Psychotherapist, Esther Perel and grief expert, David Kessler discuss grief and trauma

New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today's most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. As a psychotherapist, she has helmed a therapy practice in New York City for more than 35 years.
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[carmenburnham]

I love that she is stressing that it takes time years to heal. I did feel the loss of something I could have had but didn’t. My mother remarried when I was 13. When she did remarry my stepfather represented hope of having a father and a family. He was very nice to me when she dated him but once they were married he became mean and abusive. That relationship was cut off in my heart. When my mother called me to his bedside that he had died when I got to their home I busted out crying and it shocked me. I was baffled as to why at 26 I cried like that and then I realized I was grieving the loss of something that could have been But wasn’t. As David said before there are all kinds of grief.

[ruchamatwersky]

Very deep meaningful respectful and refreshing

[Mimi-Mimi]

I'm 27 and my parents just told me the truth about themselves. They thought I couldn't handle the truth. I had already figured out there was something going on, despite learning about their very sketchy past, my view of them hasn't changed

[Giselle-jngd]

I just lost both my parents to covid, just weeks apart, thank you for this.

[alejandroalejandro]

David, who is she ?!??
I love her ! She is Fkn amazing .❤ Thank you for having her on. She needs to be interviewed…Her life would be an honor to listen to. 💋🙏🏼🌈🙌🏼

[rachelh-j]

I love how esther therapatizes David :> (50:00). Such kindness.

[Haxzyr]

This is so saddening to me. Grief is so alarming. I hate the me of my faults.

[carmenburnham]

I can’t imagine having my spouse die during making love. I wonder how often that happens.

[learnPhotoCompositionNow]

To say that affairs happen in good relationships is totally insane. Unfaithfulness and betrayal is the very definition of a bad relationship.