How to Be a Happy Loser | A Guide for Modern Day Untouchables

No one wants to be a loser. Because of today’s tendency to call people ‘losers,’ many fear becoming one. Yet, for many, it’s unavoidable to be seen as one. This video explores the stupidity of calling people losers (in a derogatory fashion, at least) and how to be a happy “loser,” based on Stoic philosophy, Arthur Schopenhauer, science and more.

Video: How to Be a Happy Loser | A Guide for Modern Day Untouchables

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00:00 - Intro
02:04 - ‘Loser’ as a derogatory term
04:21 - How much of life is fate?
08:08 - The subjectivity of loserdom
10:07 - The happy loser

[matthowe]

As someone who has been living with a severe mental illness and addictions for all of my adult life, I sincerely thank you for this video. I am making the best of my current situation, stable on meds for 7 years, sober for nearly 6 years, lost and kept off nearly 100 lbs, living independently in the community. These are big accomplishments for me but I realize to many I may look like a loser. Poor, no job, no family, no friends. But, I am genuinely happy these days focusing on my health and wellness. I enjoy my simple stress free life. I know fate dealt me some bad luck but I don’t believe in the victim mentality. We need to find success on our terms, no one else’s.

Love this channel!

[THEOvERSiZEDMeATBALL]

It's crazy, how much we humans desire others approval. Soo much so that we would rather be an unhappy winner then be a happy loser...

[FelixSkura]

“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.”

[kumaSOevl]

When someone starts off a conversation with “what do you do for a living?” It often means the level of respect they are about to give you.

[Joseph-whof]

This describes my life completely. My cousins grew up with a loving family who were decently well set off. Their family paid for everything for them. From their cars to their phones and even their entire college education.

As for me, I grew up in a broken home. My mother is mentally ill and murdered my father. I was also homeless at the age of 18 and was unable to get any funding for college until I was 24 years old from the government. My cousins work great jobs and get paid twice as much as I do, where I currently work as a janitor and I am still in college.

Fate plays a huge role in people's lives. I find myself to be hard working, but I can only work with what I was given.

[JamesTheNomadic]

The irony that most of society bases their value and worth owning things that can be taken from you within an instant. For example your job, your car, your house, even your health. None of that truly matters when character and integrity is the true wealth of an individual and that alone can never be taken away whether you’re in rags or riches.

[BlondeManNoName]

_“Don't let a mad world tell you that success is anything other than a successful present moment.”_ ~ *Eckhart Tolle*

[LustyLichKing]

I stopped caring about anyone else's opinion when I realized that not only do they mock you for your current situation, they also mock you for trying to change it. The classic example is the fat guy at the gym. He is an object of ridicule both for merely being fat as well as actively trying to improve.

I think humans are like crabs in a bucket. They hate to see anyone better than themselves and want to pull them down if they get any upward mobility. Why would you even spend the energy to notice the opinions of such miserable creatures?

[alexs]

This video hits home. I’ve been a schizophrenic for over ten years now. I’ve been through hell. I am medicated and stable now. I am on benefits and I have my own apartment. I have what I always wanted.
Tried the dating apps and didn’t have much success. I was even mocked by a potential date when I told her I wasn’t employed. Called me a man baby loser. It hurt. I feel like I’m not that at all. I couldn’t even explain my situation. Truth is I don’t like children or pets. And that narrows things down.

Is that how society is? I don’t want any part of it. I enjoy my solitude. They will never know how strong I’ve become.
Thank you for reading this.

[mikee]

What I've learned in this life is it doesn't matter if you have a stable job and can afford a apartment people will still find endless reason's to be judging you. I'm ugly and have a stable job at Walmart but I still get judged in a negative way by my peers at work.

[archaichobo]

You have no responsibility to live up to what other people think you ought to accomplish. I have no responsibility to be like they expect me to be. It's their mistake, not my failing.
Feynman

[JohnDoe-efwo]

Accepting that I'm happy as a loser by societies standards, has been one of the most liberating experiences of my life .

[davidmitchell]

I am a guy in my mid fifties. I have had a fair amount of success In my life, continually employed for over thirty years, a pretty wife and good kids but several years ago I had some serious health problems and was forced into early retirement, my marriage started struggling so we separated. I have less money than ever and other then my kids I don't have many relationships but I am so happy. I have no work or relationship stress. I just do what I want to do and live slow, quite and easy.

[manojprabhakar]

I quit my (well paying) boring job at 30 for a PhD in a field I love. Suddenly my relatives treat me as a loser, who is too lazy to keep a job and wants to bide time by becoming a student again. They are oblivious to the excitement I get by doing what I love. But their treatment brought my self confidence down. This video is helping my mind defend itself from shit thrown by the opinion of others

[andyawardian]

What's even worse: When NOBODY calls you a loser, but you think you are one anyway. Because you were treated like one for your first 20 years of life and it's very hard to change that mindset, even if you have a lot of friends and colleagues who tell you otherwise.

[danielmapulanga]

Happiness starts on the inside, relying on others for happiness is a dicey proposition. I think that's why kids tend to be happier, they haven't learnt to crave societies approval yet. Thanks for another insightful video 👍

[ThruTheMatrix]

Being a guy who has been an introvert most of my life - not really a people person in the least, I struggled with the idea of "luck" being a big part of success. From my 44 years of life experience I saw that "all who you know, not what you know" be a massive enabler for success. The extroverted person who socializes a lot and has a massive collective of people surrounding them would have an upper hand in regards to success, as they know how to talk and use charisma with people. Most employers and people of high stature are attracted to that, where the introvert is ignored for their lack of.

[kennyheimbuch]

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."

~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

[NikiWonoto]

I'm from Indonesia. I really appreciate of how realistic this video is. Very rarely especially nowadays we can even see the concepts of 'fate' & 'luck' being honestly and critically discussed today, because most people just prefer the simplistic optimism bias (or toxic positivity), including on meritocracy, while ignoring a lot of the harsh truths, facts, & reality.

[Michael-cbnm]

I’m 47. I haven’t achieved my career goals; in fact, I picked the wrong career. I’m a loser. But I’m not particularly bright or resourceful, and I think at this point I need to just accept what I have and be happy. Not everyone is destined for greatness!