you PHYSICALLY task switch off your current thing; if you're still thinking of the current thing, DONT stop the alarm no matter how long it runs (think of it as the hand-breaks)
- you can adjust things to be shorter or longer then 90min (I just like 90 minutes for concentration), just keep them consistent; you can just look at the next alarm name to know which block you're in
- you dont have to do just one thing per block but you should respect them as boundries; dont start some long process if the block is nearly over
- consider every time your little alarm is running with out you switching over yet as a small failure you need to work on (large failure if it stops itself from running too long)
- consider any time you spill over or break the time block rules a large failure and think about what you need to do (its fine to just have bigger blocks, so long as its intentional)
- learn to "forcefully push the breaks" when you have to, to avoid messing the block order, even when its unconfortable

[itskashima]

I had to subscribe because I'm exhausted by my symptoms and need help overcoming my issues, especially work related and relationship concerns.

[TheKingD]

having a slow paced job with ADHD is a real challenge. The 50 hour Monday to Friday work week feels like an absolute drag and by the time the weekend rolls around it's 100% full throttle trying to cram as many tasks into a short 48 hour weekend. Groceries, Laundry, house maintenance, chores etc, and the weekends are over FAST just in the blink of an eye. Then comes the dread of starting a new work week after not feeling refreshed what so ever. I end up using all my PTO early in the year trying to catch up on neglected tasks. How people juggle time and work/life balance is a mystery. I've had the same job for 9 years and you would think I've figured my shit out by now.