PART I: STOP IMPULSE SHOPPING FOR GOOD | What to do in the moment when you're tempted to shop

Today I want to share psychological strategies for eliminating excessive or impulsive shopping. This may also help you on your journey toward minimalism. Of course, these are just my opinions, and feel free to share your ideas in the comments, too! I have two more videos on this topic to come!

[AverageAufa]

i think we buy things that represent who want to be, but in reality it’s just not us. i would love to be someone w lots of odd trinkets n quirky decorations in my room… but honestly i like empty counters n walls bcoz it gives me peace

[emilytahni]

A strategy I use is thinking about the time/effort it would take to return an item I’m not 100% sure of.

[Donna_]

I often put items in my on-line shopping cart then come back a week later and usually delete it. Totally agree with your delay, distract, and defame concept. Thank you for these videos!

[eaglbabe]

I appreciate these videos. I found for me, putting a wait period on things only increases my desire for an item. I kind of “lust” after it. It’s basically the same mentality as restricting certain foods. I become fixated and then “binge” buy on the day the waiting period ends. Obviously that’s something I need to reflect on and unpack but I find that having a shopping window and set budget relaxes my brain a bit, decreases the desire. It also helps eliminate a lot of the underlying negative feels I have when shopping. I find that I also have to consider how choices I make for other areas of my life gives me decision fatigue. If I am needing to stay highly organized and well planned for work, it makes it difficult to put that energy elsewhere. Additionally I eat a plant based diet. While I don’t personally find it restrictive for myself and really enjoy it, trying to eat out at a restaurant or at social gatherings at friends homes requires a lot of forethought and planning because I don’t want others to feel impacted by my eating choices. So I have the responsibility to myself to get my nutrition needs meet with out a negative social impact.

[robynwells]

I’m 62 and have had a lot of shopping experience, for my children and myself. I shop for basics and staples all the time. In the last 10-15 years finding simple well made clothes that aren’t too…something is like finding a needle in a haystack. At one time, about twice a year, I’d do a shopping trip for basics and some extras and that would be it. They weren’t perfect but they were good pieces. I know because I have clothes from yesterday year that are wonderful. After having conversations with other people-young and old I have found they are experiencing the same thing. I hate shopping, but I also hate going out in faded worn clothing.

[AverageAufa]

i had a bad relapse from no spend to excessively spending

[LookInside]

Thrift store shopping has been an issue for me for YEARS ~ as a teen it was kind of a cool underground thing in the 80's, but I've never outgrown it. It is a distraction, it's sort of social, there is even a sense of community to it - from city to small town. The dopamine rush of a "GREAT deal" or "Total score" (eg: a pair NEW of AS98s for 40 dollars!) This is a totally different sort of shopping that almost blurs into gambling. We can't 'delay' because there is only ONE item, and it's random. Still, I KNOW I do not 'need' pretty much ANYTHING I score, other than fitness, cycling or swim gear :(

[janicevin]

I stopped online shopping for clothes, shoes, bags, jewelry as it NEVER is the way I imagined: wrong fit, wrong colour, wrong texture, etc...I make lists of what to buy, many lists and then after a while I compare the lists to see what remain constant and then go buy it!!!( I am now able to wait up to 2/3 months before shopping for my item)

[AhmetKaan]

*5 things to quit for all people:*

*1. Caring about what others think*
*2. Not believing in yourself*
*3. Not prioritizing your health*
*4. Wasting your precious time*
*5. Chasing meaningless relationships*

[Gen-Rev]

De frame: Read the negative reviews of the product and think on that !

[sandramaki]

Love this! Especially defaming what you want to buy. I so often over-idealize something I want to buy and then when I get it, I find something wrong with it. Fantastic advice! Can’t wait for part 2!! 💚💚💚

[jonawesolowski-thecommunit]

Thank you. I have gotten very bad with this and seeing these tips gives me hope I can stop before financial catastrophe

[katharinadavis]

I have been using the DDD method and they do work BUT in addition, I think of the environmental impact. I have been making a conscious move away from fast fashion and fast anything. If it’s not an environmentally sound item, I consider how often I would use it to justify the purchase. The hardest things are decorative items - when you have too much it’s clutter. Or it doesn’t go with your home. So I consider that too.

[gracedarlenemcpherson]

I really liked the defame portion of your video. I plan to use this the next time I am tempted to make a purchase I don't really need. Thanks for the tip.

[justamom]

I am watching this video as I add items to my IKEA cart. To say it's ironic is an understatement.

EDIT: I reduced my cart by a further $230 after watching the video and now the frivolous stuff (toys for Christmas and stationery storage) is now $107 worth. The rest are necessities. The defame method is excellent!

[mannychohan]

I recently decided to cut down impulsive shopping. Dedicated Wednesday and Saturday when any money will be spent be it groceries, gas for car or anything else. Its really helps cut down wasteful spending. Keeping my budget in tight control. Helping me learn to cook own my own food than spending money for lunch. Not to mention the time saved making trips to shops.

[DemetriPanici]

It's so hard this time of year because there are a million ads hitting you with holiday deals

[TheAAnne]

Yes, DELAY 👍🏻
Even while shopping at Wallymart I will reconsider near the end of my shopping and go put some things back on the shelf - it’s one way to add more steps to my Step-Garmin.

[christianegrimard]

Good tips often after 24 hours I forget… other tips shop my closet try new outfits with old clothes inspiring by the best in it Alyssa Beltempo looks their Chanel you will find inspiration … thank’s for this video love it!

[anastasiaromanova]

Thank you so much. Perfect! Looking forward to next video.