Can a narcissist fall back in love with you?

can a narcissist fall back in love with you after the love bombing or idealization phase ends.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[Royal-Tee]

It’s interesting to me, when questions like this are asked. “Can a narc fall back in love with me?” “Will a narc come back?” It screams the need for validation. We secretly want them back to validate us or fill the void that THEY created. Falling “back” in love with us, or coming back should be the last thing we want for ourselves.

[amandahines]

How can you still be in love with someone who took you to the darkest places in your life?
Agreed trauma bond.
But gosh its damn hard to break.
No contact, no contact, no contact. 😊

[thomasconnors]

The validation and the attention they need is endless. They give nothing in return. I escaped this toxic person. I'm blessed.

[Analysis_Paralysis]

When you say "love" when it comes to a narcissist, you mean "infatuation". 😋 Love doesn't devalue, nor does it discard.

[Narrow-Pather]

They are incapable of love... They're acting. Never allow that fact to slip your mind. They can't give you what's not in them.

[laurafritze]

NO! They never "loved"you in the first place. They only love/loved what you can/could do for them.

[Savedbygrace_awareofthenarc]

They're so horrible, once you find out who they really are, why would anyone even want to go back to

[leapsill]

Yes!! My ex relationship was a cycle of love bomb, we’d argue (devalue) then we’d stop talking for a few days or weeks and then it would start all over again. 2 1/2 years of this. This cycle would happen about every 3 months or so. I didn’t realize it until after I left for good and realized I was with a narcissist. And yes, I knew deep down after about a year that this was not good for me but I kept thinking of the good times and craved those moments and unfortunately stayed too long.

[Rat_Queen]

OK, so, in my experience, I called it off with a narc after being blatantly used. He didn’t seem to care.
I blocked him on social media and my phone.
Then, I met a new guy, who is everything that the previous guy wasn’t. When out and about, we bumped into the narc and he looked devastated.
Then, he tried to reel me back.
I think they just can’t stand the thought of you moving on from them. And that drives them mad, so they need to pull you back to feel better about themselves.
Love isn’t something they know.

[lydiagibas]

Eek eek eek says it all. Soulmate? Aren't they in love with how you make them feel? Anytime I went back I felt all he needs is a breathing body around him. Any body! Narc has to destroy himself again and again and again and again. We heal 🙏.

[stylist]

There is no love from a narsasist, beginning of a relationship feel sorry for them they need help. It’s not love

[texannadeb]

You are absolutely correct about the partner of the narcissist not loving the narcissist but being addicted to them. I feel that perfectly describes the situation I was in. I think it’s easier to get over a lost love than to overcome an addiction. Strange that being left by someone you don’t love can be more painful than losing someone you do love.

[camelia-danielabobaru]

I don't believe that narcs really feel love in the love bombing phase, as well as I don't believe most of their victims really love them. It's just infatuation and addiction.

[angeliquewalker]

Facts, it will Never be the same. 11 1/2 years of gaslighting, nit-picking, verbal, emotional, and physical abuse, "Lies" would be an understatement, materialistic, manipulating, devaluating, not living up to what he "expected" me to do or say, react, feel, or think... 😢 Fall out of love with me all of a sudden, family oriented all of a sudden. So I leave to give him his space because "its me not you" is what he said, remain the sweet person you are always. 5 months back together again, nothing changed, it got worse. 😮 soooo solo dolo i am. 1 year, 4 months, and still healing from narcissistic trauma and abuse. He crushed my soul. My focus is me now, Period. #Almost50 #noenergy for it... #singlelife for life... #doinme

[fenlandwildlifeclips]

From everything you've said, it's clear to me narcs DON'T love other people.They love an image they created themselves in their heads. Loving others means ACCEPTING THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE. If you can treat someone well & spend time with them, even when they do things you don't like, don't look their best, are having a bad day, etc, that's love. Love is UNCONDITIONAL*

* So long as both parties treat each other well & with respect.

[tims]

I think so many people are vulnerable narcissists and they don't even realise there's anything wrong with them. I'm thinking narcissistic people might be the norm.

[td]

Love isn't in their vocabulary, love to a narc is what you can give and do for them. They can and most often will hoover you and all old supply if they have something the narc needs or wants.

[chelseyelkins]

My ex husband told me all the time he’d never leave me. He would tell me how much he thought I was terrible, gross, insecure, fat, ugly, whatever, but when I left he acted like he couldn’t believe it. I left in 2021. He’s still begging me to let him come home. I’m staying away BUT it’s so hard!!! 😢

[chloelageaux]

In short, "No." They had an idea of love, hence the lovebombing but didn't actually love you to began with. Sincere love looks like good communication, both parties comprehending and compromising. If your relationship was fraught with ANY form of abuse and you found yourself ALWAYS apologizing and giving in just to sustain the relationship. Sadly, that person probably wasn't in love with you or their "love" is very condition based!

Also, people don't abuse and abandon things that they want. We shouldn't even be asking ourselves these types of questions to begin with! Do they miss me? Do they love me? Will they come back? Are they happy with the new supply? ENOUGH! I get that it's AWFUL! A normal breakup can be bad but with a Narcissist it's worse! Yet, it's time to really do the HARD work and HEAL! You are not the same person that you were because you became someone else to appease them, but it's over now! FOCUS ON YOU!!!!

[stylist]

Feeling change, love is a choice, I wish I never met him, I need to heal from the drama, cruelty, it’s demonic and destructive, lies, manipulation, slander, name calling, anger, entitlement, on and on,
You are right ! It’s some kind of trauma connection, I should be happy, so many bad memories 😭💕