Why Women Avoid Accountability (And How To Make It Happen)

I'm broaching a tough but necessary topic that many of you guys have brought up: the challenge of accountability in relationships, particularly with some women. After a decade of working with couples and individuals, I've seen firsthand the frustration and confusion this can cause. But it's not as straightforward as it might seem. Together, we'll explore the societal constructs and personal hurdles that can lead to this accountability gap and how we, as partners, can foster an environment where taking responsibility becomes a shared and empowering aspect of our relationships.

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[WhiskeySpruce]

The fact that you had to start with a disclaimer to women not to take it personal, proves the entire point of the video.

[nasirthesenatejohnson]

I made the mistake of confronting her head on about her behavior, not knowing that I was giving her all the ammunition she needed to confirm her victim mentality

[mickbenson]

I've been with dozens of women at this point and lived with many women in my immediate family my entire life. It has been my unfortunate experience that women take zero accountability for their words or actions and never apologize. They also innately have extremely little empathy for the men who take care of them. It is what it is. We're wired completely differently by evolution.

[Chrono]

Why is it that womens emotions are always catered to while men are expected to just deal with it?

[coreyondavis]

what ive learned is that women hate being critiqued but love doing the critiquing. At this point, fellas, dont even bother trying to teach the unteachable. Dont even say nothing, let them fall into the pit of hell without warning. Experience is a harsh teacher, first comes the test next comes the lesson

[GJones]

From my experience, avoiding taking accountability for a woman is before the relationship even starts. They usually show those characteristics in the beginning. It hard to tell if it is testing or just a complicated woman.

[citydogpack]

I don’t think instilling accountability into women should be a man’s job unless it’s the woman’s father. If she can’t take accountability as a woman I’d rather just stay away.

[Zero_Zero_Zero_Zero]

We can't even have the conversation without your having to soften it for them to protect their delicate feelings. Honestly it's a bit of a joke at this point. Lack of accountability is lack of respectability. You want respect? Grow up. It's really not any more complicated than that.

[vira]

He correctly identifies that the framing of men as predator and women as victim has led to women not taking accountability. However he deliberately downplays it. (Fear of feminists).This is a pervasive and massive problem that has permeated every section of our society., especially the bureaucracies that run it. (Corporations Government etc.) Even now most people have not recognized the profoundly vile implications of this, The sheer unfairness of it all is causing men to check out while the lack of accountability for women means that terrible ideas are spreading like wildfire simply because women will not hold other women accountable. Truth has been sacrificed for so called cohesion and now we have neither.

[tomhansche]

And now we know why hearing the words “I’m sorry” from a woman is so rare.

[marik]

First I read the comments and wondered why men surround themselves with women like this, then I realized men have families like these women (mothers, sisters..) and I only feel sorry for the men. I'm a woman, I take accountability, I was taught by my father to do that.

[Innitsoph]

I resonate with these points as a woman. The patriarchy thing not so much as I’m bi and let me tell you, it still happens in relationships with no men lol. For me it has the most to do with feeling emotionally vulnerable when confronted, so the instinct is to get back to emotional safety “but my intentions are good, I’m a good person, you just don’t understand me” It’s unconscious but I would say thats what’s going on internally. Then the interaction is me trying to prove all that and not about the actual issue. The BEST way to respond is with calm and vulnerability (stating the emotional impact). My bf right now does say “you/ that hurt my feelings” and it’s immediately disarming because 1. I can’t argue with it and 2. it puts the focus on his hurt and away from my emotional state, so I actually start thinking about it objectively, and am able to identify with my part in an honest way. Still working on getting to that point sooner though :( Good video, thanks for the balanced take.

[bobbysayasane]

Men: My fault
Women: Yes, your fault. Always your fault

[thomp]

My observation is that accepting accountability for a woman becomes a defensive posture they take because admitting in front of a man makes them feel vulnerable. So things like apologies and accepting accountability they seem to avoid like the plague and would literally rather take it to the grave. It is actually really sad and needs to improve because the true sign that distinguishes us as adults is not just the willingness to accept compliments and reward but also criticism and accountability otherwise we are all just taller adolescent children in adult bodies.

[vbj]

How do these women respond to constructive criticism, negative feedback, and performance reviews in their careers? There is an incentive to be accountable in our professions, regardless of our gender. Is it only in their intimate relationships that they choose not to be accountable for their actions or lack thereof?

[crossfitruston]

I love my wife and daughters very much, and my staff who are women are great people but every single one struggles to take accountability in the best cases and will outright lie to avoid accountability in the worst ones. It makes no sense to me!

Since this is a feature of the women we love, there’s no point in sending this video to any of them as they will-
1. Likely not watch it
2. Become angry at you for sending it to them and accuse you of personally attacking them.
3. Combo of the top two.

It’s so incredibly frustrating to deal with the sex who we were raised to believe had “emotional intelligence” and are “great communicators”; and we find out in maturity they are the least clear or direct communicators and are actually very emotionally callous towards others, men especially. I just want to have a peaceful home.

[MortenRoarBerg]

Feels like this advice on how to get basic human dignity from your girlfriend comes down to treating her like a child. You have to be in complete control emotionally, reasure her and basically abandon the emphasis of your part of the negotiation. This is one of the most basic relational skills. Its understandable that dudes leave if girls cant figure it out.

[infinitedurr]

I’ve never clicked on a video so fast 😂

[aalvarez]

I really appreciate you tackling this topic. The phrase patriarchy virus encapsulates the concept of prejudice against men very well. We recognize prejudice against women as misogyny, and we recognize prejudice against Black people as racism. What do we call prejudice against men? Women can begin to take accountability by answering that question.

[Botch_TV]

Interesting topic. I had a similar conversation with my therapist about how men and women are different. How men tend to be more direct in their communication while women tend to generally be more indirect especially about the part where you said a man will directly hold someone accountable, we’ll say “hey dude that wasn’t cool” and women will be more indirect and character assassinate to the point where they’ll agree. Of course, there are exceptions to this but that’s usually how it is. It’s definitely an interesting concept to tackle. Knowing who you’re communicating with and how they respond to things.