3 Mind Games Narcissists Use To Control You

In this video, I explain the 3 main weapons that the narcissist uses to form a strong trauma-bond to psychologically control you. These three weapons are: 1. The Art of Illusion; 2. The Art of Confusion; and 3. The Art of Manipulation.

If this video resonates with you, please like, share, and subscribe so that others might find help in it as well! I would so greatly appreciate it. 💜

It's my intention that everyone who watches gets at least one important take-away. 🙏

About Me
Hi! I'm Lise Leblanc. I am a therapist, life coach, and author of 9 self-healing guides. I have over 20 years of experience in therapeutic, educational, and leadership roles.

Introduction (0:00)
Psychological Abuse (0:41)
1 - Illusion (2:03)
2 - Confusion (5:29)
3 - Manipulation (8:12)

#narcissist, #NPD, #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, #covertnarcissism, #femalenarcissist

[privateerpix]

Thank you for this video and all you do! Your videos saved me from a toxic woman who used all of the manipulations you've explained to get her hooks into this widower. But not before she went into a toxic rage after I chose to go no contact. She's now facing the consequences of her actions within the criminal justice system. And I owe it all to you for opening my eyes.

[surfshack]

I think i got brain damaged by the trauma bond. It was weird because i remember there was a time when i couldn't be alone and at the same time i couldn't go outside. I just felt that i couldn't handle the outside world and society. I did not want to get up to go to work but i forced myself to do it. I knew i had to fake it through work but i seriously was not right mentally at all. I never felt like this before. It was scary. I think it was from sleep deprivation and the psychological abuse from the narcissist relationship.
It was only time and rest that healed or got me back to feeling better. After 3 years I still don't think i'm 100% back to how i was but i'm ok now and doing alright.

[davefarnsworth]

I watched this video three times in a row last night. You explain the nuts and bolts on this subject perfectly.

[johnandersson]

So accurate. No placating victims or demonizing narcissists to get more subscribers or comments, just describing what's happening in these relationships in a way that makes it obvious none of us are alone in our experiences. You are the best in the whole field.

[SC-zwuy]

I now understand my ex boyfriend is trauma bonded to his ex girlfriend who is a master manipulator, and female malignant narcissist.. She ended the relationship with him, married someone else and triangulates both guys intensifying the trauma bond. I didn't understand the pathology I was getting into. I finally saw what was on his phone with her, it was devastating. I'm out 3 years and beginning to recover my mental health.

[jera]

The best repellent is strong self-integrity. Do not be distracted from your purpose. Manage your time and energy very carefully. Make choices now that YOU will be proud tomorrow. Take your time and appreciate each choice you are making. The biggest red flag is a feeling like everything is "perfect." It feels amazing and too easy at the same time. The trap is you start changing your behavior to keep things "perfect." And yes, you will spend a significant amount of time unraveling from the codependency if you indulge in it. Be careful out there!

[paulbaker]

She is so brillant. Please people listen to her, everything is so true. I have lived everything she says.

[EDS-zogx]

To put the dynamic into Eagles song titles:
"New Kid in Town"
"Life in the Fast Lane"
"Best of My Love"
"Lyin' Eyes"
"Victim of Love"
"Try and Love Again"
"Heartache Tonight"
"Witchy Woman"
"The Last Resort"
...and if you're lucky...
"Already Gone" followed by "Peaceful, Easy Feeling"

[Sdy]

Thank You so much for all your videos. They're helping me to get over my narcissist soon to be ex-wife! It has been a hard journey but I'm better now than I was. She had my power for 9 years but I took my power back by leaving my house to start the separation period for a divorce! My final straw was I was having a mental health breakdown and I told her about it and she rolled her eyes at me, instead of trying to help me. I'm on the road to get my life back and I will find someone to really love me.

[jeslis]

No wonder why so many men goto jail. They r not strong enough to leave toxic women . then these women just move to the next man playing victim

[westwalnutrecords]

I'm scared to date Straight up. I'm an attractive, nice, creative 42 year old. Dealt with a few narcissists in my day. Thought I met a good woman recently.... She turned out to be a full blown narcissist. Playing all the games. I got I ended it after three months. My new rule is not to sleep with anyone until I've seen every single side. Until I've seen the good the bad and the ugly. Otherwise I'll just get played with. And playing with a narc is a losing game. I wish they didn't exist.

[richardmenard]

Yes ! I am one of them. She called the police to kick me out of my own condo. That was one year ago and see is still there. Realizing this I got into a deep depression. It took me months to get out. Meditation, gym, positive thinking, 9 month of psychological help. Ans the most important is to be in a support group for men experiencing spouse abuse. In the end physical abuse, and using the justice system.

[robertskinyer]

It is refreshing to see a therapist who is not discriminating or fearful of the intergrel awareness men and women both need to evolve to their full human potential. Thank you Lisa.

[godisamulti-racialhermaphr]

Love the Eagles reference. Joe Walsh's lyrics are all about narcissism and the human condition. Same with Don Henley.

[metaledstar]

The worst is having to endure this when under emotional duress from war/ physical trauma (couldn't walk) enduring mockery/gaslighting when catching them cheating. My cognitive dissonance was so bad, I couldn't even go grocery shopping without help. Months later a false accusation of harassment that would later be dropped due to her lack of evidence. Some around me still think I'm crazy and a stalker because she gossiped to them first. I thank god for my trauma, otherwise I would've been stuck with an immoral individual. Her best friend even said to me, 'stop playing the moral high ground'... so what I have to sink to her level? No thanks, thanks for the lessons though.

[alonzomosley]

I was listening to the Eagles songs the other day nearly every song is about toxic women.

[pumpkinface]

Thank you so much for your insight! As a man, you have helped me tremendously to find the answers throughout the breakup of my ex girlfriend after a 2 year relationship. I was trauma bonded, confused, and had a loss of identity in order to cater to her needs and seek her approval/love with no reciprocation in return while I was still with her. Dealing with someone of this caliber was a first for me and the psychological devastation and heartache I felt made me seek out a therapist for the first time in my life just because of her. I have found some improvement with therapy but your videos seem to resonate with me more.

[antoniossurvivor]

Dr. Lise, heartfelt thanks and gratitude for this interpretation. Again and again, you hit the nail on the head.
I was abused, manipulated and gaslighted by her while I was suffering the ecco of the worst accusations from my spiritual narcissistic hierarchical boss. I'm eternally grateful to you for spreading awareness and exposing their demonic manipulation

[kn-technology]

Thank you for explaining what a female narcissist is and does, because all other psychologists and coaches mention is usually about men or men/women (but too ambiguos). You're videos are on point. I appreciate it because you make me stay strong in my decision to have blocked her from everything and cut all ties with her. Thank you doctor 🙏

[jimig]

Your videos have helped me more than any of the others I've watched over these past 7 years I've been dealing with my wife. She alienated me from my kids. She pushed me away and kept me at a distance. Then she set me up to stay where I was with promises of reuniting with my kids again and living together again. She was actually already cheating on me and just keeping me on the hook for the sex for as long as she could before the discard when I found out. When I did she accused me of violence and called the police. It's a long story and it took me a long time to work thru it. It's still not over yet. She still has a death grip on my life and won't let go. But I'm working my way to the exit. This video really describes what I've been thru more then any of the others. I'm a rockstar. I've been with gorgeous women. This one strung me out like she knew me inside and out. Took me a long time to figure out her manipulations because I put too much trust in her. She ruined my kids. Why isn't emotional abuse illegal? Or financial abuse? Some part of this should be illegal. It's really insidious. Thanks again. Your way better then Dr Ramani. ☺️