The Secret to a Happy Life - Dr. Robert Waldinger

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[alexeilesukov]

For us introverts, being with others drains us of our energy. I'm 60, never married, live alone, a simple humble life, totally devoid of drama, go to the gym often, and overall, I'm content with my life. The older I get, the more I realize that life is too short to be angry, bitter, resent of others, or life itself. If I wake up alive, I give thanks and live that day like it was my last.

[phoenixrisin]

Enjoying peace and solitude is much different than being lonely.

[gourmetburger]

there is a difference between being alone, and being lonely. I am happy being alone, and im never lonely being with myself. Your bestfriend should be yourself. We are born alone and we die alone. But still try to socialize, make friends and keep sharing with your family/friends

[jml]

I 100% believe this to be true. As a extremely lonely person and in my early 50s, I can attest that my health has declined rapidly. Unfortunately not all of us even have the capability or capacity to be in a relationship(s) (friends, family or romantic). This is a very interesting long term study and kudos to the Drs that are doing it. Where this presentation falls short is the idea that lonely people are doing it by choice. I can assure you, we are not.

[FeedEgg]

Oh god this is so ridiculously true my dog died recently and I feel it, he made my life much better just by existing I miss him feels like my soul is missing a part of it.

[hbdrumma]

It’s hard to avoid loneliness in these modern times. I seek new connections but everyone is usually too busy working or chasing $ to even care

[SoFloSoFawny]

My 36 year old daughter-in-law sent me your video and said after she watched it she realized she needs to establish more friendships and socialize more. She asked me to watch it. Now I am forwarding it to my friend I’ve known since birth… she turns 70 this month and says she hasn’t kept up with her friendships since before covid. She stays at home mostly and her significant other is busy with his men’s club. I am worried about her. Although she has pets tgat keep her busy, I’m thinking what she really needs is more friends to socialize with. That will be my mission thank you for this post and continuing the research study.

[spencer]

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[AtTheDoor]

This one really struck a chord on me. Raised more questions than answers. I’m in a point in my life where I decided to move away from my country (Brazil), away from my closest friends and all my family members, in pursuit of the unknown, the adventure of life, better “quality of life”, more security, an international environment and to explore the world. That’s why I came to europe.
And even though I don’t regret my choice, is very tough to deal with loneliness. To know I’m far away from everyone. That if I fall in love and raise a family here, my kids will be far from their grandparents, uncles, cousins…(at least from my side). That I won’t be there for my friends biggest moments.

Of course I can build relationships, friendships, and bring my family closer to me, but all of that takes too much time. I have to be patient. But at the same time, I feel this urge to go back after a while to be closer to the ones I love the most. But people you meet create the paradise you find, I might meet amazing people in the following years…

Let’s see how life unfolds, but still, burning questions on my mind.

EDIT (5 months later): following my gut and embracing the unknown was the best decision for my life. After a while, although hard, I’ve learned to embrace loneliness and cultivate self-love, and I’m truly truly happy, even though I miss my loved ones every day.

[turtle_king]

Well done Dr. Waldinger, this study is very impressive. An insane amount of dedication and it really paid off. Thank you!

[PeaceIsYeshua]

8:55 This is such an interesting point! *Be with someone you can count on—who you know will be there for you in hard times!* If you’re blessed enough to find someone like that, that is!

[kapillantigua]

What a great video. I am 34 and I will take advantage of this advice as much as I can. Thank you very much.

[RikisVlogs]

Loneliness is one of the hardest things. I am a first generation immigrant, only my parents came here, and we settled in a majority white small town. I didn’t make friends; or felt close to anyone, and now that I am adult working from home, and right now it is the toughest phase of loneliness I am going through. I feel it affecting me, I need people.

[VikingVic]

No truer words have I heard on YouTube, and yet such a common wisdom is rare today

[harmony]

By far my favourite channel, I’ve never disliked a video, they are always great and entertaining, this was no different, thank you!

[NopeNotTodaySatan]

Thank you for making this video! I truly enjoyed it & it’s a beautiful reminder of what is really important in life. ❤

[ktmggg]

The title of this should be The Secret to a Happy Life, For Men

As a woman, most of this just doesn't apply. I've been unhappiest and most unproductive in intimate relationships. Being the "helpmate" and bearing most the responsibilities for housework - on top of managing a career - has done nothing but given me burnout. Women are still designated as the carers, nurturers, housekeepers and social secretaries, but it's maddening that we get so little of that in return.

I'm happiest when single, with a pet to care for and limit the intrusion of other people in my life. Having interests outside of paid work - reading, attending art events, regular exercise, volunteering and travel - gives me more than enough human interaction. There are more people out here who like being by themselves, are happy and don't need to follow a script to find happiness.

[srsepdd]

I always tell my children this 98% of your happiness is whom you choose as choose as a life partner Dr. Phil had this topic on his show when I was a teenager 30 years ago and it still rings true today and that is what you were discussing in this video. Be careful who you marry I tell it to my children every single day and this is coming from somebody who is happily married 33 years everything you say is true if you pick the right marriage partner, you really can’t get through anything in life and believe me we have been through tragedy and we are still plugging along strong.

[kristinLB]

I am an introvert. I’m in my 50’s. I moved to a cottage in the hills and it’s beautiful. But after two years I’ve noticed I’m not as happy. It’s to isolating. So I’ll move back to town. I’ll still be an introvert but at least I can be around people when I want to a lot easier. I also think it’s hard to make friends now, and sadly I feel like love is disposable anymore so I keep to myself.

[pauladolan]

I totally agree with your findings. I thought that happiness was having a prestigious and well paid career. Then I discovered my job was interesting but lonely. So I ditched it, 🎉 got married and moved far away, had three kids, different jobs (some fullfilling, others more boring). But I wouldn't have been anywhere happier with my life than now. Enjoying being a grandma with my husband of 35 years and having close relationships with family and friends (here and far away).