Matthew McConaughey’s Dating Advice

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Today’s interview with Matthew McConaughey is instantly one of my most popular interviews of the last 10 years.
 
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One thing that’s surprised people the most is how relatable this entire interview is, and just how vulnerable he gets about what made the difference when it came to overcoming his fears and finding love.
 
He says some seriously profound things. By sharing this email or the link with your friends and family, we can get them to more people who need them.

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▼ Chapters ▼
0:00 – 1:26 – Special Guest Matthew McConaughey
1:26 – 3:05 – A Manual for Loving Life
3:05 – 6:53 – Less Impressed, More Involved
6:53 – 8:49 – “Do I Actually Want This?”
8:49 – 11:55 – Recognizing and Acting on Red Lights
11:55 – 16:21 – A Scarcity Mindset
16:21 – 17:30 – Growing With the Other Person
17:30 – 18:16 – Finding What You’re Looking for
18:16 – 24:30 – Wanting to Have a Family
24:30 – 28:20 – The Art of Livin’
28:20 – 31:22 – The Science of Satisfaction
31:22 – 34:43 – A Real Superpower
34:43 – 36:23 – Don’t Miss This!

[itsangelahey]

As a woman in my mid 30s, single and ideally wanting a family, this was a timely watch. It reassures my perspective to leave it to God, the universe, etc. because while I would have loved to be married “by now”, I’m not willing to settle for prospectives who barely meet my moral baseline as Matthew M put it. If I’m meant to be a wife and mother, it’ll happen in due time. If not, life will have to trek ahead and I’ll do what I’ve always done when faced with disappointment - make the most of it. I will not attach myself to any single path of an outcome because the reality is that I cannot control it and hence will not force it. Much love and light to me and you (whoever reads this) on our journeys! 💫x

[happykat]

As a single, never married woman of 43, I can say I made the exact mistake Matthew M described his friend making: trying to force relationships to work that I probably subconsciously realized would not work. I was just SICK of being single and dating, so I tried to accept things I knew I didn't want to accept about men I dated. Fortunately, none of those relationships worked out, leaving me still available to find the right man -- if he exists. That said, I no longer feel the same desperation to partner up because I'm willing to embrace the "single" label now instead of hatefully and shamefully shunning it and doing everything in my limited power to abandon it. Trying to abandon it left me in an emotionally abusive relationship with a covert narcissist. It wasn't until I saw the expression on one of my closest friend's face that I knew I wasn't crazy and his behavior was unacceptable. Yeah, I'm good being single. It's WAY better than being stuck with a man who sabotages everything for you instead of supporting you.

To all my younger friends out there, don't make the same mistakes I did. There are TONS of single people out there. You are NOT alone. Don't rely exclusively on dating apps. Go out and live life. Make new friends. Enjoy life. That's when you attract the most interesting people. I certainly met some great guys in my 30s -- they just weren't for me. But I met them all when I was living life on my terms and loving it. Plus, that inner joy sustains you. It sustained me through that narcissistic relationship and continues to shine. He was never able to break it.

And, for the love of God, stop perpetuating cruel dating practices. If someone is kind enough to ask you out that you don't like, politely decline instead of ghosting. Stop sleeping with men right away and take the time to get to know them. Develop friendships to know if you really like them and whether they will become reliable partners. The worthy ones will stick around even if you don't sleep with them right away. The ones who expect it up front aren't going to stick around for long anyway. They're usually in a hurry because they have other options or a wife/fiance/girlfriend at home. Figure out why they're in a rush. But, yeah, slow down, respect yourself, respect others, and enjoy the process. Life is good! Go enjoy it!

[littleblackbabycat]

I stopped searching, relaxed and got on with my life deciding I was ok and chose to be happy at 47...then one day met my perfect man in a cafe❤ it was natural, easy and turned out our lives had been parallel and synchronistic our entire lives....both travelling and living all over the world but we met when we both returned home at the same time. 5 years later its better than ever together. Trust in yourself and life.😊

[SeeBillyRun]

I recommend the audiobook of 'Green Lights'. It's narrated by Matthew McConaughey and it's like he's telling you about his life over drinks; part memoir, part life lessons.

[tolstoy_was_right]

Main theses:
1. Be less impressed, more involved
2. Let time to be on your side: you live your life - on your schedule not someone else's.
3. Forgive yourself: forgive yourself if your life is not gonna be the perfect way you've dreamed about.
4. Lean back: don't be in a rush.

Did I miss something?

[NordyCane]

The past few months I literally let go like Matthew speaks about “finding someone”. I stopped looking and being obsessed. Focused on my life and literally someone that I connect with on every level walked into my life

[feelthebowes]

Happiness has never been something one can find in another person… It comes from within. Realizing THAT is the game changer. Nothing else.

[emilytsou]

"Let the art of what you do be what you love"

[xiwzsgp]

"Less Impressed, More Involved" is such a wonderful 'mantra' this world so desperately needs right now...Sending a warm hug and a sincere thank you to Matthew McConaughey for putting that energy out into the world...

[htttppppp]

One of the reasons we disregard “red light” or flags or our gut feeling is because we don’t want to judge. That’s a bitter pill. Gut feeling is not judgmental it is a warning.

[thematthewhussey]

Glad everyone is loving the conversation I had with Matthew. Thanks for being here and sharing a little of your time with me as always. I hope you’re having a beautiful day and that this video helps you find just a little more peace today. Sending love to everyone. ❤

P.S. For anyone asking, the link to Matthew’s free online event on the 24th of April is www.MHLivin.com

[austin]

You guys have had this conversation at such a good point in your lives, where you’ve learnt from past experiences but have a youthful hunger for growth. Thanks for sharing

[laurajanebrowne]

The timing of this dropping is crazy for me. I’ve been following since 2016! And STILL learning. Thank you so much for this! ❤

[BarbieRachelEvans]

I am SMILING with the love and peace I feel in my heart listening to the conversation between Matthew H and Matthew Mc. Thank you! 🙏❤️

[jenniferknippenberg]

Making peace and acceptance of how things are, where you are and what may be. Absolutely hit me! Walking through that journey now. Brought tears to my eyes.
Thank you for sharing this conversation!

[Yeodoongiiie]

his kids must learn so much from him. what a man. he is so wise.

[lauramcelroy]

Losing my Dad this past January has lit a fire under me to close my business and start living my bucket list. A gift! Loved Greenlights- listened to it twice.

[LaurenP]

I haven't even finished watching but wanted to comment how much I'm enjoying this candid chat with Matthew M! 😊 It is inspiring.

[peachizetea]

Matthew is such a gifted storyteller. It is always a pleasure listening to him. One message that really resonates with me is that we should learn from our crisis. What did we do wrong and how can we shift our behavior to get back in line? An insight that we learn from past experiences is much stronger than mere resolutions, Thank you Matthew!

[Vats]

I've been watching Matthew's videos for years, but it wasn't until about 6 months ago that all of those lessons finally hit me. As a 29 year old female that was very on track to commit the same mistake that McCanaughey's friend had made (i.e. rushing to find "the one"), I'm here to be yet another voice to reassure any one who is currently single and in the same place that I was this time last year that letting go works!

The minute I "let go" and just focused on my life, what brings me joy, and began coming to terms with the potentiality of being single for a very long time, the doors swung wide open. I had tried letting go in the past, but it wasn't until it was truly embodied in mind and body that I experienced that switch. I met more quality men to date than ever just by happenstance. As a result of staying true to myself and doing away with the scarcity mindset, I'm now in the happiest and healthiest relationship I've ever been in.

A lot of dating simply boils down to serendipity, and believe me when I say the more time you spend chasing a "maybe" or trying to force something to work, you're losing the time you would otherwise have to meet the right person. I made this mistake over and over, and can attest that saying "no" now is far better in the medium and long term. The right person will make things feel effortless, and will consistently go above and beyond for you.

It's worth mentioning that what helped get me here was a period of celibacy. It's not the right answer for everyone, however it's what worked best for me. I felt a lot of societal pressure to go out and explore my sexuality in my early 20s through promiscuity despite knowing deep down, it just wasn't for me. I didn't succumb to the pressure via my actions, but it definitely altered how I looked at myself and what I prioritized as I was dating. Once I stopped looking down at myself for not wanting to have casual sex and embraced that side of me, vetting men became wildly easier and more enjoyable. I was able to stay clear headed and truly get to know the men I was talking to without letting the flurry of physical chemistry cloud my judgement as it always had in the past.

As another commenter said, life is good! Go enjoy it :)