Childhood Trauma Damaged Your Ability to Tell What's True

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The trauma symptom that’s easy to recognize in other people, but SO hard to recognize in ourselves, is damaged perception. Childhood PTSD can make you unable to discern what is true and not true. You can't tell what is your responsibility and what is not your fault, when you’re in danger and when you're just anxious. You end up always doubting yourself -- trusting the wrong people, and failing to see red flags. In this video I teach you the signs that your perception is damaged, and walk you through a step-by-step process to get it back.

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[yaysoon]

Thank you so much for your insights. You are so amazing and intelligent and perceptive. Outstanding therapy.

[ponetium]

My default is assuming I am wrong, even if later my perception is proven right. Also, not thinking in words doesn't help because I find it hard to explain what's wrong.

[billbucktube]

I grew up in an environment where no one was allowed to have feelings except for mom. Us kids were always overridden by mom, every time. If we were happy and excited she was angry. If. We were mad about something she was even more angry. It would escalate to where she was out in the yard screaming at us. We learned to keep everything undercover and control the younger kid’s outbursts for fear of being publicly embarrassed. We also learned to distrust everyone and not talk to anyone about how we felt, “Because what happens in this house is no one’s business!”

[turnthepage]

Damaged perception was my main problem. Now that it's healed...I totally trust myself. I'm a real grown up now.

[jessiicamiilano]

“when you speak the truth the spell is broken” wow 🤯

[meaghenstandlee]

I’m 34 codependent woman living with a narcissistic mother who invalidates every interaction past and present I’ve ever had. She had me so scared of living I hid away for years cut off my friends and I’m now relearning and adulting with no support thank you for your videos I feel less alone in this world ❤

[CanadianDrifter]

This one sure hits a nerve for me. The psychological abuse, manipulation and gaslighting was in some ways worse than all the abuse I suffered in childhood. Still healing. But life is still good.

[RoniMarieBrooks]

I've been told I'm wrong my entire life...even knowing within I'm right so I've lived with such confusion. My mother refused to see the family that abused me and she is always demeaning of me and tells me to deal with it because that's just the way she is.

[paulalane]

Everything you explained so simply in this video describes my life. Now, at 67, I'm wondering how to heal when these coping behaviors are so ingrained. I am so appreciative of your helping to understand and begin, Anna!

[alisonyork]

"Sexually off" is a huge lightbulb moment for me. I'm so grateful to hear that today, it makes a lot of my experiences make sense. Thank you

[rena]

Your videos are more helpful than years of therapy

[carmenlux]

Yes, this is one way where the crappy childhood keeps on giving. Even when you’re on a healing path and intuition speaks to you, you start doubting your intuition rather than the situation or person. It’s a terrible and dragging feeling.
Mine went away when I decided to trust myself first. Confusion was replaced by peace, and even if I was doubtful I perceived the situation right, I decided to trust that peace.

[staciehulm]

My mom didn't gaslight me, she just did what she wanted. From birth I was exposed to her hedonistic lifestyle. On the other side, her family, my Grandparents, Aunts, uncles, and cousins were all conservative Christians... not perfect, but most of them really loved the Lord and followed Christ. I would spend a lot of time with them too and it was a weird contrast. Around them, my mom showed that she could behave. She has actually always been a very intelligent person who could exercise decorum when she needed to. She always held down a good job, paid her bills and led an outwardly upright lifestyle. But, she was also bipolar and at night and on the weekends the weed would come out and heroin addict bad boy boyfriends would turn up to party. This was very confusing to me. At 50, I'm still not able to judge social situations properly. One area I struggle with is always wondering if I've inadvertently offended someone with things I say. I'm pretty direct, so this feels necessary but also harsh to me Kind of tired of it. Now, I'm learning to sit with this discomfort rather then fawning. Then if the right time comes, I might broach the subject. I feel misunderstood a lot, but i wonder if that's mostly me projecting that on others? Confusing. Fortunately my mom now denounces her wayward lifestyle and has apologized to me for it. I've forgiven her and we have a good relationship now. Unfortunately, I'm still socially awkward due to things that happened to me from 0-10 years old. Once you're baked, you're baked. Now it's just a matter of "learning and knowing" correct behavior and trying imperfectly to implement it when I can. No wonder we all want to isolate.

[Dhibdic]

This is what makes it hard to find a therapist!!

[kirbydi]

I'm having problems with accepting this distorted perception, when I read this kind of video titles, I feel how I automatically reject the idea. But I force myself to watch the video because of what I know now, and yeah I have a distorted perception, my god, this improvement path sometimes is difficult, the truths are difficult to swallow.

[TheMary]

Quitting drinking catapulted my healing and now I'm not even remotely interested in alcohol. It creates a prison of the brain.

[thunderwolf]

You explain things so well…every single scenario and response is right on…all the relationship experiences…perceptional distortions…and everything I’ve managed to accomplished and not until late in life was achieved excruciatingly painful and left me feeling inadequate still…and yes…I am alone…

[angelbeauty]

There just seems to be continued layers of discovering painful truths.
Let's hope these coming years will be more of like minded people.
And little to no abusers! It's just too much at this point

[dameanvil]

00:00 🧠 Recognizing damaged perception is challenging in ourselves, especially with childhood PTSD.
0:44 🚸 Childhood trauma, chaos, alcoholism, or depression can lead to damaged perception in adulthood.
2:06 💔 Trauma-induced damaged perception can make one susceptible to manipulation, affecting relationships and decision-making.
4:02 🚫 Adults lying about the reality of traumatic situations can scramble perception and lead to self-doubt.
6:28 🔄 Steps to heal perception: Recognize distorted thinking, discern the truth, and express it even when difficult.
8:46 🌟 Advanced healing involves discerning when and how to express the truth for positive changes.
10:38 🛑 Temporary cessation of mind-altering substances aids focus on improving perception and seeing reality clearly.
12:00 🔄 Daily practices like writing fears, resentments, and meditation help unclutter the mind, improving mental state.
14:36 🤝 Seeking honest feedback from trusted friends can provide valuable insights into personal patterns and blind spots.
16:05 🔄 Embracing truth, facing problems, and changing behaviors are crucial for personal growth and positive life changes.
17:38 ⏸ Taking pauses when stressed in conversations allows for reflection on perception and improves communication.

[RyannJoyRule]

Im gonna try to stop smoking weed to get back to reality. Thank you