Emotional Affairs: What to Do If Your Partner is Texting a Coworker

Emotional Affairs: What to Do If Your Partner is Texting a Coworker / Cheating in relationships and infidelity come up every now and then in my work as a relationship therapist. Clients often have questions about what an emotional affair really is, emotional affairs vs friendship, and what to do if your partner is having an emotional affair at work or an emotional affair with a coworker. Emotional affairs in marriage can be upsetting to navigate, but I’m here to help you understand what to do if you think your partner is having an emotional affair.


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[ThePossumone]

Your responsibility is to be a good partner - their responsibility is not to have an affair

[SilverGirlAu]

By the time the spouse twigs to what is going on - the cheater doesn’t really care about their feelings... if they did- they wouldn’t put their spouse in this position... I tried sharing my feelings with my husband and discussed agreement on boundaries with her- he left 2 weeks later... They are breaking all trust in the relationship and the spouse becomes second to someone they are infatuated with... very difficult to recover from it as a couple... fantasy has a strong pull over the reality of a long term relationship with responsibilities

[teenatalk]

I have seen enough tho and he admitted to me he talks to her and saw the texts and that’s all I needed I ignored it for year doing what you said and it didn’t work sometimes men just want other woman and best to move on

[ezequielriosgonzalez]

Emotional affairs for me is one of the worst things to do, regardless where it happens, work, lifelong friend, every single situation is different, for me that worst than actual sex, there is no absolute reason when a text or call is made after 1 am, bruh that is either a butty call, or a death in a family or friend, especially when they are sleeping.

[paythecreator]

You treat people the way you want to be treated. If that isn't enough, you treat them the same way they treat you.

[Jnnycat]

My guy has been texting with a woman from his work. It started off innocent enough, and still might be. I just know how these things can potentially go. He is constantly talking about her and how great she is. They text crude jokes together.
It’s got me feeling some kind of way.
The biggest struggle is he hasn’t wanted me to “get close” to anyone of the opposite sex, even though of course it would be strictly friendship. I have basically cut out all male friends I had to keep him feeling secure. But he seems to do things he wouldn’t want me doing.

[BBSAXX]

I feel, betrayed.
I need you, to stay or leave.
If he / she feels or seems more important to you, than us, it’s already been decided.

[bluebull]

Men pursuing women at work will spend months (sometimes years) building an emotional connection with that person. Therefore, as the connection has already been made, you could put in extra energy to slow the process but ultimately her interests are with him now. That's life.

[ThePossumone]

Not 100% convinced this is good advice
Unfortunately an argument about betrayal is not a typical argument or crisis - when someone betrays your trust it isn’t easy to stop the obsessing about it
Takes a lot of grace and forgiveness and time
Also - some spouses do it again so the trust gets shattered again

[SuperBrilliantbrunet]

When you are so hurt with betrayal how do you want to be with them?

[rotory]

My current situation is my wife of 12 years has decided to reach out to a former coworker and make plans to hook up.. I didn't tell her I was angry, I simply said that I was disappointed and that if there was something I was doing wrong we needed to talk about it and try our best to work it out. She said that she felt lonely like I didn't care about her anymore and I said I'll do my best to fix that but she needed to stop this behavior. She agreed and we talked and things are getting much better.

[tribej]

This all are good advice. Same things I've been thinking. But to be honest, my wife does not understand that she is drifting away from me little be little. I've loved her and been honest. The thought that I should "win her back" makes me sick. Why? What if this happens again and again?!. Isn't love and commitment enough??

[engineered-mind]

Saw a whole conversation with my ex and a coworker - too many love emojis and even sent a selphie to him even though he was married. She deleted it before our next meetup which made me suspicious so ended it

[ymahnash]

My wife cares alot about her colleague at work, texting very late etc. I asked her to stop in nice manner explaining that it hurts me alot and how would she feel if I cheat on her emotionally...
This video also help me alot for good ideas, I like connect to correct.

[skrizz]

They’ve been friends for years (and possibly hooked up) before I was in the picture. Now they’re great friends…who dont work together but in the same building and have similar professions

[jwhmerica]

My wife won’t stop texting/sexting other men. It’s devastating and I feel emasculated and hurt. We’ve been together for 17 years and have 5 kids. I’ve caught her so many times it’s insane and I feel like a POS for putting up with it but I want to protect my kids from a divorce. I hide it from people because it’s embarrassing and I’m ashamed of myself for staying.

[paulawilliams]

My new husband texts his x way too much about the kids. They all gave phones. I feel there may be something more than coparenting. Very thin boundaries

[sonicblur]

Cheating is cheating, regardless of the nature of the act or person it’s a choice get over them and move on

[biancaopala]

My confusion lies in that, if I am not telling my partner the texting is unacceptable and leaving when it happens or saying why it hurts me....he is getting the best of both worlds, a supportive fun wife and also this coworker who he can text...he gets the best of both worlds and sees there aren't consequences for how he is acting ...that his behaviours are reinforced with my positive attitude