Socially awkward vs Socially Fluent People 😅

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[YoavGilad-vc]

I've always wondered why I can't understand what people are saying when making eye contact. Very important video for me, thank you so much!

[toothsometofu]

As an autistic adult with adhd, I won’t be able to process your words if I look at your eyes. I can feign eye contact but I cannot then comprehend what your saying and have to mask my way through the interaction. I would argue that I still detect the emotions of another just in a different way than visual cues like a neurotypical. I can physically feel their emotions and intent in my body without evening looking at the person! For a long time I didn’t understand this and was often confused and overwhelmed by what I thought I was feeling but it turns out that it’s not my own feelings it’s yours! Learning to distinguish the difference of what’s mine and what’s someone else’s in the room has been a huge relief for me. If I can control my own feelings and stay grounded regardless of how the other person is feeling I can actually influence the other persons mood. It’s uncanny, but works. 😊

[cindyteitsort]

I appreciate your sharing this....I have tried looking in others eyes... now I understand why I can not. Thank you, Jim!

[technocera]

There are only 2 people
1. Socially awkward
2. Awkwardly social

[shaneh]

Making eye contact has always been one of the most difficult social interactions for me. I've worked on it and try to remind myself in the midst of an interaction, but it's extremely distracting, making it far more difficult to say what I want or need to say. Self-consciousness and nervousness, or fear, is magnified greatly. I'm looking forward to watching the entire video on this. Thank you..

[anna-marieeasmus]

Very interesting. I have chronic fatigue syndrome and when i am in a bad time, I can not make eye contact. It is too tiring.

[healthyfreesoul]

Exactly. I also look into the distance if I’m really listening, or sometimes talking, and then people keep turning around thinking I’m looking at something specific outside of our conversation. Very frustrating. But I’ve been practicing mimicking the eye contact; when I do it like an actor playing a part, it’s not as bothersome or exhausting.

[freezyyyy-]

RIGHT RIGHTTT
IM GLAD THAT SOMEONE SAID THAT they ( socially akward ppl ) are actually trying to understand and we understand better when we aren’t looking directly

[BMC]

what if you look at someone's forehead? Asking for a friend

[LelomsSunshine]

I unfortunately look at lips cause im reading lips. Or else i miss half of what is said. It will start with eye contact as im talking. But half way through i switch between eyes and lips so i dont miss what youre saying. Its also why i prefere direct communication and not subtle. The more you know.

[sherinkishore]

It's perfectly true if u look in the eyes it's hard to do emotional regulation and have a rational conversation and intellectual and healthy decision making.
Only stare at the eyes when you are in love and only with your loved ones and not in any huge social gatherings with different and too many strangers talking rainbow topics .

[ezzinemehdi]

I always look at the women's lips when talking to them, socially awkward.
But i look at men eyes, normal.
Because i'm straight.😂

[RomaineGangaram]

Istp sigma here. I dont want to stare, i want to really hear you out, i want it to be as efficient as possible so im trying not to make you feel awkward by looking at you so much. I would feel awkward and do feel uneasy when someone looks at me too long. Go back to your life please😂

[Proma-lg]

Not true. I'm socially awkward Button I always look at the eyes, just like anyone else🙄