The Advantages of Being Socially Awkward | Ty Tashiro & Jim Kwik

Can the traits that make you feel socially awkward actually be the key to unlocking extraordinary success?

We’ve all experienced a time when we felt like an outsider looking in. But for some, this isn’t a rare occurrence, but a constant struggle. In fact, research shows 10 – 15% of the population is socially awkward. But there is a strong correlation between social awkwardness and giftedness. You just have to learn how to use it to your advantage.

I’m excited to welcome @TyTashiro to the show today. Ty is a psychologist and interpersonal relationship expert. He’s spent decades researching human intelligence, neuroscience, personality, and sociology to help us better understand this widely shared trait. He’s also the author of Awkward: The Science of Why We’re Socially Awkward and Why That’s Awesome.

There are few things more psychologically devastating than social exclusion. But being awkward can be like speaking a second language. By taking the same focus and persistence that you naturally give to things you love and applying it to your social life, you can figure out how to fit in without losing yourself. Listen in as Ty shares how you can turn your unique quirks into your greatest superpower and never grapple over an awkward social interaction again.

0:00 Ty Tashiro
4:35 Awkward moments vs Awkward people
6:25 Traits of socially awkward people
10:15 Eye contact in social interactions
13:40 The 2 types of awkward people
14:48 Advantages of being awkward
22:50 Tips for socially awkward people
34:14 What to deal with awkward moments

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[JimKwik]

Do you also feel socially awkward? 🙂
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[nhanson]

I’m Asperger’s and really struggle in social situations. My whole family are extroverts and their expectations of me weren’t very realistic. So I masked. But since Lockdown, I realize that I definitely chose the wrong people to emulate in social situations. So I begin again. This book, Awkward, sounds like something I could use.

[PatriciaCurty]

Awkwardness is the secret sauce that adds flavour to life, making each interaction a delightful surprise and reminding us that perfection is overrated.

[HangInThere-Azalea]

Wow, this video is awesome! I call myself and introvert living an extroverted life. I am so socially awkward, but I love to talk to people; definitely will be using this. Thank you Dr. Ty Tashiro, and Jim Kwik!

[MightyTechichiMaya]

Socially fluent = neurotypical. They're socially fluent with each other. Neurotypicals are equally awkward interacting with a neurodivergent person. Socially awkward = neurodivergent and "masking" in order to fit in to neurotypical styles extracts a high price on the neurodivergent person's sense of self and well-being.

[mkitsioslmt]

One of my poems says:
"Clumsiness is seen as a negative quality,
but it is a very humbling trait.
It’s hard to be conceited
in the midst of a clumsy moment."
There are definitely upsides to being socially awkward.

[lee_annhammant]

Fair, kind, loyal, I agree very much with these values ❤

[thandazilezulu-skakana]

I'm from South Africa and I love you Jim Kwik this is very helpful to me. Thanks. Shalom

[patricktuala]

Wow. This episode spoke to me, spoke about me. This is a great take away. Thank you Mr Kwik and thank you to Mr Tashiro.

[neelambector]

This is so humbling. No idea why my brain short circuits in certain situations.

[cynthiabotsko]

What a great conversation! And it illuminates so much of relational & social dynamics we see in adults, children, teens, workplaces... ❤️♾️❤️ Thank you!

[highticketclosers]

They can be more understanding and empathetic toward others who feel the same way.

[luciferkkx]

Hi I am from india and I learnt so much from this channel

[demarie]

I really enjoyed and appreciated this interview! 🙏🏽

[Miidnight_Snack]

My autistic ass being described to a tee in this video 😅 Every meeting with a new person basically resets all my social skills to beginner, until I have met that person a few times and have figured out how to speak that persons social language, so I start at square one with every new interaction, it is exhausting.

[OliverChalupka]

I think personaly that too mutch stimulation for akward people when they look into eyes could be because of bad development brain in young age. becouse kid do not get anought emotional bounding with they parrents/primary caregiver. And they do not teach to manage their feeling in emotional bounding. Gabor Mate in book "craving mind " talk about that and how could be reversible and develop in later age. Specialy he fix his adhd in his 50s. And of corse this message is simplifed

[YuliaGrushevskaya-bihe]

J😂'adore Jim je suis taré, taré et français means crazy😂🎉😊. I love being myself and i never fit it usuel structure, i enjoy being intuitive spontaneous and just be human i love thé théory of Maslow of self actualised People i never get angry with others only with myself, i love doing thinking acting my way🎉😊😅

[lnccarpenter]

I feel like I am fairly socially adept. My daughter is pretty socially awkward.

[janelleryan]

Would be great if it was actually affordable now

[elimurphy]

Thinking ab a book title
Missoula the Aftermath A Theorem of the Un-oppressed