Complex Trauma, Distortions and the Worst Case Scenario

Growing up in Complex Trauma, a child will grow up to believe the distortions about themselves and the world around them, as presented by their parents, guardians or other authority figures. Ways that they see themselves, value themselves, and connect with others will become their new “normal”. This adaptation or limitation by the brain also often includes jumping to the worst-case scenario.

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[peekablue]

I cannot thank you enough for these videos. Your series on complex trauma is helping me work through it better than anything else I've tried so far.

[meganbrewster]

I think the "worst case scenario thinking" is one of the worst symptoms of CPTSD! I struggle with it but now I have awareness when I'm in it and try to redirect before spending days in a spiral. To think I just lived in that state all the time. Not even knowing there was a name for it. Just thought it was life. :(

[abbykoop]

Wow. Yeah, my mom told me that all their financial and marital problems were my fault. In my 30's I told my dad and he laughed and said it wasn't true. But it still messed with my brain. I seem to always go directly to worst case scenario.

[OSEGREDODESHERAZADE]

It's really amazing the accuracy with which you describe how I function. God bless you, thank you for all these videos, they are helping me like nothing else has ❤

[theresaklehr]

EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE BEEN THROUGH ALL MY LIFE! GOD BLESS YOU FOR SHARING THIS TRUTH...GOD BLESS YOU

[HaHaroni]

I never cared about what my parents thought or didn't think. I was too busy trying to win the favor of my abuser, my brother. Never did win that.
So, in the end, no parents and no brother.

[Moon-gdnn]

Your videos are helping me find myself in my 50s. Thank you for sharing all your knowledge. 🙏

[shirkiahbull]

Great timing Tim. Lately been spinning about events that “could” happen my brain just automatically goes to what can go wrong,

[jfdc]

This man takes complicated, confusing issues and distills them down to make them not only understandable but also touching and heart opening. He’s a master! So grateful for him!

[susanmercurio]

It not ALWAYS true that YOU BELIEVE THAT. Too many therapists repeat that to their clients and they drill that idea into the heads of the clients.
Why don't you ask your clients if they feel that way instead of telling them that that's the way they feel?

[doranvee]

My father because of his own issues, took out his problems on his wife and kids. Though not intentional, he greated another generation of people with unresolved complex trauma. Like a generational curse.

[sandrahbradley]

This causes self sabatage, if the worst hasn't happened you'll go looking for it, its terrible 😔.

[sarahb.]

But its not just the family that raised you. Its all the kids at school that bully you and ostracize you. Its the other people who reject you as an adult too. So these other people only reinforces what the family taught you. How are you supposed to change the thought pattern when others keep reinforcing it?? I mean you are getting bullied + rejected decades later.

[PattiHerbertPoppy]

Certainly has been true of me but as you heal and grow, you begin to see the world as it really is and work towards contributing to positive change

[CynthiaSchoenbauer]

Thank you! This is so true about beliefs full of distortions and lies for me. This makes me rethink some of my assumptions that I jumped to out of trauma.

[BravosReviews]

Why did you have to go and start talking about Jesus. I mean I was just getting into your content as it was hitting home so much and then you had to go and present yourself as preaching adjacent.

One of the most egregious traumatizing organizations on earth and one of the largest sanctuaries of narcissistic abuse is Christianity.

Any culture can permanently enshrine the narcissists bad behaviors as “just part of their culture” by simply saying it’s part of their church or culture.

If there is a god she would be disgusted with religion and most especially with Jesus followers. How ANY of them can still associate themselves with that organization after knowing what we know feels like they’re sanctioning the bad behavior.

You LEAVE bad systems. You don’t continue to give them a pass by staying,

[stephbyerly]

Thank you so much Tim! I have watched literally hundreds of videos (books too) and you explain things better than anyone else. Your grasp on these things astonish me.

I also appreciate you separating out the religious part at the end. I grew up Presbyterian, and I'd say their shaming is right up there with Catholicism. They also abandoned me when i needed them most so i became anti-religion, then agnostic, then pagan, then atheist, then agnostic again, and I'm now re-exploring spirituality.

I suffered sexual abuse at the hands of older boys in my youth group because we were not properly chaperoned by the leaders. After that I became rebellious and hypersexual, and rather than seeing my cries for help, those same leaders abandoned me as "a bad seed."

I appreciate the way you reframe certain religious teachings and Bible stories. Even if I never again call myself a Christian, these stories are still helpful as illustrative parables and myths. And it also helps me to understand how they were used and misused as abusive weapons in the church, and to heal that part as well.

I really feel strongly that religious leaders need so much more training in psychology, and need to go through psychotherapy themselves so as not a traumatize their parishioners. Spiritual leaders need as much training as medical doctors, and really a lot more because it's so important.

[andriajohnston]

Thank you for these videos. They help so many. I also told my therapist and psychiatrist about you and how you're helping me through these videos.

[CarolDenbow-rh]

Thank you for taking time to explain all this

[kaystephens]

Yeah. Only my perfect cousins mattered. Why even try. Its like a stumbling block. Always the winners. But every dog has his day.