How To Ask for Help Without Feeling Needy | Kati Morton

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[Mtz]

This video made me cry. I'm on that process and I feel terribly guilty about asking help or venting out with love ones. But I'm fighting my nasty inner voice as much as I can.

[Lillie-mae.Edwards]

Positive self talk of course. (Damn it’s hard but you are right...)

[alejandracarranza]

“Reaching out for help means you’re really, really strong!” Love that!! :)

I’ve found journaling really helps me identify what I’m struggling with! I may not know how to fix it, but it makes it easier for me to ask my therapist and support system because I know what I need! Maybe because my mind is going a mile a minute and writing helps me slow down my thinking!

[kaethebratton]

Needing help is perfectly acceptable. Who doesn't need help sometimes? I love all of the help, time and effort you are doing for us to improve the way people view mental health concerns! Thanks for still being here Kati!

[necronyx]

I really, really needed this. I've been stuck between "I really need help" and "If I can decide to seek help, then I don't need help and I'm just being attention-seeking."

[MarizaaaT]

just talked to my therapist about struggling with this so much the other day! it has such a bad influence on my recovery but i’m trying to get better at it!!

[silverbroom]

I kind of want to make a point about therapists or other professionals thinking that not participating in therapy or doing homework in the ways that are expected is a sign that the client isn’t ready for help. For me anyway, it can be that the help is not the right kind of help. I’m very lucky to have found a therapist who commits to following my lead (unless I ask for or explicitly accept her guidance, and I always had final say) and she always tried to work with where I was at, rather than other situations where I’ve been misjudged for saying that x exercise or approach wouldn’t help me or for resisting it because it felt harmful. It was never an unwillingness to get better; it’s an inner knowing that x exercise or approach just isn’t what I need or isn’t sufficient or will make things worse. I think this is especially true when it comes to complex trauma.

[Neeshpeesh]

Omg I needed this. I clicked sooo fast!!!

[meow-rhto]

You're seriously such a kind soul.

[JustmeB]

Kati you have helped me so much the past couple of months since I’ve found your channel. Thank you. I hope everyone is having a beautiful day.

[watskyinparis]

What about if your depression makes you not care about getting better? Does that mean you're past the point of no return? It's been 8 years and there is still no desire. I'm uh... asking for a friend.

[jembee]

Ah smashed it again! This is so so helpful thank you

[katiebwheeler]

Ugh, yeah I have the "I don't want to bug anyone or be a bother syndrome" lol took me getting to the point of being suicidal to finally be like ok I don't have a choice I need some help! Lol have an incredible counselor now havent cut in 4+ months and working thru issues, it's hard work but my quality of life is soooo much better now!

[lynylcullen]

All VERY HELPFUL suggestions! I’m a “verbal diarrhea” person too. And it even overwhelms my therapist. I have a friend who told me last year “Use less words..”
She was helping me care for mom with dementia BUT… it actually translated to SO MANY OTHER INTERACTIONS… that I needed to be more MINDFUL about.
I think my friends appreciate my efforts to get my thoughts straight ahead..or just take a beat and say “Give me a minute. I need to get clear in my head.”
In addition… making the bullet points is actually an excellent suggestion. It helps with keeping the negative self-talk down.
Making a list of what we DO LIKE ABOUT OURSELVES is pure gold!
Thank you for all your hard work and content!

[byme]

Liking it before even watching it because your videos are always so helpful and well made

[guavagirl]

I've been beating myself up for going to theripy and this helped alot❤

[cindymadrigal]

Hi Kati, I like to watch your videos in between therapy appointments because aside from learning, I also gain better insight on what I want to talk to my therapist about and what I want to ask him. Thank you for all the work you do. It is highly appreciated.

[jaqueleenbenjamin]

I have been watching Kati for years now and I never regret :) this was really helpful. I just had my first counseling yesterday and I DID IT WOW CONGRATS SELF 🎈🎉🎊 yay!

[LBell]

Great video as usual. The thought of feeling needy is negative self talk, we gotta be nicer to ourselves and realize it’s not neediness, but rather that our feelings have justification and deserve to be heard also.

[holliesweet]

It’s amazing how relatable every one of your videos are! You are doing a great job❤️