Self-Rejection: What It Is and How To Overcome It

Are you rejecting yourself before anyone else has the chance to?

In this solo episode of Habits and Hustle, I chat with you about self-rejection. I go over what it means, why we do it, what are some of the symptoms you are self-rejecting, and what you can do to overcome it. I also explain the difference between self-rejection and self-sabotage.

What we discuss:

01:04: What is self-rejection?
03:51: Self-rejection vs Self-sabotage: what’s the difference?
06:46: How to overcome self-rejection

Key takeaways:

- Self-rejection is when you reject yourself first, to avoid others rejecting you. When you self-reject, you put more value on others' thoughts and opinions than your own opinion of yourself.

- Symptoms of self-rejection tend to evolve around self-punitive habits such as turning down or not accepting compliments, turning down opportunities you are being presented with, and bringing other people down based on things you see in yourself.

- To overcome self-rejection, you must replace a bad habit with a good one. This means learning how to accept compliments, learning how to become less judgemental of others and yourself, and taking a chance on yourself when presented with great opportunities.

My links:

Instagram: @therealjencohen

[cameronjohn]

This was excellent. I struggle with many of these traits. I have a laundry list of achievements in life but I am a serious self rejecter/self sabotage person. I'm a 37 year old male and so many younger men look up to me which is ironic because of the way I both view and treat myself. I strongly believe a lot of these traits are rooted in childhood for me coming from a dysfunctional and abusive home.

Thank you for this episode. I am currently working to understand the origins of my behavior and replace those behaviors with new ones. The crazy part is that I would have likely been the top in the world in some field by now if it wasn't for such a poisonous mindset. I've done okay but wow I'm leaving an insane amount on the table.

Thank you.

[bhemoth]

yeah, I recognize things pretty easily my problem is I can't get myself to stop feeling possessed by them. Like I feel as if they turn me into a magnet pulling me toward the things I want to avoid and repels me from what I should be working towards. It's annoying to lets say quit smoking for a day and then wind up realizing I have my shoes on and getting ready to head out to the gas station to buy a pack of smokes

[AyanaInChrist]

Not the opening line like a knife to the heart 😢 Listening 🙏🏼

[Native]

Preemptive rejection, i reject them first before they reject me.

[Miaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

What if I’m super bubbly and outgoing but when it comes to someone romantically liking me, I self reject even if I like them

[SpikyGirl]

I hit literally ALL the points. Every single one of them.

[BlackApostle-qu]

Your growth is an inspiration to us all😊