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How To Stand Up For Yourself Without Being A Jerk, Robert Downey Junior Style

We all have had those situations in life where we KNOW someone is trying to get to us. Maybe they keep asking embarrassing questions. Maybe they put us down with backhandedly. We know they are attacking us passive aggressively, but it feels like there is nothing we can do about it. Many of us don't know how to handle this kind of conflict.

In this interview with Robert Downey Junior, Krishnan Guru-Murthy continually asks about his history with drugs and jail. In the context of the interview, the questions are out of line, yet Guru-Murthy continues to probe. This video will show you how Robert Downey Junior handled the situation and the exact steps that you can take to deal with these kinds of passive aggressive attacks.

The good news is that you don't have to be a jerk, nor do you have to be a total door mat. You can politely be assertive and then exit the conversation by following the 5 steps.

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[takeupyours]

Tried this on myself in the mirror. Walked out on myself.

[Broccolaicy]

If RDJ looked at me like that, I would cry.

[EQOAnostalgia]

Been a fan of Robert since the 80's. Dude has been through a lot, and he's a class act. Came out wiser, and stronger.

[FlamingCockatiel]

1. Maintain eye contact
2. Give Benefit of the doubt
3.Warning shot
4. Walk out

[Mojomanultra]

I also noticed he looked to others to make sure that he understands correctly whats happening, looking for feedback .

[heathermetz]

RDJ handled that beautifully. He warned the clown twice “I thought we were promoting a movie.” Third time, he got up and left.

[ingridgallagher]

He never loses his temper!!! Hes kind, clear, but direct and confident!!!

[Zack-wuql]

"Your foot's starting to jump a little bit, you better get to the next question."

There was something so cold in the delivery of that line that sent chills down my spine, and it wasn't even directed at me. That's just impressive.

[Akiraspin]

Robert Downey Jr is a legend in my eyes. Beat massive drug abuse to become one of the greatest actors of this generation, and to top it all off the man has both class, a great sense of humor, and is extremely articulate and friendly.

[thetemplelaboratory]

I sat with a coworker and my boss a month or so ago. We went over how my coworker is creating more work for myself and our team, and as leaders it's our responsibility to lead by example. My coworker got noticably uncomfortable, completely ignoring me and getting heated over the slightest bit of accountability.

Then as a last ditch effort she told me "Well I've heard some things about you, ya know."

I called her bluff. "Oh yeah? Like what?"

"Don't worry about it."

"No this is important to me if you have any constructive criticism for me I'd love to hear it."

"Don't worry about it."

"No I'd like to improve and the best I can be. Please tell me."

She got up and walked away. I asked my boss "Is there something I need to be doing that I'm not?"

He said no. The next week I was awarded employee of the month. So it was all just gaslighting. She was trying to get me to feel as uncomfortable as she felt and it just didnt work.

[amyfromflorida]

I worked at a school where we had a lady who worked in the office who spoke very rudely to everyone, i was new… she very gruffly told me to do something (not my boss) and I just asked “do you have a problem with me or do you just talk to everyone like that?” She was taken aback and giggled sheepishly and said she just talked like that-we actually never had another incident.

[benjaminbergstrom]

So If I got this straight:
1: Distract target with your steady gaze
2: Answer his question at face value
3: Counter with cross to left cheek
4: DISCOMBOBULATE

[lindseybailes]

RDJ spent quite a few years in jail. I think he is incredibly intelligent and he can shut down anyone he feels like. He literally came back from nothing and is on top of his game now. That's huge!

[sashawarner]

Robert is a great actor. He has overcome a great deal of personal challenges and has managed his life. I am grateful to have him as a role model, and get ahead in my own life experiences. Uplift people’s achievements and don’t try to burry them over their failures. We have all failed at some issues in life, but we don’t harp on it everyday, instead, we strive to keep moving forward with our confidence high. Focus on the good moments by keeping a full and positive flow of energy. Keep negative stress out of your life, no room for their passive aggression. They will never be on your level Robert.

[ADHDUNICORN]

Walk away from any negative people trying to bring you down. 👋

[SigrunHT]

Robert Downey Jr is not the first guy to get up and walk out on this interviewer. The guy is known for his inappropriate questions. Kudos to Robert for having strong boundaries.

[scottwild]

Despite all evidence to the contrary, it's NOT "unprofessional" to get up and leave or walk away; if anything, it's the most professional thing you can do or be!

[christianrivera]

All of this can happen in less than a minute. I've experienced it [figuratively] as the person on Robert's seat. Whether the interviewer knows it or not, they've lost, and it feels amazing walking away from that. It's like telling them, "shut up, you have no idea what we're talking about...and I'm done playing your game"

[cmambro]

I love Robert Downey Jr. Class act and polite but won't be pushed around. One of my favorite famous people.

[doctorbea]

The maturity in which Robert Downey Jr. handled this interviewer stands as a testimony to his resolve of his old self.