My Ex Isn’t Involved in Our Daughter’s Life but . . .

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[kimberlysmith]

Dr. Delony is spot on here. Seek a legal custody arrangement with your ex. Anything outside of that is willy-nilly, anything goes. Allow the court(s) to hold him accountable.

[JustinCase]

He doesn't care to see his daughter one bit but she wants to make her daughter believe that he does.
Let your daughter live in truth and not some false imaginary tale.

[alluringbliss]

My father did not care about me, I had serious abandonment issues. I had a hard believing I could keep a family together as I feared having to raise my children with their father either absent or faraway.

[matthewmatthew]

My ex girlfriends father came to her house every morning at 630 and had breakfast with her. Then he would go, Do whatever day laborer people do, and come back and play pool with her in the garage for an hour at like 8 p.m after her soccer practice He was a mentally ill alcoholic and really suffered. He died of cirrhosis her sophomore year of college but in high-school while we were dating she saw that man for an hour and a half a day everyday and loved him dearly. I used to ask questions because it was so weird and she knew her father was sick but enjoyed seeing him .

[IMOO]

My daughter was 2 years old when we divorced. Visitation was every other week Friday 6pm- Sunday 6 pm. She’s grown now, he never once called her at any time between those every other week visits, he never attended a school, sport, or church function.

[afr]

I'm not sure what the custody laws are in California. But where I'm from, if the other parent goes 6 months or more without any contact, you can file to terminate his parental rights due to child abandonment.
It usually doesn't get any better (speaking from personal experience and the experience of several friends) so if you have a good father figure, go that route.

[murraybeachtel]

God bless the men that see a kid abandoned and step up to protect and help raise them. Often the new person doesn’t care or much worse.

[kellyp]

My brother is this foolish. He never set up a formal custody of his daughter and it's caused nothing but problems

[kianabutler]

My son’s dad is like this. Hasn’t seen him in years, doesn’t pay child support, rarely ask to talk to him but asked to see him for Christmas. we moved our schedules around just for him to no show. We are just waiting until we can go to court.

[jackimccall]

John right on!
Got my son out to save our lives.
Life is good❤

[KidCity]

I think a binder to document his activity would be a great idea too.

[Hatbox]

It would have been a blessing if my daughter had never met her biological father. It was that bad.

[shehnazahmad]

When I met my husband my daughter she was 3. When we got married she was 8. By the age of 6. She started to call my husband Dad even before we got married and I never asked her.

[melissab]

My parents are still married, and I never hear from my dad.

[katherineliz]

I feel like there was a lot of information missing. She never answered how often he sees his daughter, just that he hasn’t been participating in school activities-which fair, dad needs to step up, however we don’t know how active he is in her life. Also when she mentioned that there has been conversations at home around daughter still calling her husband by name and not dad, are they expecting her too? If so, then they need to adjust their expectations.

[dakotasikes]

1. She knew what kinda dude he was and still got knocked up by him, 2. New husband entered the picture wayyyy to soon so something tells me they were talking long before she broke up with first guy if new guy been there since she was 1, 3. They need to quiet half assing all of this, 4. Maybe it's my gut but I feel there's more shes not saying that would make her look bad

[sleepyjoe]

It sounds like her husband is telling her what to do.

[faarfaat]

❤❤❤

I needed to hear this. Thank you.

[spacepope]

So they live far away from each other.

Who moved away? Who ever did so will get bit in the ass once it goes to court. They made the situation harder on the child & ex spouse.

[alisonklein]

I guess I have a question for men, why do some of you leave and absolutely drop your kids the moment the relationship I.e. sex is off the table is over especially if the baby momma is being accommodating?! She does not sound like she wants to push him out, but I see so many men do this! Look, if baby momma is making it hell is one thing I.e. set up exchanges not showing up, I would understand, but it does not sound like she is doing that! Just she wants nothing to do with him outside taking care of the kid? Which to him may be an affront, but why? Why is it an affront that she rejected after having a baby, the bio father’s behavior obviously precept this action! Is the kid your access to sex? Or you just literally give up because it has no benefit to you I.e. sex! If that’s the case, you are all scumbags! if otherwise, WHY!