Exposing The Codependency Mind Trick

In this episode, Teal Swan exposes the Codependency Mind Trick, when the need for confluence fools a person into thinking that they are being authentic and honest, when really, what they are deciding or saying or doing is simply getting them alignment with someone else.

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Beginning and Ending Song:
Teal Swan Intro by Christian De Raco

[Pennylover]

I’ve never heard my behavior explained so well. Wow! I have a deep sense of relief and a deep sense of I’m fucked at the same time.

[through.a.barrel.she.breathes]

This is the what we did as children to survive in the toxic environment.

[aliasagentsecret]

Treating with suspicion something that brings you confluence is one of the hardest thing to do when you’re in it
Your inner personal truth has to scream it’s pain out in order for you to finally hear it despite that strong need for confluence

[amberpalmer]

As I listened to this video, I realized that I no longer identify with any of these things as a former codependent. I just quit work at a toxic and codependent workplace and have set up boundaries with my enmeshed mother. I am proud of myself for realizing the truth and doing these things at 22 years old ❤

[healingwithforrest]

Wow I always thought I was a shape-shifter and had a gift for making people comfortable by mirroring them but I am just very codependent LOL

[johncox]

We really are in the emotional dark ages. Keep putting these videos out there, Miss Swan! There are those of us in the world who ARE listening!

[SarahAlDosari]

yes i feel danger when i point out something my family member did wrong to me that angered me. even when i say it in a nice and kind way i still feel this fear kicking in my system with a sense of guilt with it for pointing out something. maybe this is the cause. From now on my boundary is a priority even if it upset others

[shamyshamuswow]

Someone finally explained why the internet thinks everyone is a narc

[LynneMadison]

Teal, if you wrote a book about codependency and boundaries and relationships, I and I'm sure many others would definitely buy that! 🧡❤️💜💙💚💛

[sarahdaramy-williams]

’... and essentially, it’s an exercise in self-hate. Have a good week 🙏.” 😂 Bam 💥

[nickim]

This video hits hard. I'm starting to realize why after years of giving and giving in relationships why I still felt so unhappy and unsatisfied. I ended up being so angry at people who simply refused to care about me the way I needed them to. Now I am realizing the foolishness and futility of it all.

[dylidyl]

I’ve done this to an extreme degree all my life and just this past year or 2 is when I became painfully aware of how inauthentic I am being and how alone I feel because absolutely no one knows the real me. It hurts badly and idk how to escape it with the situation I’m in, I don’t feel strong enough.

[TrixieTaylor-bndw]

Yep. People didn't care about your needs as a kid so you end up sacrificing parts and losing parts of yourself to get at least some of your needs met. I totally am codependent.

[meganjohnson]

I think a Teal Sean book about co-dependency is a damn good idea. I’d read the hell out of that. You’re pretty good with words. Thanks, Teal! Love and light. 💕

[jsingh]

Gabor Mate’s new book talks about this too. Prioritizing attachment for authenticity. So important to remain true to ourselves so that we don’t lose ourselves in relationships and chose right.

[katemiller]

I think that its important to note that when describing the difference between how the two feel in your body. Codependents low sense of value in themselves causes us to not associate any type of goodness with our true selves hence the side that is True, (i.e. something about us we can't deny) often feels like nothingness.

[ananeeva]

A great point. What people usually fail to understand is that needs don’t go away no matter how hard one tries to suppress them. They will always find a way.

[karenlien]

Teal Swan is so frustrated with us for being stupid. (Ignorant is a nicer concept 🙂) All this hits the nail on the head though. “Confluence regardless the cost” could’ve been my motto. So clear… That I’m reinforcing inauthenticity in others by harmonizing with it. I totally totally do that and I hereby aspire to stop! Great content that we can’t get elsewhere. Thank you!

[OKCShiningOn]

yes, its not dependency its survival. to adopt xyz to survive in a family or group. i love this Teal thank you. I needed to hear this.

[estudandofrancêssozinhocomigo]

This has brought up a crude and painful need to cry in me, but I feel so drained and empty, I can't even manage to do that.