How To Ask For Help

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[dis_is_sid]

PPA
1. Point out a flaw
2. Pick a goal you want to strive toward
3. Ask for help

[MrWinMrWin-qrbn]

Most of the time that I’ve asked for help in the past I’ve gotten answer around “you need to work on yourself.” What I really wanted to hear was “Let’s work on it together.”

[oppaloopa]

I love us teaching clients (and non clients) how to ask for help! But we also need to be reinforcing that it’s ok when someone does it.
People don’t like asking for help because they are used to being treated badly when they do. It creates a cycle that harms everyone.
So here’s what to do when someone asks you for help:
Give them your attention.
Tell them you hear them and want to help.
Listen to their request/problem.
Ask for suggestions on what you can do to help if none come to mind.
Take it step-by-step and understand solutions don’t come fast.
Know when to take a step back and say that this is above your wheelhouse and a professional needs to be brought in.

[auttexwolf]

My big issue is the feat that I won't receive any help. That anxiety holds me back from reaching out to professors in classes. I feel too ashamed because I should have it together but I don't.

[hocuspocus]

Some people never get over that first hurdle of admitting they have a flaw to begin with.

[DrPandaman]

My issue is that when I do ask for help, no one follows through with helping me.

[oldhaggys]

But the pain is when you ask for help over and over and over and get rejected all the time. Then you close down. You open up and ask for help and get shot down over and over

[kay]

More often than not people aren’t capable of giving the help you need

[ScarlettNyxx]

I'm not sure where to post to request content, but this seemed like a pretty fitting video, I hope this comment finds you. Could you do a video on self-harm/self mutilation? Like a break down of reasons why someone might do it, what you can do to stop or help someone else stop, and what the effects of it are both short term and long term.

[lkking-]

I don't know why but I'm starting to forget my emotions and feelings towards everything

[crow_feather]

Wow! I have been incredibly lonely for quite some time but didn't know how to form the friendships I was looking for. This really gives me awesome advice for how to do so! Thank you! ❤️🙏

[Bonz_Dilligaf]

I wanna be better at understanding who to and who not to trust. What to and what not to trust. Coz for the last 33 years it's been an absolute blur.

[Saltiren]

I love how Dr. K patches up the little gaps people have in their understanding.

[KidArez]

When I have done this to friends, they said: "me too bro"
When I have done this to family, they said: "I don't know how to help you."
When I said this to my father, he said: "Your issues and deficiencies are not important enough."
When I said this to my therapist, he said: "That's not my field."

Asking for help is one thing, but either nobody knows or wants to help you. Those are in good places, do not want to be associated with people beneath them, and people at my level, either also don't know, or would use others as a stepping stone to become better.

For some, asking and reaching out for help and not getting an answer or another hand to help you up, is among the worst experiences you can possibly have as a human being.

My depression and suicidal thoughts are not because I'm incapable of envisioning a good future. Mine are coming that I have goals, but nobody can help me get there, especially when I don't know how.

[pixelqube]

Ive done exactly this when i look at the ways to do something and find someone whos good at it and ask :)

[TheHigherFury]

This works for asking for raises too
"I don't feel like I'm getting what I deserve/need for my work. I'd like to get in X pay range/ X career path. Can you help me get there?"

[christopherlamott]

My problem in asking for help is that I feel it is wrong to burden other people with something I can solve myself. And I feel, even if it's really hard or going to take me twenty times longer to handle it myself, that I can do literally anything/everything.

At the same time, I know that per much everyone around me wants to help and will try if given the chance.

It is really hard for me to ask.

[miltankk]

When I point out my deficiencies, most of the time people would mock right away. Didn’t even get a chance to ask for help. I wasn’t even done talking when they start mocking

[hungrymusicwolf]

I was taught how to ask for help through people's words. Then taught not to do it through their actions.

[devilsadvocacy]

Asking for help is one thing. Getting it is quite another entirely