The Problem With This Common Parenting Advice

Some common (well-meaning!) advice new parents hear can actually make things harder than they need to be. For a new parent who's already feeling anxious, wanting to make sure they do everything "right", unfortunately it can just add to the stress.

The good news is, sometimes doing a little less is actually better for your little one and for you. In this video I'll walk you through some of these common pieces of advice new parents hear and talk about why it's not really necessary, and what you can do instead that's easier and better for you both.

I really hope this helps make life with your newborn a little easier!

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[ElizabethJones-pvsj]

When it comes to baby's temperature the easiest advice I got from a midwife was cool cheek, warm forehead. if baby's cheeks are warm take off a layer of blankets, if their forehead is cool add a layer of blankets (or change the temperature of the whole room). That way you don't need to find a way to reach in under their clothes.

[maisinarisini]

It was actually an older Moroccan man that explained to us, as new parents, that the baby may "sleep" in noisy places, but they won't get that really deep sleep they need so much. And frankly, while we had our baby in a lot of bright, noisy places at the beginning of her life, every chance she did get to sleep in a quiet place she seemed to love it. Slept long, slept better, was in a better mood. And somehow that's just what we transitioned to. It was well worth it.

[NecroMorrius]

“Tire them out all day and they’ll sleep at night” is the worst advice I got from relatives. Thankfully one of my sisters is a sleep therapist and gave us the great advice to sleep as much as possible during the day in a dark room. Since 3 months he has slept perfectly all night and has slept a single 3 hour nap during the day since 1 year old.

[rebeccar]

All 3 of my kids are great sleepers and I have been following this advice since my 1st child. It made sense to me that they would need to sleep in a dark quiet room during the day when possible. But I will tell you that we had plenty of relatives who criticized me for it with every single one of my kids. It's very hard to handle the criticism especially when it's your first child.

[MikiMannikin]

How did we build the urge to train babies into every unnatural situation? My intuition waved red flags with every tip and trick like these… great video!❤

[daytonapeanut]

My parents tell me that I screamed for the first month and a half of my life and they understood it as colic. I was finally cured when a lady they met at a dry cleaning place who happened to have a lot of kids, placed me on my side and tapped me on the back and I was instantly better. She then reccomended to give me some peppermint water and I had no issues from then on. However, I still use peppermint to cure upset stomachs to this day.

[feistyferret]

"When babies get tired enough they'll succumb to sleep no matter where they are."
Someone forgot to tell my nephew that lol. 7 hours awake and practically delirious with tiredness... still won't sleep if he thinks he might be missing out on something.

[RememberToWaterYourPlants]

Thank you for this! I had so many people tell me to nap my son in the living room instead of his room because it was too quiet. I told them that babies, like adults, can get used to sleeping in noise and light, but it's not really the best sleeping conditions. I want my baby to get the best sleep, so I give him the best sleeping conditions. He's in a way better mood when he wakes up after a crib nap in the dark than a stroller nap or a car nap.

[psnights]

As a parent of twins, it's hard to follow the advice to just let them cry for a few minutes at night because the noise quickly wakes the other one up 😂. I hope you could also make sleep advice videos for multiples.

Love your channel! Your tummy time vids help my twins a lot. Cheers!

[rhv]

My baby sleeps best when carried or laying on my chest. And being in the same room as their parents reduces the risk of SIDS both day and night, which is important to me. So my baby doesn't sleep in a super quiet, dark room very often.

[elizabethdeal]

The cold feet thing always annoyed me when we stayed with my husband's grandma for two weeks after my c-section. Sometimes we would wake our son for feeding and she had dressed him for 65 degrees when she keeps her house ten degrees hotter, so he would be hot and sweaty. When i dressed him for the actual temperature, i always got admonished for not keeping him warm. What she forgot is that overheating can be fatal. You can always add layers if they're actually cold. Yet she was always admonishing me for his cold hands and feet. Thankfully he's almost 8 months old and is way better at regulating his body temperature.

[Anibunny]

It was definitely a crazy/interesting experience the first time I discovered my baby wanting to nap in his room as if it was bedtime. Just one day I could tell he was tired and he was being fussy. Even after making the office quiet for him and a little darker, he just wouldn't let himself sleep! So I decided to take him to his room where it was MUCH darker and cooler and shortly after putting him in his crib, he was out! Ever since then I can always expect him to want a "crib nap" around the same time every day. I just try to follow his cues!

[nicolecroxton]

I’d love to know your input on white noise, ocean noises, sleep machines, etc. I couldn’t find a video on your feed that shared your input but I could’ve missed it! Thanks for the advice, always. It’s been SO helpful here as a new Mommy. ❤

[cherylwilliams]

We were trying to explain this to my dad when we stayed with him as he would stomp around the house, his dog would constantly bark and doors would be closed loudly causing disruption to our 1 year-old's naps and night sleep. we noticed this caused him to be grumpy and fussy.

[poweroflove]

Thanks, Emma! You are a life saver!!....I never agreed on, when people said, "let there be noise when he's sleeping"...I would tell them, next time you sleep in the day I will come and make noise, how would you feel?

[TeaAddict]

I found it really really helpful to set a timer when bub would cry out at night (and it wasnt a "usual" feed time) just to make myself wait 3-5 minutes before going in. Something about having the timer was so helpful to easing my knee-jerk reflex to go and grab them immediately and soothe.
Also I have always aimed to sleep my kid in a dark, cool room or environment, with white noise, no matter what. I found it way more effective than the "loud & bright" naps idea 🤷 but it does mean that I get antsy when we are off the norm and I cant give him his usual routine 🙈

[emptysoul]

I just coddled my baby close when he started to fuss and when he got that glazy relaxed look I'd set him down in his crib in his room and just left him there in the dark and went out about the house to finally get my cleaning done while he napped he's a toddler now and will sleep anywhere I think the secret is to not wait until the kids is over exhausted and screaming and crying to try for a nap if you catch them at the first eye rub and little fuss and start the nap ritual then it's the best

[karolinastyczynska]

Thank you for all those helpful videos. Little over 1 month survived so far *uff*. I am learning baby language everyday, but being more effective thanks to your content!

[HumbleLeaf]

I wish all of these videos were given in a little pack after the birth of a child to every parent especially first time parents. It would have helped me through so many hard times as a first time parent. Especially sleep time.

[TsunaKimchi]

Thank you for this informative video! Sadly I cant say my baby falls asleep whenever sleep pressure is enough: as a newborn he used to be able to stay awake for 6 hours at a time and then I would struggle to put him to sleep as he was overtired. Turns out I wasnt able to notice signs he wanted to sleep (he would rub his eyes on my chest but only if I took him in my arms and he would rarely yawn). So once I noticed that he would show signs and calm down only in my arms, I realized he needed the security of my arms to sleep during the day ( I would stay awake in the quiet and dark living room). I couldnt understand because at night he sleeps in his crib very well (only wakes up once to eat from 2 months on and now barely wakes up at 7mo). It took me time (and going against the pressure of people around me) to accept that for now, my son needs me or his dad to fall asleep during the day (except in the car seat and stroller he can also fall asleep but after at least 30mins of looking around). To kind of stop looking around and relax in our arms. If I put him down in his crib he would wake up crying because of the change in his environnement after only 30mins naps. Whereas in my arms he can sleep 3h easily. So the choice was easy to make 😂