8 Signs It's Not Friendship, But LOVE

Are you in love? Or are you just friends? Sometimes, the lines between love and friendship can get blurry sometimes, and adding romantic feelings to the mix can make things even more complicated.

So, if you need some help figuring out where to draw the line in the sand between love and friendship, here are a few clear signs that tell you things between you and your friend are starting to become much more romantic than platonic.

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Hannah Roldan
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Have you ever love your best friend? Also Merry Christmas!

[VanNessy]

Historians: It's just an extremely close friendship.

[soulessdesire]

I'm just in love with the thought of being in love

[josh-a]

I came here knowing I have all 8 of these signs, yet also knowing it's something that's one-sided only, and cannot be something beyond a friendship.
It was an equally beautiful and painful video to watch, but to anyone out there going through this same type of thing, rest assured you're not alone on this feeling...

[Cool_Guy__Ja]

This can definitely happen, but it's also possible to let go of the romantic feelings and move on from your crush while still being friends. It's very hard to do though. This happened with a boy I met a few years ago. I think there was "something there" between us, but he didn't want to act on it. So after a while, I moved on, and met my current boyfriend and fell in love. I'm still friends with the first boy, but now I don't have any romantic feeling for him. I just accepted that we are friends, and that we are probably better off that way. Yes, sometimes I do wonder what it would have been like if we were more than friends, but it's *not* something I focus on or day dream about. I just see him as a friend now.

[fairyangel]

**For anyone who's in a rush or doesn't want to watch the whole video**

1. 0:44 - You daydream about them
2. 1:11 - You get jealous of their partners
3. 2:09 - You can't wait to see them
4. 2:38 - You want to be more intimate with them
5. 3:11 - You're overly affectionate
6. 3:39 - You talk about them constantly
7. 4:10 - You're not interested in anyone else
8. 4:36 - It's never enough

[HanzoSlash]

Then, they reject you, and you spend months thinking about them, while suffering. I hate being in love.

[reginaponceperez.]

But the worst part is falling in love with them knowing they don't feel the same

[vizawuzzy]

just remember unrequited love exists. it’s the worst feeling in the world but it will pass. had a FAT crush on my best friend for over a year but she didn’t feel that way back and we are still good friends. you can make it through. now i’m dating someone never thought it would happen.

[datboi]

1. you daydream about them 0:44
2. you get jealous of their partners 1:11
3. you can't wait to see them 2:09
4. you want to be more intimate with them 2:38
5. you're overly affectionate 3:11
6. you talk about them constantly 3:39
7. you're not interested in anyone else 4:10
8. it's never enough 4:36
I hope I could help!

[booogarboi]

The sweetest love is the friendship kind in my opinion

[victoriamihailova]

8 out of 8 and about the affectionate part- I've tried to hide my feelings in the past from my crush so he won't reject me and that meant not touching him at all because my love would have become quite obvious. Now, he has rejected me twice and I have such a hard time moving on. This video is slightly bittersweet but also a reminder that I SHOULD move on. I cannot keep standing in the same place while waiting for him to change his mind and decide to love me. It is a painful experience but one I have decided I cannot keep ignoring. So, wish me luck in learning how to only love him as a friend. Just the thought is painful...

[Bng_wter]

Peice of advice for those watching: in middle or high school, a close friendship is much more valuable than romance, especially since at that age the romance is half baked
(Coming from a high schooler)

[GibranEscobell]

You will all find the love one, yes you, but remember in order to be loved you must love and respect yourself, the person you attract is a reflection of the love you feel for yourself.

[GibranEscobell]

*TIME STAMPS HERE* so you do not have to scroll
1. You daydream about them 0:44
2. You get jealous of their partners 1:11
3. You can't wait to see them 2:09
4. You want to be more intimate with them 2:38
5. You're overly affectionate 3:11
6. You talk about them constantly 3:39
7. You're not interested in anyone else 4:10
8. It's never enough 4:36

Thanks to the original poster. Dat Boi

[karenkatd]

friends to lovers is sweet, but when it doesn't work out, you lose the friendship too.

[wolfmanash]

I’ve always kind of doubt whether or not i actually like my crush, or I’m just telling myself that. But after relating to every sign, I’m sure of my feeling, and have a clear head. Thanks!

[noobtubephails]

Ah yes, I once knew what friendships were like. Little did I know it was the first step towards love. Now I have neither. Merry Christmas.

[vfxstar]

Don't laugh but when I look into her eyes it's like I can see her soul and just like her, It's beautiful

[Buttonpusher]

Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love. - Charlie Brown