7 Tips to Get Over A Breakup: Anxious Attachment

//7 Tips to Get Over A Breakup: Anxious Attachment // Navigating the emotional maze after a relationship ends can be challenging, especially for those who identify with the anxious attachment style. Rooted deeply in attachment theory, this style often manifests in individuals as a profound yearning for closeness, paired with fears of abandonment. Such feelings can intensify during heartbreaking breakups, leading to heightened distress and a relentless struggle with questions like "How to get over someone you love?"

The concept of the anxious preoccupied mindset brings to light behaviors and patterns that many face while dating or in committed relationships. This pattern can sometimes feel like a curse, making breakups even more challenging to process. The good news? Understanding attachment styles in relationships can offer clarity, healing, and a roadmap towards more secure emotional connections.

Our latest video delves into the nuances of the anxious attachment style, unpacks the principles of attachment theory, and importantly, offers guidance on how to get over a breakup. By tuning in, you're not just gaining knowledge but acquiring actionable strategies to recover, rejuvenate, and rebuild after painful separations. Discover the transformative power of understanding attachment and the benefits it brings to your romantic life. Don't miss out on this enlightening journey towards healing and hope.

Specifically, this video includes:

[00:00] Intro
[02:29] How does anxious attachment affect a breakup?
[05:54] CARD: NO CONTACT AND AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT, WHAT THEY’RE FEELING RIGHT NOW]
[04:52] How to get over a breakup with anxious attachment?
[07:28] 7 Tips to Get Over A Break-Up When You Have Anxious Attachment
[08:26] CARD: HOW TO FINALLY LET GO OF A LOVER: 4 CRUCIAL EMOTIONS YOU CANNOT BYPASS
[10:04] CARD: INNER CHILD HEALING WITH PARTS WORK
[17:35] Final Thoughts
Be sure to bring a pen and paper when you watch this video, because you are definitely going to want to save this one, and take notes!

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[clarefraser]

Thank you. I just heard yesterday that my husband of 20 years is leaving me. He's avoidant and hasn't coped with my need for care after my brother's suicide a year and a half ago. I fainted when he told me. It's abandonment during the worst time of my life.

[hgzmatt]

Honestly, there is nothing more painful than this. But thankfully it does get easier, my first breakup made me fall apart, this one was a lot more gradual but my recent ex has also been very gentle with me and didn't just disappear. With experience you learn to handle your fear of abandonment and the rumination gets manageable also.

[minaXO]

This brought me more comfort than any of the 100099900s videos ive watched since my breakup 4 weeks ago. Thank u, thank u, thank you

[sharvarimusic]

I feel really cared for watching you talk about being patient with oneself. Thank you this has been very particularly helpful for us anxious attachment style people.

[soldieroftafari]

I just has a short term mild thing end. It showed me what work I have yet to do as far as being an anxious attatcher. Thank you for this. It wasnt a great fit between us two, but it was still the most consistent thing ive had in a long time, and I feel the loss over the intimacy.

[dustin]

I’m the one that broke up with him because of cheating, and I just miss him so much and want to be friends. This really helped me calm those feelings of reaching out and feel like I’ll be ok. If it’s meant to be it will be, if not, at least I’ll be healed in the future and able to accept it.

[honeymoney]

i don't think i can go no contact for that long. but I will definitely practice the rest of these tips! Thank you Briana!

[Canwegetawhoohoo]

I just want to stop fantasizing. I beat myself up by saying i pushed him away..i wasnt enough fun. I just wanted to be respected and comforted, he did this with his ' female friends' I was just an option. He called everyday but always on his time. Im conflicted. Was he good or was i an option? He had 48 woman from different countries blocked on his phone. I never felt special. Im just picturr him witj someone else going to travel ect. All the things we could do. I just felt like i was never enough

[sumuvilneverknow]

I feel little better after watching this video.

[joea]

Thank you Briana. This is comforting to me. 😊

[mjbitz]

My conundrum is that while I don’t hesitate to initiate no contact but during that time (for my DA it usually takes him a month to reach out) bc I’m already struggling w/depression and anxiety I tend to ruminate and not work on my goals 😢😢

[mildly]

I can never measure up to his ex and my anxious attachment makes me stop liking myself and think
I am the problem. I have to come here and committed to myself that I can do it and that I can’t change myself but I can heal

[matteorayner]

Thank you for this video, it’s really validating to know that I’m not crazy! Having an avoidant partner leave after 14 years is not easy. I feel for anyone going through what I’m going through. I’ve just signed up for piano lessons which I’ve been putting off for years so time to do me for a while!

[andreacoutts]

Thank you for this video. It helps a lot.

[muttervonkatzen]

How do you do no contact when you have to live together and have to coparent????

[maryhartley]

Im 61 my dismissive avoidant broke up with me because he said he isnt in love with me. Im heartbroken, how can it take, 15 month to say hes never loved me, he said he cant find sny fault eith me and he will probably regret his decision. I don't understand if i have no faults why end it. Any advice appreciated

[mn]

16:50 is beautifully said. 18:45 indeed. 19:40 Thank you!

[colin.]

I feel like i am very avoidant in the relationship. I avoid intimacy, vulnerability abd expressing my emotions. But in a breakup i get very anxious and it crushes me in all aspects of my life. But then i go into full on self repair mode, working out etc. But i still cant stop thinking of her unless ingaged in an activity to distract me. I was in a 8 year marriage that didnt affect me at all emotionally. But now recently got broken up after a 4 month relationship with another anxious or fearful (not quite sure) and I'm a mess.

[magius-jogl]

I have a anxious attachment style "open heart"
But I learned how to deal with it since I was a kid
I immediately ghost the person mentally
been doing this since all my life
so why does someone get upset?
I don't understand
I tell them how and why
and they get upset?
but I respect their choice to dial back
from romance and they want to be friends
I can't have friends never have.
so why do they get upset?