How to Get Your Ex To Forgive You

Hi everyone -- here's another video here brought to you by Brad Browning. That's me! I'm a relationship coach, dating expert, and the creator of The Ex Factor Guide -- a program that teaches men and women to get their exes back into their life.

The subject of today's video is a little painful... it's going to teach you how to get your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend to forgive you. I know how difficult it can be to get someone to forgive you. It's not easy. The amount of guilt that you feel for hurting someone you love can sometimes be unbearable.

The amount of time it's going to take for your ex to forgive you is obviously going to vary depending on the situation. Obviously, if you've done something serious like cheat on him or her, the amount of time required for your ex to recover may be significant.

Regardless of the length of time, you must know one thing: You can't make your ex forgive you FASTER. There's no magic sentence or magic potion that will expedite this process. And the difficult thing is is that everyone's different. Some people have a tendency to forgive quickly, and some don't.

Now, if you think your situation is a little unique, don't hesitate to drop me a comment right below this video and I'll do my best to answer your question, free of charge.

Regardless of what you think about your situation, you have to remember just a few key pointers...

1.) You need to apologize and put your heart and soul into it.

I know, this is an obvious one...but hear me out. You need to sit down and look into your partner's eyes and tell them how sorry you are. Make sure they know how badly you feel. Make sure your apology feels real -- not rushed and fabricated. Your apology should come directly from your heart because you mean it.

2.) Don't apologize TOO much.

You need to apologize a few times to start (depending on what you've done wrong), but that's where the words end. Sometimes when somebody hurts you, the last thing you want to hear is "I'm sorry" over and over again. Apologizing once or twice, but really meaning it is a lot more powerful than a million "I'm sorry's".

3.) Allow your ex to ask you questions.

Your ex probably wants to know the details of why you did what you did. Allow him or her to ask you anything they want about what happened. Tell them succinctly and honestly, but always make sure you have an undertone of regret. Helping your ex understand the situation might lessen the blow a little bit.

4.) Don't just say things...DO things.

Yeah, you know the old cliche: Actions speak louder than words and talk is cheap. This is all true. You need to rebuild the trust and love that your ex once had with you, and you simply can't do that just by saying a few words to him or her. You have to take action. If this means buying her flowers or giving your man a massage, then do it. If it means being supportive emotionally through this difficult time, then do it.

5.) Give your ex some space IF THEY NEED IT.

Sometimes your ex will tell you to just "GET OUT." At that point, don't linger. Get out of there. You've said everything you've needed to say and now your ex needs some time alone to process the information. And this is a good thing. You don't want to be around your ex when he or she is angry at you... it will only make things worse. Sometimes, giving each other space is the best to get your ex to forgive you.

6.) Promise you won't ever do it again...

Finally, you need to promise that this won't happen again. Not really shocking advice, but it has to be said. But now here's the kicker... you need to keep that promise.

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[magdyamged]

belive it or not guys, all brad's advice worked with me, now she is in love with me once again, now she is chasing me ..
thank brad

[bl.bostyncrow]

She's so angry and resentful. she knows I'm sorry, but seeing her just confuses her and makes her more mad. she still loves me but I think she likes to hold the anger towards me? Please help me help her. or just help me do what I need to do for us both.

[chynnarodriguez]

you're right brad..i think i'll just move on for good..im just so tired being in a wrong relationship..im better off alone..thank you :)

[kellydossantos]

I have apologized countless times, but all he responded was “ My heart is different, I don’t see a future for us, move on.” What would you advise me? Should I let go?

[nickfrosttotoro]

I love watching all of your videos. You give great advices that I rush into watching it when I see a new video from you :)

[estyle]

How can you apologize face to face when they won't call or text you back?

[jakewatson]

Brad browning I told another girl I fancy her and said I hope one day when we are both single we can go out

[kentucky_ken]

My girlfriend is very jealous!! I just talked to my co worker and had laughs then she got mad at me, didn't want to talk to me, unfriended me on facebook, etc. Now, we're kinda ignoring each other. And I'm applying the "No contact rule". Hope it works.

[devyanshuaggarwal]

Hi Brad ! It's been almost 15 days since my breakup. I had been a bit aggressive (not violence, just the tone of saying things) lately and probably that has pushed her away from me, knowing how positive I used to be and how negative I've become.
I've contacted her a couple of times since then just to say that I am really apologetic about my behaviour, no matter what the actual point of disconnect was. And I actually am apologetic about it.
I am working on myself to get over that negativity, but am just concerned cz I don't want to lose her in the process.
Please suggest.

[sebastianborja]

So here’s a story: I made the mistake of creating a tinder account but didn’t go through with anything. Never liked, talked or meetup with nobody. My girlfriend find out that I created tinder and broke up with me. Now after that we talked 2 days after that and she asked for space. She said she loves me still and that she misses me a lot. Today is the second day we havent talk and im giving her the space. Im also Applying the no contact rule. She said it’s cheating to her even though I never met her or did anything with no one. What can you tell me about this?

[lorenaulloa]

Hi Brad, I had been dating my boyfriend for 2 months.  I said some really hurtful things in our last big fight last week and he blocked me on facebook and on his phone.  I know where he lives but I have not dared to look for him.  I called him from my house phone yesterday and left him a message because he did not answer. I don't know if he got the message or not.  I care about him and want him back as a friend.  I was very clingy and insecure and I know that drove him away that is why I want to be his friend only to avoid all the drama.  I know he loves me though.  There is no way to contact him other than physically going to his house.  How long should I wait for him to cool off so that I can go see him and apologize properly in person and to maybe work things out?  Thanks 

[jonathancruz]

Hey Brad. Been watching your videos for a while and definitely been enjoying them. Definitely have some really helpful information that's been helping. Well my question is what do I do if my girlfriend is 10 years younger than me and stubborn? Right now we broke up after 2 years and honestly we've had a lot of issues and most of them were from me because of my depression which I'm getting over now and issues with her living how about an hour away with both of us not being able to drive

[katelynjournigan]

how do i get my ex to believe me when he accuses me of cheating and i havent

[mikefoster]

Thank you for the reply. She never told me who was there. Her attitude changed for a while. Today she told me she felt angry and dissatisfied. I asked her what about but she said she didn't know. I offered to be her sounding board; but she claimed she wasn't in the mood for social interaction and it wasn't just me, but anyone. I can't help but feel like she doesn't want to be with me anymore but doesn't have the courage to tell me

[elizabethclouser]

my ex thinks I cheated when I didn't how can I get him back

[kashawindsor]

at which stage should you apologise to your ex, during the no contact or after?

[stephb]

What if your ex tells you that he/she won’t accept your apology because you’ve apologized for the same mistakes a few times? But he/she never apologized for his/her repeated mistakes!!! And now they are holding it against you. Have blocked you and said that they hated you?

[ghoulgelix]

This guy is a legend still liking comments over 6 years ago

[robertramirez]

Hey Brad! I just wanna say that this video really helped me with my situatuon! So thank you for all your work!

[debbiekostoglakis]

I really hope you take the time to read this and respond. I'm running out of options.

There's this guy that has done something terrible to me (we were never in a relationship or anything like that, but he ruined my life by doing something drastic) I wanted revenge on him. So for a few months now I've been pretending to like him. My goal was to make him fall for me so I can break his heart and cause him as much pain as he caused me a while back.
Well, within these past few months I've found myself falling for him. He later found out about my plan and he now wants nothing to do with me. I really do love this guy. I started off pretending I liked him but ended up actually falling for him in the process.

How do I win him back?