The 5 Biggest Red Flags of the Narcissist

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HG Tudor explains the five biggest red flags the narcissist displays when ensnaring somebody. Get informed and inform others.

[l.c]

Narcissists are suffocating. I would never allow that sort of behaviour in my life again.

[teachersusan]

When I was ensnared by the narc I was an easy target because I was feeling lonely.
I had just come back from almost 2 years abroad, had moved to a new place and job away from family and friends.
He was filling a void. Moving fast. I was hooked pretty fast.
After 10 years, 2 kids and horrendous abuse I got away.
It changed me forever.
Would have been great if I had known about red flags 30 years ago … 😂

[jamesdean]

1. Monopolisation of time
2. Changing you
3. Excessive flattery
4. Fast forwarding
5. Lots of surprises

[hakametal]

This is very straight forward advice that everyone needs to look out for. If it feels too much too soon, look at it objectively.

[CC-ijyf]

Things that may take more time to notice, but I'll add to this list:
- they can never admit they're wrong
- continually blame others
- they will never apologize
- may appear generous yet gifts come with strings attached

[taracat]

I had a new " friend"..who I perceived was needy..which is ok with me to a degree. She actually was a big narc, who turned out to be nasty AF.

[michaelcliffe]

"She's already annoying the hell out of you now with her incessent texting and wierd offers to help you with things you never asked for. Imagine how annoying and draining that'll get once she's got her foot in the door. Sounds like she's a complete nut job to me.." said my best mate to me while I was in the "golden period" with a good looking, funny and charismatic woman. My best mate was the first person to mention the word "narcessist" to me, thus sending me down the rabbit hole and probably saving my life... Years later by sheer coincidence I met someone who knew her ex husband who I was told was a broken man who never got to see his daughter. Thanks to my best mate I dodged that bullet. Narcs really are rubbish and the bain of humanity.

[bluerose_]

There's a joke I heard long ago in a group session of NA... What does an addict bring on the second date? A moving van... I shall now replace addict with narcissist 😂

[thaleianienna]

My ex narc did literally all of these 😂.. I did question him during the love bombing phase saying that he was going too fast, and then he said he’s hurt as feels like I was questioning his values 🙄 he thought that once his mask drops (after 3 months) and started the devaluing process (triggered by me trying to put up boundaries with him as he was disrespecting me) that I would stay, as his lovebombing game I must admit is top notch and he thought I was emotionally hooked.. little did he know that I refuse to tolerate disrespect, and I went no contact on that clown 🙄

[katelondon]

I’ve always been creeped out when I dated somebody when I was younger, and they used to talk about getting married on the third date.

For a LONG time I thought I was a commitment phobe and I should WANT these things. Constantly my friends brought up the movie “ RunAway Bride”. I tried to say I didn’t think real life was like a Julia Roberts movie. I would bail, they would shake their heads.

It wasn’t until I found HG Tudor that I realized that I was not in fact a weirdo. But actually just frankly smart enough and lucky enough to listen to my Spidey Senses, and get out when I felt uncomfortable, even when I didn’t know why.

[baldersn]

Even most therapists don't know about it..

[CamCam-mqji]

I wish h g was broadcast everywhere, 24/7 so we could avoid these things

[missstarrynight]

Monopolization of time was the HUGE first red flag, which I was unaware of. Basically, I was "befriended" by him ultra fast. Since I was a neglected child, who had no real interactions with peers, I had no healthy point of reference! So when suddenly became "visible" to someone, and he wanted to chat with me all the time, for many hours a day, even when he was at work, ugh.... I really thought that he likes me a lot. I had no idea, that healthy people make appointments instead of "time-bombing" someone.
Interestingly enough, the discard phase has a motto, verbalized to justify all his wrongdoings: "Bad timing". Bad timing, always bad timing. So,

[teshastevenson]

This man literally had all of these...every one!

[theguynextdoor]

Don't listen to a lot of these "pick up artists", and dating gurus. They are basically teaching men narcissistic moves, to try and manipulate a woman into liking them. Serious mature people don't play silly games of cat and mouse.

[Mortred]

Before listening, I shall give one that might be a tiny bit more difficult to spot:
They extremely rarely actually apologize. It's always with a qualifier, shifting responsibility elsewhere.
"I'm sorry that YOU feel that way."
"I couldn't have possibly known that."
"I'm sorry that I couldn't do what YOU wanted me to."
With this, there is also an advice: If you haven't done anything wrong, do not apologize. If you did, just apologize(unless you're being coerced into it at the same time).

[lisadeee]

Excellent video HG, like many others, if only I knew this before I let him in to ruin my life 😢
He’s gone but the nasty memories have not unfortunately.

[sharonalbanese]

it is so obvious now, looking back. Thanks for your excellent information HG.

[Absimus]

Looking back now my ex ticked all the boxes of a covert narcissist!!!

[michellehogg]

oh my god my ex has every single one of these!!