Divorce Is Not Bad

Why do we speak of divorce with such a negative tone? In this video I share my thoughts on the way we define divorce.

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Dr. Shefali is a NYT bestselling author of The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. She is also a clinical psychologist, an international speaker and a wisdom teacher, integrating Eastern philosophy with Western psychology.

[carolehcheng]

Thank you Dr. Shefali for this video and the truth you showed us. This clears my mind regarding what I am currently going through, that scary "d" word. To me, the divorce is the necessary process to heal my wounds from childhood and to say goodbye to the people-pleasing inauthenticity and to use my own ultimate strength as a whole person. I am 43 and finally I start to live my life as me.

[Ada_Isabella]

5 years of severe guilt and shame over being the person who left my marriage and therefore destroyed my daughter’s happiness forever - this has literally been my internal dialogue for the last 5 years. And now, to hear this message...??? I have no words to describe the way I feel and how GRATEFUL I am for these 3 minutes.

I’ve been wanting to write a book about divorce and offer an alternative perspective for people who feel the same as me, and I may just need to do that. Thank you, thank you, thank you Dr Shefali!
🙏🙏🙏

[Beingcocreator]

I love the way she explains divorce as positive growth and not as a faliure sometimes when both the partner could remain frnds but no longer wanna continue as partners, i think marriage is all about to be in harmony with each others ideas and helping each other grow.. And ofcourse romance too...

[Onajourney]

I was villified for getting divorced and honestly, it was the best thing I did!! I'm now married to a man that is good for my soul.

[kkiaora]

This help me a lot. I used your video in my debate presentation about legalization of divorce in the Philippines.

[sasyak]

Thank you shefali for making this video. Wherever we see anything about divorce in media is so negative. We want to come out of that negativity that’s the reason we are divorcing again the same things showing up which in-fact people will doubt whether to divorce or not. I read your book ( radical awakening) and it’s very very enlightening and I personally felt every women should read it. I appreciate your help and incredible work your doing.

[krainey]

I needed to hear those wise words thank you Shefali

[supreetsingh]

You're so empowering, Dr. Shefali ❤
God bless you 💕😇🙏
More power and love to you 😍🤩

[inout]

The kind of women the world needs. Full of beauty. Full of wisdom!

[karanmora]

I needed it now....great words, am going through that.

[katarinaogilvie]

And relationship breakdowns in general.

[bricris]

You just answered all of my fears thank you 🙏!

[joebiden]

I don't get why people are scared of divorce, my parents got divorced 7 years ago, and I was unfazed. It might just be my hyperactive attitude where I'm almost always happy. If you have divorced parents, (preferably if they've been divorced for a while, ) how did you feel when you found out, and how do you feel now?

[travelguy]

Just ask any 10 year old how they feel about Divorce - it's bad! The REAL problem is that many people don't know how to "help their marriage grow", it's not just automatic in life!

[sohamyogaindia]

Why are most people so bitter around divorces like it's thier business especially in India?

[jameskiwanukakatendenkuubi]

It is a little limiting to tie your growth/happiness or blame your lack of growth or lack of happiness on another human being. Secondly I think divorce is something to be avoided if possible. There are situations where it will happen, but there maybe many situations where all it takes to save a marriage is understanding alignment in a relationship and learning to integrate impulses and desires. This can be useful in other relationships, not just marriage. I think this video is too short to give a complete picture of what divorce means and the impact it can have due to the strong bonds that have been built over time. One may leave with the impression that divorce is something to be glorified. It is not guaranteed that you will be happier or experience growth after divorce.

[SativaSeanLasVegas]

As of 2018, only 6 men per 1, 000 were getting married today; as of 2022, probably less than 4. Thank God. The entire institution of marriage needs to be dissolved, it has outlived it's usefulness to society, it is an archaic practice that makes women miserable and men financially crippled. Co-habitation or simple hook ups are adequate moving forward.

[rimpizg]

i am suffered from very bed situation ..but still afraid of the word..nobody can imagin how far i took the toxic ..but still afraid of the word..because there is something deep in my mind to fear distance memoires ..is it ok or not i don't know..but i cant tell anybody about my feelings.so here i am writing .

[spiritualopenbay]

"Just the end of a PHASE." Thank you, it helps.

[djuanejackson]

The Divorce itself was a process i had to learn to live with however the Financial loss aspects i.e. with legal fees, 401K split, child support etc. almost killed me more! Men have to deal with this being one of the hardest parts of the process with having a Divorce. 10 yrs later i have peace more mind now but the thought of all the Financial burdens i had to experience still gives me nightmares!!