How Ego Protects Us From Rejection @PirateSoftware

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[Duffman]

Me ego must be shattered since ive never seen it as their loss.

[ebjeebies]

My dad gave me the most amazing advice regarding this exact scenario the last time I got romantically rejected. I told him that with every rejection I feel less and less sure of myself and my ability to make someone else happy. Paraphrasing, but he said something along the lines of, “If she’s not interested, it’s not necessarily your fault. Nor is it hers. If the chemistry isn’t there, the chemistry isn’t there.” That put my mind to ease a bit.

[LivinWorkin]

Like... the two channels that pop up most in my feed... together. And it's so insightful

[swordsjuno]

I used to do this all the time. I lied to myself constantly making myself feel better and putting others down. I did it so much to a point where I didn’t know what was real anymore. So I decided to change and started being honest with myself and letting the ego break. I was a terrible person back then, i’m getting better now. There’s a big difference of who I was back then than who I am now.

[jclocks]

I am actually really happy that you posted this. Thank you for this. The reason why though, is a little bit different. I am actually autistic. I do not experience this. However this very highly explains neurotypical behavior that I very much did not understand, and gave me a lot of enlightenment as to why a lot of folks do this sort of thing. Thank you!

[jeremiahfix]

What he is referring to is where Freud got the cough inspiration cough, for the tripartite model of mind.

[eisflamme]

Let him teach this stuff in school, humanity needs it.

[diamond-eye]

That's why the best option is to never ask her out (worked for me)

[BrosTheNugget]

I usually just tell myself that it wasnt meant to be and then try not to think of her that way anymore. Its tough, but thats all i know to do.

[Cat-nvfd]

Mine gave me bad things about me and i feel numb now lmao

[MrHaha]

Oh my god I thought Thor's just reacting to Dr. K
Then I realized it's on Dr. K's channel 😅

This is truly a collab of the year contender 👏👏👏

[LocatedLeech]

Alok was doing so good until that "No"

[xilix]

it's narcissism as a coping mechanism, and it's without a doubt the quickest way to make yourself the most radioactive asshole in the dating pool. the way you act when rejected or during a breakup is noticed by those around you, ie: your future potential partners. be honest, be authentic. there's nothing wrong with someone turning you down and you being a bit broken about it. you can keep it to yourself if you wanna hide it, but ffs do not ever act publicly contrarian and petty about it.

[johannesdolch]

The counter argument is that: You SHOULD not be that invested when hitting on a girl because you literally know nothing about her, but that she looks good. Everything else is a projection. So if she rejects you, maybe it's for the best.

[gytisbl]

The only way to talk to girls is to talk before thinking and drop thoughts afterwards. If I start to think "what to say" or "what I did wrong" all hell of overthinking breaks loose. The reality is that this is not solvable by logic, but by instinct and trial/error. Like any other skill

[jcnot]

You forgot the part about playing Roses by Outkast on repeat for the next few weeks 😂

[Knighz]

Thor probably feeling a little too close to home here. His hardcore classic journey showed he has a few issues with ego

[usuck]

Interesting. I never thought why people do that. I typically just move on after rejection. She must not be into me, or she thinks I'm ugly. Oh, well. It still stings, but I always try keeping my feelings in mind and never blame the other person.

I do the same thing with my exes. They're good women it just wasn't going to work out. All for different reasons.

[vividrevelation]

eh, I've never done this? I've been rejected a good few times. most of the times I look at myself and see what I could be doing wrong and improve on that.

[donjuan]

This really makes me anxious. Sometimes I feel like my whole lifestory is made of those ego constructions that help us cope with the pain. I don't know if I'm being true to myself, because sometimes, the ego rationalization will be right, but sometimes will be completely wrong.