How to Get Him To See You As Wife Material

1.) You know how to handle yourself. Of course, guys always like a damsel in distress, but when it comes to being his WIFE, a guy wants to know that you can handle yourself. That means that you know how to live life independently and you don’t always need to him to do everything for you. Of course, it doesn’t hurt to also be as financially independent as possible. Guys will respect you for it – and they will be more likely to see you as wifey material.

2.) You’ve got some brains to back up that beauty. This doesn’t mean you have to be a scholar coming out of Yale, but showing that you’re more than just a GORGEOUS face is one of the biggest things guys look for. The best way to show off your intellect is to always grow – teach him about the things that you love. For example, if you’re into plants, you can tell him about all the species that would work great in his living room. Or educate yourself about something you’ve always wanted to know more about and then challenge him. Even though guys say a smart girl intimidates them, a guy NEEDS to have a wife that can stimulate his mind on a regular basis.

3.) Take care of yourself. Of course, this one’s a pretty obvious one… but if a guy senses that you will let yourself go in the future, he’ll more than likely run for the hills. So keep active and healthy – not for him, but for yourself too. And remember, guys are EXTREMELY visual creatures and they can’t help but be attracted to someone who they find physically gorgeous… so use this little psychological trick to your advantage here.

4.) You force him to be a better man. I always say… one of the best signs that you’re with the RIGHT person is if that person brings out the best in you. So do this for him! Help him grow… whether it be physically, intellectually, or spiritually. Support him and his passions. Support his work or his education. Doing so will force him to view you as future wife material… I can promise you that.

5.) Get along with his friends. That doesn’t mean you have to like them or want to hang out with them… but if his friends see you as “the cool girl”, it’ll force him to really value what he has. Guys want to feel like they’re better than their mates so give him one big reason to think that he has the coolest girl in the world!

6.) Focus on shared values. This one can be a tough one because some people have hardcore, set values that they can’t change. But it’s important to hone in on the core values that you DO share together. Are you both family oriented? Then make sure that you have your family life in order at all costs. Do you guys value independence and travel? Then help him (and yourself) find ways to save up for that next big trip to South East Asia. Remember, he has to view you as his teammate… because the more he sees you in this light, the more likely he is to consider marriage with you.

7.) You call him on his BS. Calmly. Honesty is the backbone of any strong marriage… and if you’re always telling him the sweet stuff, he’ll trust his instincts and run for the hills. Guys value that upfront attitude. That means if he’s dropping his responsibilities around the house, call him out on it – but do it in a way that isn’t an overreaction. If you and your man can calmly work through your problems, he’ll see you as wifey material.

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[patienceaddo]

Thanks Amy you are really doing a great job thanks

[CalvinJamesJr]

Just be a solid chick without the games

[Erowens]

As a guy
1. Long term hot. I want to feel like even when she's 40, she'll still be the hottest 40y woman I know. I want to trust you won't let yourself go.
2. Supportive
3. Not stupid. Don't have to be smart, just don't be harmfully stupid, especially in financial matters.
4. Good mother material. Ultimately, the long term goal of an LTR is children. So it stands to reason men will prefer a wife who would make a good mother.
5. Respectful.
6. Treat him like a man. Not like your girlfriend. Like a man. That's what he is.
7. Genuinely love sex. I don't want a wife who just uses sex as a tool to manipulate me, or just doesn't want it. I want a woman who has sex with me for the fun of it.
8. Don't nag.
9. Be feminine.

[sameichang]

So many women who dont have these get married…

[cococha]

Men love independent women, be a giver not just a taker.

[GGSprductions]

As a man I approve all these points, damn.. well done Amy. I don't even know why I watched this video but this was spot on.

[nishazamanianti]

Thank you so much Amy, I really need this video.
You deliver it very well😁you're gorgeous😊😊

[eman_nn]

Amy my boyfriend use to love me alot and even before dating he never got offended over anything I did but now lately we been fighting alot because he gets offended over small things or even over small jokes I make to fix his mood and he's very distant we lost the spark nothing is same anymore although I'm being positive and all cheerful to not appear a sad or depressed person cause even that pisses him off but I was wondering if u can make a video on how to handle such situations. I'm really going through other stuff aswell and his behavior just messing with me more. it'd be very kind of u to help me get through this 🥺♥️

[joyjuly]

Honestly I have all these traits still he don’t want to marry me he has his stupid excuse I’m just hurt why did he got into my life and made me fall for him he went to far with me and at last when i loved him back he changed and treat like I’m just a friend but still want to be with me God I’m suffering

[filipina]

What my husband sees me as a wife material is, I cook for him and for our family, like every day from bfast to dinner. I take care of him, from the clothes he's wearing to the food that he's eating.. But sometimes those things aren't enough to stop him form cheating.

[MikaylaTheMermaid]

I'm going to have to rewatch this one...

[cece]

Seriously im a giver and im tired of giving since im 7 thats all i do im 33 with 2 kids and im looking for someone who is serious want to settle too much to ask for in this day and age... Think il remain single

[indisingh]

Hey Ms North Thanks for this video I browsed your website couple days back and even if I wish to email you I
forgot my password

[arwa]

Thank you we need more video for people who already in a relationship for more than two years, I’v finished your devotion system book and TextChemistry wasn't easy but it is work, love you ❤️

[mayzoro]

I recently found your channel and I’m so glad! You’re videos are so clean and precise, I love you have all those relationship topics so hard to find from a woman’s perspective. Kisses from Mexico!

[jacquelinemwansa]

Would you please make a video on how to respond to your man..when he tells you about his finacial problems?

[lucyfunnell]

Thank you so much for the video it has really helped me understand about marriage and relationships and take the guy for who really he is I'm in a happy relationship and I took the guy for who he is and I'm really happy thank you so much again Lucy

[Rumi]

Mam...I can not understand English very good.i am Urdu speaking from pakistan.but I always watch ur every video...plz tell me.how can attract a guy through text???

[tonybrown]

Ask yourself why do you want to get married? If the answer is to get the house and children then marriage is probably a good idea as he will be more financially obligated to pay for that lifestyle whether you choose to stay with him or not. If you do not work, as little as ten years of marriage can qualify you for a lifetime of alimony. If you want to marry because you believe it will strengthen the relationship and make you both happier it will not. Marriage introduces legality which causes all kinds of pressures and insecurities, especially in men. When you have children they are the priority and new relationship, little time is left for the old relationship and it is left on the back burner, over the next twenty years raising the children unresolved arguments and dismissals are common and so when the children leave the nest the married couple typically go their own ways. 50% of marriages end in divorce, maybe 25% end up with couples cohabitating and living in separate bedrooms and the final 25% are maybe happy enough. If you want sparks and love and a real bond, skip marriage, skip the children, the real excitement is in dating and having a relationship that is about the two of you. Married couples typically end up bloated and depressed looking, dating apps are full of people trying to be the best version of themselves; the happiest time is when dating someone special, after that it is never as good. #keepingitreal

[digduged]

all i care about but nowhere did i hear:
1. no tattoos or piercings
2 .know how to cook
3. don't act like a 304, be feminine