Why Narcissists Mirror You (A Super Weird Trait)

Why Narcissists Mirror You (A Super Weird Trait)//It's most likely that you began your relationship with a seemingly great person feeling good and thankful that you've met someone you're compatible with, someone exactly like you. Eventually though, you see the early warning signs that you are dealing with a narcissist. You see them copying you and mirroring almost everything you do then suddenly act like they hate you. So you ask: WHAT THE HECK IS HAPPENING? In this video, Rebecca Zung, top attorney and narcissist negotiation expert, explains why narcissists copy you and the reasons behind this toxic relationship pattern.
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🎓What you’ll learn in the webinar:
The 3 empowering secrets you need to take back control when communicating with narcissists.
How to develop a winning, foolproof strategy to drive the outcome you want out of negotiations with narcissists.
How to be more powerful, persuasive and confident when negotiating with narcs.
What to say in negotiation and how to say it so that you can beat narcs at their own game!
How to anticipate what the narcissist will do and be two steps ahead of them at all times.

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About Rebecca Zung:
✅Rebecca Zung is one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation, having been recognized by U.S. News & World Report as a “Best Lawyer in America”, as “Legal Elite” by Trend Magazine, and recognized by her peers and the judiciary as AV(c), preeminent rated in family law, the highest possible rating for an attorney by Martindale Hubbell.

✅But her journey wasn’t always easy. She got married at 19, had 3 children and divorced at the age of 23. She was a divorced single mom when she decided to go back to law school. She went from being a single mom, college dropout, to becoming one the most powerful lawyers in the country at the helm of a multi-million dollar practice. She is now committed to sharing her secrets and empowering others to live their lives at their optimum level of success, professionally and personally.

✅She is the author of the bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom, and is a sought after major media contributor.

✅She has been featured in Extra, Forbes, Huffington Post, Newsweek, Time, Dr. Drew, NPR Talk Radio, Good Day New York and CBS Los Angeles among others. She is the host of the popular show Negotiate Your Best Life™ which is available on YouTube and as a Top Podcast. She is also a frequent keynote speaker.

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Disclaimer: The commentary and opinions are for informational purposes only and not for the purpose of providing legal advice. You should contact an attorney in your state to obtain legal advice with respect to any particular issue or problem.

[RebeccaZungEsq]

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[imabeliever]

The more intelligent, skillful narcissists can also mirror your opinions, thoughts, theories, practices and attitudes to bond with you and gain your attention to build a strong connection. It's like an intellectual love bomb.

[BA-vxgb]

Narcissists mirror you ! Then they punish you just for being you !!!!

[lisegittens]

Very creepy how they mirror. I hate that people brush it off as 'flattering', it's NOT! You know, it's not based on how it feels. If it feels off, it's because it IS!

[TessZolly]

Yes. The “imitation is the most sincere form of flattery” feels very gaslighty. It starts as your clothes, then it’s your ideas, your personality, then your business or your partner. Whatever they want.

[zxs]

Yes . Stealing, mimicking, copying! It’s too weird, not flattering and bizarre! Coping my second language terminology. Copying very specific behaviors. Copying very personal fashion styles. Copying very specific personal details. Copying my language.
I very much needed this validation. They make you feel so uncomfortable & so confused.

[teddyduchamp]

They try to be you and devalue you at the same time. So weird and confusing. Very toxic.

[kevinprovenzano]

Agree, agree, agree… eating habits, dress, hobbies… they will copy anything. If they were not so lazy, they could accomplish what they hate you for.

[goldilocks]

It is a way to manipulate the manipulator: if you start to suspect this mirroring is getting out of hand: tell them something totally untrue about yourself and see if they mirror it. If disordered, they will because they will implement their intellectual empathy. They won’t be able to tell there is no emotion or sincerity behind it on your part. This was how I finally caught on. Absolutely no one has EVERYTHING in common with you 🙄🤦‍♀️

[marniegrohs]

Narcissists want to be you as their image while they smear you as them. That’s important to remember because everything they accuse you of they’re doing and everything they say you think, feel, motives (which can be very hurtful) is how they think, feel and their motives. So if your trying to understand why, get closure, write down their repeated comments from beginning to end, it tells a whole story. Stuff they say about somebody else is what they did to that other person and what they have planned for you. The recovery process is so hard because you are processing what they said is you so you go down a rabbit hole looking to find they were always talking about themselves. The good person, with morals they make themselves out to be is the only time they are talking about you.

[helloworld-nsvg]

My experience with being mirrored was about stealing my identity. They are empty inside without their own personality or with a disgusting personality. They are attracted to the positive nuances and acceptance of self and other’s opinions of the person that they are emulating .

[mikeysmoooth]

It’s super weird, happened to me and as soon as they pick up on my sayings or actions or other things they went straight to devaluing me. Isn’t that crazy?

[Ken-Mar]

Super creepy! The narc in my family would copy my fashion style, ideas, home decor but always say “I was thinking about doing it” to validate her behavior and make it seem like she set the path for the idea. Of course, she would tweak it just a little so that it wouldn’t be exactly the same. Usually by “upping” me. It really played with my mind and self esteem because she would look ridiculous trying to “up” me. BUT it really made me wonder if I looked ridiculous even though many people would compliment me. It’s interesting how they plant the seed of self doubt in others.

[pearlsemedo]

Agree! There is nothing flattering coming in contact with someone like this. She definitely got caught. Action speaks louder then words. She might of mimic my words, try to dress like me, even brought a wig with the same hair style I had but she was unable to mimic the light I shine. She was unable to mimic the way I eat, the activities I maintained or move the way I move in life. She was a chronic copycat and I ended the friendship.

[victormartines]

My narcissist mirrored some of my personality traits but not all. But when she moved to one of her future supplies she tried to pass herself off as a southern rebel chick when she was born and raised in Massachusetts which I found hilarious.

[lucid]

It is really sad because of the confusion between narcissists that mirror who they're with and highly sensitive people and empaths who also mirror. But they do so for very different reasons. I mirror people all the time but it's because I'm tuning in to them deeply in order to empathize with them. I learn A LOT from this and am always surprised with those who turn on me like an angry animal. They're basically looking at their self in me and can't handle it.

[writer]

Agree! I worked with a covert narcissist who copied the way I dress, from my glasses down to the dresses/skirts I would wear. And then she used that image and fake-niceness to gain two flying monkeys on our team (I basically lost two friends). No one noticed her two-faced behavior nor sudden change in attire but me, and it was odd, need I say disgusting, and insulting. This is definitely proof that these types of people have not only zero sense of self, but they know they're not normal/healthy, so they have to copy others in order to fit in.

[sylviaamodeo]

Agree. It's weird. Many co-workers mirrored me as well. I choose to take it as a compliment, and have a little giggle to myself.

[Phoenix-sqcr]

I innocently mentioned a business idea to some coworkers at lunch, everyone giggled at it . I had a coworker that was training me, tell me my exact business idea and name of the business excitedly. I asked can I help with that? she all of a sudden looked very angry 😡 and said no in this low voice . Like a demon .
I don’t know if it’s disrespecting as she seemed to have convinced herself the idea was hers, which indicates a madness . Someone said they try to steal from you because they think you’re weak . What I don’t understand is why would you want to morph into someone you see as weak . My feeling is that they don’t steal from empty houses and they’re trying to steal your recipe for success because they see you will be blessed in the future and are trying to imitate you as if they can steal your destiny, but this can never be . I think it’s a demonic tactic .

[tinathompson]

Agree! My mother would copy me. My haircut and way I dressed the way I talked. Everything. I ALSO thought it was weird and tried to tell people and NO one believed me. I styled and had my cut my mother copied it to a Tee. Everyone thought I copied her! Made me solo mad. That was just one example