The Long Term Effects of Childhood Trauma

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[Watergirl]

One other way that children seem to adapt is by overcompensating. I noticed that within myself. I became a major people pleaser and codependent. A lot of people don’t realize that if you see someone giving too much and sacrificing too much that might also be a sign. It’s just something that I figured I’d mention since that is my experience.

[jenniferberry]

I have major childhood trauma and I was still able to learn and succeed in school. School was my “safe” zone even though I was bullied and mistreated by people. I lost myself in my school work to escape the hell.

[amodinichoudhary]

Why is it that I find comfort in my depression and anxiety? That I'm scared of happiness and feeling good about myself?

[emmanothgiel]

The words ‘be the person you needed when you were younger’ are like my mantra. Love to you all ❤️

[Magnetar]

My God. I am one of those kids and I am breaking the cycle by not having children.

[linguavenandi]

As someone who is experiencing guilt for not going back home for the holidays because of PTSD, this video couldn't have come out at a better time. As always, I appreciate the dedication you put into making these videos! Much love, Kati <3

[stormthrush]

Part of the problem with recognizing childhood abuse and abused children is that the abuse for so many children is their normal, so they don't even know they're being abused, that it's wrong, that it can be different. I've certainly found that to be true for me. I grew up not feeling loved by my parents, but this crazy making mix of terrorized by and yet dependent on them. It's taken me years, even decades to start to recognize it for what it is, let alone start to heal from it and believe I'm worth more.

[caribarker]

Ok, this was me as a child. By 2nd grade I was diagnosed with ADHD, but was dealing with physical and verbal abuse at home. So the testing showed I had an IQ of 145 and the school and parents decided I was just lazy. I had teachers tell me they had a better time when I wasn’t there. I was told I was bad. I had a teacher stuff my mouth with paper at recess. I was slapped and hit for things I was doing that screamed abuse. I was in 1st grade in 1967. These things were allowed.
I had a horrible first 28 years of life.
I’m now 58 and have been in weekly therapy for 3 years and am finally figuring out a lot of things.

[j.graham]

I was one of the kids that withdrew as a response to the emotional abuse and neglect I experienced in childhood. I just want to point out that if someone had asked me at the age of 6, or 10, or 12, if there was anything wrong at home or if I was being mistreated, I would have said 'no'. I didn't realize it myself until years later. I grew up thinking I was some kind of freak because I didn't feel the way my mother taught me I should feel, and I couldn't find a way to fit in with my peers or my siblings. Admitting that anything was wrong with my parents, even admitting that to myself, would have been impossible. I was extremely uncomfortable when addressed directly by an adult, and would say whatever I thought would make them stop the fastest. I only found out a few years ago that my siblings felt much the same growing up. We had no aunts or uncles, and our grandparents lived thousands of miles away. I don't know how any adult that actually cared enough to try would have been able to reach us and help.

[peaceatlast]

As a child and teen, I was brought up with hatred, violence....absolutely no love and this has rippled into my entire life up until just recently and I was able to rise above it all.

[mollymonk]

Another good topic how do you cope with this in adulthood? As a child of trauma. I notice I am starting to have more issues with my past the older I get. I’m 23.

[schlibbity]

When I was a child, I had no idea I was being abused or neglected. I didn't understand that the way I was being treated was wrong or unfair, and I actually believed for a long time that it was my fault and I deserved it. After all, I had nothing to go on but my own experiences. I developed a very strong fear of authority -- to this day I anticipate violent outbursts from bosses or landlords I interact with.

I feel that this video has put another puzzle piece in place for me. School was impossible for me, I was in 8th grade the first time I received a passing grade in a class. I was told it was because I was bored in school and not being challenged, but that doesn't explain why I would finish 95 out of 100 questions on math homework and then not turn it in because it wasn't "good enough." I would then be reprimanded, albeit gently, by my teachers because they knew I could pass the tests but couldn't understand why I wasn't willing to put in the work. Truthfully, I don't feel like I was able to do the work at all.

Most of my childhood is very foggy to me. I don't remember anything outside of a few very isolated events and general trauma. I just remember the feeling of being wrong, as though I were a burden on my family and teachers. I'm told I had a few friends, but I don't remember them. I'm still trying to understand the memory loss and how it ties into everything else in my childhood.

I was fortunate enough to discover theatre at a young age, and once my situation at home became less precarious and I started to have some autonomy, I dove into it headfirst. I've since been a part of around 100 productions and through those innumerable opportunities to meet new people I've found myself a whole new family. I learned how to speak my mind, which I could never do before (I can't emphasize that enough). Suddenly, I didn't have to settle for "good enough mother" anymore. Now, even though I still sometimes have a very strong overreaction to very small stressors, I have a massive community of loved ones who support me and help me through hard times.

Thank you for helping so many of us understand why we function the way we do. Knowing is, after all, half the battle. ❤️

[bryantppierce]

She was so right on about drugs and alcohol being an adaptive strategy, I’ve never heard anyone put it that way before but it’s spot on.

[madelief]

For some reason i’ve been really angry today because of thing that happend when i was a child so this video has perfect timing 👌🏻

[Katimorton]

English Captions AND Spanish Subtitles will be available on this video! The team is working on it now... might take 24hrs to show up.

[hannahlack]

I was bullied all throughout my childhood and although I feel many people dont count that as trauma it has caused me to have depression and suicidal thoughts and social and generalised anxiety.
I have had cbt before but I feel I need therapy focusing on my trauma to really make a difference because one of the most triggering things is the memories that I get reminded of.

[SaxraAranae]

Geez... I just remembered my "good-enough-mother". She was the mom of one of my friends back when I was still a child. Friendship lasted about 3 years or so, then they moved away... shortly after, she died. I didn't feel anything at that moment, not even shock or surprise, anything. It's been a decade now, and just having you mention the "good-enough-mother", and realizing what she meant to me in that short period of time.... I don't know, I just started crying. I guess I'm finally able to grief.

[whitz]

I’m 30 now and afraid to have children because I really do not want to cause them any trauma. 😔 my father was very violent and manipulative and my mother was always narcissistic and manipulative.

[destinylee]

I blame myself for everything that ever happened to me and when I reach out no one actually wants to help me so I just deal alone.

[joyenchanted]

Love that you’re doing so many collabs, it’s awesome to see your channel expanding :)