Emotional Addiction: When Our Craving For Unhelpful Emotional Activation Keeps Us Stuck

Over the course of our lives we can become so used to feeling a certain way that we don't notice that that—stress, anxiety, overwhelm, frustration etc.— doesn't have to be our most common experience. We don't notice how we recreate certain emotions, a level of stress, by our own actions and choices, just to feel like ourselves, to feel alive—even if these are unpleasant emotions. In this video I explain the dynamic of emotional addiction and how to overcome it.

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0:00 Introduction
1:23 Emotions Are What Drives Us
2:10 Emotional Addictions
3:16 Where Emotional Addictions Come From
3:33 Why It Can Be Hard To Change
4:20 On Recreating Emotions
5:48 Example Of Feeling Overwhelmed
7:04 Other Ways We Recreate Emotions
9:04 What Fuels Emotional Addiction
10:01 How To Let Go Of An Emotional Addiction

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Hi! I'm Maika - a psychologist, course designer and YouTube creator. The purpose of my work is to assist you in becoming an expert at self-leadership, so you can live your life to the fullest
"There is no passion to be found in playing small, in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living." Nelson Mandela

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Keywords: emotional addiction, emotional addiction examples, emotional addiction in relationships, emotional addiction signs, emotional addiction to chaos, how to overcome emotional addiction, what is emotional addiction, where does emotional addiction come from, how we recreate stress from our childhood, how to let go of an emotional addiction, Emotional Addiction: When Our Craving For Unhelpful Emotional Arousal Keeps Us Stuck

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“Our nervous system and our unconscious addiction to keeping it in a highly activated state is at the heart of many of our psychological and physical symptoms.” (Nicole LePera)

[chilloften]

I’m addicted to anxiousness, procrastination and fear & shame. Ugh. My coffee triples it.

[cryptointegrations]

This is the root cause of me failing in my past relationships. Thank you so much.

[morticiasunshine]

These are great ideas, because I am the oldest of 9 kids and my mom is/was histrionic emotional noodle person who couldn't do anything alone and depended on her kids. So I keep myself feeling distracted, emotional and disregulated. I give all my love to men who don't or can't understand me as a person... so recently I became obsessed with a guy who I briefly dated and I can't get over him!!! I have observed myself as I will wake up happy and eventually return to the same sad feeling that feels safe or something. It's not truly safe it's awful. Great video, thank you.

[juneloh]

Dear Dr Maika, I am currently on this journey of self-discovery and in the midst of healing. This is a timely video and I appreciate the time and effort you've invested to post your content on YouTube. It has helped me to understand a little more about myself and I look forward to watching your other videos as well. Love, June

[AyshaLovesYou]

I was very neglected as a child, always alone and always doing things on my own. So now when things get hard I completely shut down and isolate myself, I don’t like sharing my emotions, mainly out of feeling like a burden. And I don’t like asking for help, i am very independent.
I have gone through lots of therapy to even realize these things about myself, and I am now working on relearning my negative behaviors.

[creativepsa]

Love you❤ for opening my emotional eye. I love you….🥰

[kirstenschweikert]

Thank you. You explain everything so clear.

[SongOfTheSoul]

Very insightful video, Maika. Thank you! Although 'emotional addiction' is probably the most compelling terminology, I think it's closer to the truth that we get habituated to certain emotional atmospheres. A child simply accepts that the emotional atmosphere in her/his home is "normal" and is thus habituated to that brand of normal. And it does follow that, as an adult, s/he will gravitate towards people who re-/create that atmosphere for her/him ... for better or worse, depending on what her/his brand of 'normal' was. Humans are also creatures of habit, after all. ~ You've provided some great insight over the past year, Dr Steinborn. Thanks again!

[meganclark]

I’ve been in therapy for a while now but during this video was the first time I wanted to be better for ME and not just for my child. I want a new feel for life.

[rolapiepse]

Thank you Maika, that video gives a lot to think about. For all who watched this video I wish, your parents created an emotional enviroment that is worth keeping.

[aidastovall]

I love your statement after the video was coming to an end. That was very supportive and not just about the message you sending out. Thank you!

[l]

I like what your talking about. A lot of Joe Dispenza talks about.

[beatriceanobah]

So brilliant as always, thank you so much!

[girainyson]

Good video definitely gave me helpful insights

[VK-oeyu]

Thank you again for giving hope:) so often I catch myself fall into the same pattern and lose hope that it can ever change even if I work really hard. Would love to hear more on this topic❤️💐

[fatimaalvarez]

Great talk, thank you very much Dra Mayca.
I've really identify with it.
Even though my actual life is great in many ways I keep getting this negative feelings that exhaust mu energy and affects my partner.
I will follow you and your recommendations 🙏inmense gratitude

[MrAnthonyKennedy]

THANK YOU SOOO MUCH FOR MAKING THESE VIDEOS! CHEERS!

[douglasmclean]

very good video very well explained in a clear and consise way

[adelapopa]

Thank you for this video! This has been such an interesting topic and also the way it was presented made it even more compelling for me.