How to Combat GASLIGHTING: 10 Practical Tips | Dr. Rami Nader

Gaslighting is a powerful and subtle form of emotional abuse in which you feel manipulated, undermined and begin to question your reality. This video discusses 10 practical tips to help combat gaslighting and to help you change gaslighting dynamics in your relationships. The 10 tips to stop gaslighting include: identifying when you are in a gaslighting relationship; saving evidence of your interactions and the gaslighting behaviours; physically distancing yourself from gaslighting behaviours; mentally distancing yourself from the gaslighting relationship; acknowledging the conflict and ambivalence you may feel about the gaslighting relationship and give yourself permission to feel that way; being compassionate with yourself; seeking other people’s perspectives and letting other people know what is going on; changing the dynamic in the gaslighting relationship by making small decisions and setting defendable boundaries; giving yourself permission to leave a toxic and gaslighting relationship; and giving yourself time to start to trust yourself again after you have left a gaslighting relationship.

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[angelahall]

Dr. Nadar, another excellent video! Gaslighting has been around a long time, in one form or another, just different names. Until the person that is being gaslighted realizes what is happening, it just gets worse. You have defined gaslighting and told us what to do about it. It is important to realize that you, the gaslighted person, does NOT have to remain a victim!

[joanlantis]

it sounds like you're telling many senior couples to divorce. for some reason, men seem to really be abusive gaslighters as their wives age. unfortunately, I don't have the means to be able to leave.

[GodiscomingBhappy]

gaslighting is done by covert narcissists. Better to get out of the relationship. They dont love you they dont want the best for you. Dont listen to what they say, WATCH what they do. Gaslighting can come from family too and thats why many of us fall into toxic relationships as we think that abuse is "normal" when it is not

[Femininity.Levelup.Coach.]

Thank you for recording this series!!
I knew about gaslighting but today I had weird situation with my friend, where she started turning conversation into fight and attacking me for something I didn’t do, I made my research and came across your videos. Now I know what to do and beside that - I’ve been struggling with self questioning all the time and I’ve been trying to fight with this. I think it’s the effect of being gaslighted so many times in my life when i was younger… that’s so sad! I appreciate that you spread awareness about this disgusting behavior!

[xbstcoe]

thank you dr for sharing., im deeply enlightened!

[michalakischaralambous]

Thanks for explaining the reason of gaslighting. I understand now why my ex girlfriend boardliner / Covert narsicist used that method of black psychology to discard me. I wish her a nice journey to chaos she wish to leave.

[therealkeinemoniker]

i would say it dependso n the situation. the woman i was seeing is a fearful avoidant, the relationship was amazing, kindest, sweetest woman ive ever known. the affection from her was like none i've ever felt. the gaslighting didnt start until she got triggered, and it wasnt until things ended when it started. and it was a defensive mechanism for her to distance herself from her feelings and shift blame.

[jayde]

Dr. Nader
Thanks again for your very insightful commentary about gaslighting!👍

[terencemeikle]

Luckily, I don't think any of this has happened to me (though, of course, it might have!) Thankyou, Doc, for these great videos: they're a real big help when it's difficult to obtain face-to-face high-end counselling like this. 👍

[sofisundar]

Thank You for this video. You do it in an insightful, respectful, and friendly way.😊

[aawrnnc]

It’s interesting that in #7 you tell us to speak to other people about our perspective and ask for their honest feedback.
The person in my life who has been gaslighting me told me NOT to speak to other people or call him a gaslighter. He vehemently denies that he does this behavior. He also refuses to go to counseling with me. Luckily, I’m not married to this man, so I can easily get out of the relationship. however, I do see his tactic as another layer of control. ….and I am getting tired of it.

[karenroehr]

Thank you for these videos. I did not know about gaslighting until I think I was in it. I had all 13 signs. I did not know what was wrong with me. I knew something was amiss. I am trying to recover. If gaslighting was around for a while, but called by another name, what were some of the other names for it?

[audreybridget]

Living with my brother he’s gaslighting me everyday. My counsellor and my boyfriends are on my side but my family refuse to change his behaviour even tho they see the comments

[kaystephens]

Had an adopted sibling with mental disorders. Parents pretended they could handle it. Nah, they couldn't. Mental illnesses are serious disorders that do often times have a negative impact on others minds and lives. And today, had I known the impact he had on our lives, I'd rather been living on the street. People who adopt children with mental retardation really need to know the reality of it. He was never wrong and he had my mother believing I was a liar. I'd have her charged with child neglect had my environment not been gaslit as just "Ok" and minimized. Its the stigma as well that isolates the innocent victims. Its not cruel to call it what it is. Its cruel to expose innocent children to their abuse. And he did anything to possess her and always be the center of attention. Father passrd if a heart attack and mother passed of cancer. So sad. The only way to be is to educate youself to the fullest and not skirt around the real problem. The disordered mind.

[trevorlageson]

"Gaslighting" is one of the main tools
of the Art of"DARK PSYCHOLOGY"

[zackhunter]

The whole rules is basically leaves the relationship, but most off this case is parents to kid relationship, which means you have to cut ties with your parents, i don't know sir, is there another way

[lindaelsage]

Is it true gaslighting they say something to you and then they totally say something else to someone else. Or is it narcissists. Or is it both?

[bluetube]

I came to this video cause i somehow lose an argument about a month having 32 days

[lukedowneslukedownes]

I wish you gave actual conversation advice instead of passive advice…