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Let me ask you something are you jealous of your partner's past like you can't stop thinking about it like it's all you ever think about i'm gonna be straight up with you probably tell you some things that you don't want to hear but you really need to hear so if you aren't ready for some tough love click the back button on your browser but if you're ready and think you can handle it stick around welcome back to another video for those of you new to my channel my name is matt and in this video we're going to be discussing being jealous of your partner's past and how to really get over it once and for all uh now there is a name for being jealous over your partner's past and it's called retroactive jealousy and this is actually a condition that a lot of people suffer from so you're not alone in that sense so don't feel like you are a lot of people suffer there's not a ton of information out there on it unfortunately but there are a few of us out there that are trying to spread the word and help people out so um again for those of you new to the channel I have about 30 or 40 videos on this subject so after you're done with this and you still want some more information please feel free to check them out so let's dive right into this okay uh retroactive jealousy means you are having intrusive unwanted thoughts of your partner's past and this could be past sexual history past relationships past anything really but usually it has to do you know around sex love relationships and you know things of that nature um for some it's extremely severe my mine was when I suffered from it I had it for more than 13 years and it was all I ever thought about all i ever thought about i'd play movies in my head trying to piece together the scenarios you know i'd think about the same stuff over and over and over again and try to rationalize it and all I wanted to do was you know ask questions and figure things out and uh go on social media and i'll you know try to find the answers to to to calm some of that pain and and here's the thing firstly none of that stuff works um and secondly there is a cure so this isn't forever uh don't worry about that in the least bit and the thing of it is though retroactive jealousy and this type of relationship jealousy can be somewhat complex I mean there's several factors of retro jealousy there's like the ocd factor where you know you just can't think about it you think about it over and over again and there's ways to help with that and um i'll put a link um above with with another video to kind of help with that because this video is going to explore this on a deeper level so I understand if you know that's your problem as you're having these obsessive thoughts and so you know you want to get rid of that as soon as possible but since you've gotten this far in this video I would watch the rest of this one now and if you still need a little bit more information on the obsessive thoughts part again i'll link up above but i'll also link the actual playlist to everything at the end of this video so that can take you to more videos on the subject so if you here we go um if you are really plagued by thoughts of your partner's past um you need to know that it is completely internal it has nothing to do with external circumstances as much as you don't want to agree with that i get it but you know so if you think things like oh I should date a virgin you know it wouldn't be a problem it would become a problem okay it would and you might say well how how would it be a problem you know all I think about is my partner having sex with someone else from their past so if they were virgin i would never think about that anymore and i'd be cured but here's the.....

[Azulaz]

I came to this video struggling recently with feelings I’ve never felt for someone ever in my entire life. When I realized I really fell in love with someone I started paying attention to every little thing they did and overthinking and getting jealous about their past their exes ect and comparing. Then I realized why I came to this video in the first place I’m trying to find healing for the first person I’ve ever loved, trying to be better for myself, him and others. I really appreciate this Video because eveytime im alone or he’s not around and I get in my feelings and like to overthink I come back to this and it’s a sense of security now and provides me with a sense of peace and comfort especially reading other people comments that I feel like I have written because my thoughts compare to theirs so much. I am not alone and neither is anyone else, thank you for this video it was really touching and helpful❤️

[MrCarlosbaq]

I've been suffering from this issue for 8 months; it's a nightmare. I've been in therapy with a psychologist, read books on the subject, and I'm practicing meditation and yoga. All of this has helped me. I realized that I'm not alone and that this is a relatively common issue, but very few people choose to confront it. I decided to face it because I'm in love and because my rational side tells me that she is not to blame for anything, that her past is just that (the past), and that in our current relationship, she has been almost perfect. Her love is a gift to me. I'm also aware that I got myself into this mess by asking questions and digging into things (something I deeply regret). I want to fight against this, and I am doing it and will continue to do so. Amidst all this, I am grateful because this is a gigantic opportunity to grow and evolve mentally and spiritually. RJ (Retroactive Jealousy) is merely a manifestation of an internal void from our childhood or adolescence. It's a pleasure to meet you all, and to you, thank you so much for your videos. You are brave, and from this side, I look at you and say if you could do it, so can I. I know it's easier to run away, but if we are here, it's because we decided to fight, and by God, we will succeed.

[nabeelmagsoosi]

This is the first video I clicked on since I realized that I crossed a line in my relationship, seeing other people going through Retroactive jealousy and overcoming it really gave me a sense or relief.

Thank you for putting time into this.

[madmechanic]

I feel like I missed Her best years sometimes.
I feel resentment, and Sadness about it.
I regret not waiting for Her, I wish She felt the same.

[jamalazero]

You absolutely nailed this. It feels like such an isolated jealousy but if I weren’t jealous over this, it’d take form in something else, if I wasn’t jealous over serious past relationships, I’d be jealous about smaller things like a kiss or something meaningless. Thank you for these videos!

[angelajia]

I’m very jealous of my current partner’s past. I feel so bad when I start to imagine that they were having sex etc. I’m a woman and yes I do have a little bit OCD in other areas... e.g. I have to put things in a certain order... but not severe... I must work on this very issue coz 1. I do not want to be a jealous drama queen. 2. I do not want to drive him away. In the actual fact, I have had more relationships in the past than him. Plus he is genuinely in love with me. He is a wonderful man. Seriously retroactive jealousy is a horrible thing. It just doesn’t make sense.

[feministawry]

He's addressing jealousy, but, what about disgust?
As a man if a woman has been with many partners I get DISGUSTED

[TheKMxperience]

WOW!!! I felt like you was speaking to me directly...I’m going through this now and I thought about cheating...it hurts cuz you’ll look at her and NEVER think she’ll do something like what she did in her past and when she told me I died a little inside and your video just help me look at things differently

[eddiebaby]

First I've ever heard of it and put a name to it. I've been with my partner 30 years and I still think of her with her previous partners. It been one of the worse things in my life all those years. Ive really had some bad times because of it and still do. It's a massive thing I've had to live with. I have suffered depression because of it.

[graceleeheart]

For me it’s not the relationship. It’s the hook ups. It makes me feel like my relationship with this is nothing more then a quick one for them. I get angry and I ghost or give short answers.

[salmahosam]

Thank you so much for making this video. I've been stuck in the RJ maze for two years now. It's torture. A never-ending nightmare. You're right about everything. I don't have a very interesting life so I rely on my partner to give me happiness and obsess over him. So I might need to focus on myself for a bit and work on my own life. This was very helpful. So once again, thank you!

[keaurban]

Matt. I almost feel as if you've saved my life in some way. Being 45 years old, this is the first time I've heard someone say and explain the EXACT same things I've experienced/thought/felt, but never knew why or how to deal with them. You've given me new hope. Hope to be able to be happy, to get rid of those nagging and draining thoughts and behaviors I've had, probably all my life. A huge thank you. Thank you.

[UnlockYourWellness]

Thank you for this. Knowing other people are going through this is helping me tremendously. Now I know I’m not crazy, I just need to put in the work.

[mistybaker]

I do the exact same thing in my relationship. I try to piece together things in my head and honestly it drives me crazy. I wish I could stop with the unwanted thoughts and obsession about my partners past relationships.

[keevanporter]

God bless you bro, this helped me for real. You have to be happy with yourself first, if you’re thinking that deep into your partner that means you’re putting to much into them. Idolizing your partner instead of loving them in a healthy way . This was a good help

[yiwanye]

this is so therapeutic. It's done in a such practical and sensitive manner; God bless you!

[mikey]

I started feeling retrospective jealousy because she lied about something in the beginning. So I kicked her to the curb!

[GingerLeigh-hdqx]

What if you’re not jealous but disgusted?… 🙁

[cruz]

For me it’s feels like her past is better then her being with me .. that’s why I get upset so bad

[andrewmutters]

Thank you for making these! I’ve dealt with RJ for years, and caused so many problems with my wife of over 25 years. I’m very grateful that she’s stuck with me, and she deserves the best from me and our relationship. I need this to be better for both myself and our relationship