DATING ADVICE: Does 'not now maybe later' mean you still have a chance? (DATING ADVICE FOR GUYS)

You ask her out. She tells you not now, maybe Spring Break, or the summer, or when her schedule is less hectic. What does she really mean? Miss Singlefied explains how this situation has nothing to do with timing.

There's always this on-going debate about timing and its role in dating. People always think they tend the find the right people at the wrong time. The truth is, if the timing is wrong, then the person is wrong. In fact, sometimes we may think someone is desirable BECAUSE timing is off. For some reason, the less attainable someone is, the more desirable they may become. So to settle this timing debate, just know that if the timing is wrong, the person is wrong.

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[htoldnavy]

Thank  you for the constant reminders.  You know us guys, we can listen to advice over and over but as soon as  "she" arrives we let our emotions get in the way of our better judgements like a billboard in front of a landscape picture.

[desertstar]

I watched all your videos, it's making so much sense now...you saved me from my asinine decisions

[samiu]

Miss singlefied your a great advicer i really like your point of view about difference issues regarding dating and your so pretty to add to

[MatthewLee-jbgd]

Yes .Hai Hao well Said. Compassionate lady❤

[hyenax]

Haha I love your videos. They are a nice reminder for a reality check.

[Coyote-wmop]

After spring break? Yeah….we all know what happens on spring break…and it ain’t with you

[thor]

I got hipped to that lesson, when I became 33 years old.  I agree with everything.  Made me laugh over how you "roasted" Andre.  Most guys I have dealt with do not want to take "no" for an answer, or catch a hint after a girl continues to play those "hard to get games."

[rrafaelpaz]

Great video, I have a question: I was dating this girl for 5 months and we were getting along so well, even making plan for living together. 2 weeks ago she went for a long holiday and she expected to hang out with me on the weekend (Saturday and Sunday), but I said I just would be available on Sunday because I had to study for 4 test to my Uni that Saturday. She went nuts and decided to break up with me, because she said she was about to leave for 2 months and I didn't wanted to see her on Saturday, just Sunday. I called her and she said I was always working and studying and she wants somebody to be with her not just the weekend. She also said she is too young and wants enjoy life and then she said: Let's break up now, if you want to text me when I'm on my holiday you can, when I get back we will see... I said no, I won't text you, if its over it's over. Then she got even crazier and blocked me on facebook and we're done. My question would be: Do you think she really liked me? She used to say this all the time and although we didn't see each other during the week, we were always talking on the phone and texting each other.. I really thought she loved me, but the "I'm still too young and wants to enjoy life" thing confused me. Also 15 days before her flight she went to my place and although I wanted to have sex, she refuse and said she didn't feel like... I'm not saying she was cheating on me, because I believe she's has values, but it was really weird you stay before you go for a 2 months holiday and you don't wanna make love with the person you say you like a lot! I also got surprised how easily she wants to break up just because I couldn't make it to see her on Saturday. Please, if you read this, let me know your opinion. I feel like I don't wanna get back to her, but would like to know or at least to have an idea of what crossed her mind. Thank you so much, cheers from Australia!

[lloydhugo]

Hi Miss Singlefied,
Does this also apply to Chinese girls who recently immigrated here? we already went out twice and we both holded hands. I asked her out one more time via text, she took almost a day to respond and said "sorry for the late reply, I'm busy with work for the next 2 weeks but we can go out after" does that mean she lost interest? from what I know dating rules and expectations are very different in China, so I'm hoping she is doing it because she needs more space. What are your thoughts?

[CrossUpCoalition]

What if she just got out of a breakup?

[stevendado]

What about if a girl says maybe and then you ask her

[shofarsogood]

SO I met a girl on ok cupid and we seem to connect. I believe she is genuinely interested and she has told me directly she is physically attracted to me. I suggested we meet sometime. she responded to the email, and then said perhaps someday, for now go do your homework. Normally I would consider this not really being interested, that maybe she just likes the attention. But she does know I am busy with school, we live a few hours apart, and she is more reserved and feels better communicating online(introverted/shy). Does it seem like she is just stringing me alone because she likes the attention? Or could it be valid she just needs a little longer to feel comfortable enough to meet in real life. I'm considering saying something like" it was great talking to you. I feel we connect pretty well and want to verify it's the same in person. I understand your a little uneasy, let me know when you are ready for something real/ feel comfortable having a real date. Advice please?